Tag: sex advice

I had sex for the first time 2 days ago, we were both a little drunk but still, he used condoms the whole time. He went out a little rough and I thought it was normal for me not being able to walk for a few days (btw, I didn’t bleed since I broke my hymen from previous fingering long ago), but today I noticed I was lightly bleeding, and yesterday I felt like a pinch in my uterus. Was i ovulating or its the spotting thing when you get pregnant?

It’s aways possible that you’re pregnant, but it’s been TWO DAYS, so I say it’s highly unlikely and you’re worrying too much. You can’t even take a pregnancy test yet. I’m sure you’re just ovulating, that’s what it sounds like, but if you’re that concerned, take a home pregnancy test in a few days to see.

On a side note, you should not have had so much pain in the following days! You’re usually sore the next day or so, but that’s it. He was definitely way too rough with you, not even for a first timer – for anyone! If you were in pain when you walked for DAYS after…that’s not normal. Especially when you already had your hymen torn so it’s purely a muscular issue where you’d be sore because the walls of your vaginal channel had to stretch in a way they never have before.

This all comes down to the fact that you should have experience very little discomfort, not major discomfort like you’re describing. I don’t know what it is you guys did, but I really advise you take it easier if you have sex with him again.

To the girl that wanted to come out as bi, just thought I’d share my experience. I’m almost 17 and I came out to my mum last summer. She still doesn’t believe me. She isn’t biphobic, she just doesn’t think I can know until I’ve started dating, even though I’ve known since I was about 11. My point is even if she takes it well get ready for a lot of judging, and ‘are you sure’ and ‘it’s just your hormones’. It can be hard to convince people literally right up until you come home with a girlfriend.

So true. This is extremely common. People have a hard time understanding the fluidity of sexuality when it’s been branded into our heads that it HAS to be one or the other. No “in between”.

That’s why I don’t even like the term “bisexual”. People fall in love with people. It has nothing to do with gender. I feel like it’s easier to understand when you think about it in those terms.

Thanks for sharing!

hi, i’m a girl. and recently I broke up with my gf, we were dating for six moths,I feel bad and lost without her. I feel I can survive without her, but i don’t want to, she was like everything to me, and I just screwed everything up,it’s shitty. I guess, we broke up because I wanted too much from her, I pressed on her,and I know my fault, I know her fault. So, how do you think, do I have a chance to get her back? also, she said her feelings is not so strong how it used to be, and just idk. help?

You can survive without her and you will, even if it feels like you’re drowning without her. It’s not true, you’re not actually drowning, it only feels that way. And it won’t feel like that forever.

Time helps. You need time. You’ll start to breathe normally again and you’ll live your life and spend time with your family and your friends and someday you’ll realize you moved on. You’ll realize that it doesn’t hurt as much anymore. You’ll find someone else, something that I know seems like it’s impossible and something that you don’t even want in the least, but the point is that there is a future for you without her. You’re so young. I promise you, it hurts for a while, but it gets better.

Don’t try to get her back. Why do you want someone back who says they don’t even feel as strongly about you as they used to? You have to know when to let go, when to recognize that a relationship is ending and should end. Accept it, grieve for it, and then move on.

You are strong enough to get through this. Heartbreak helps you understand and appreciate love far more than those who have never had their hearts broken. It’s a way of life and it’s getting you one step closer to finding the person you ARE meant to be with.

I’ve been trying to have sex for a year now, I’m a virgin. And every single time my nerves make it impossible. I push the guy away and shut down. I really want to have this with someone. It’s not normal. What do I do?

When you’re ready to have sex, when you feel comfortable with your partner, when you trust them, when you trust yourself…that’s when it will happen.

You’re trying to force things when you’re not really ready. Your reaction is telling you exactly what’s going on and that’s simply that you’re not ready yet. Why do you keep trying to put this on yourself when it’s so clear that you just need more time and you need to find the right person?

Relax. Stop “trying to have sex”. Just get to know people, flirt, date, make out, have fun! Sex will happen when you’re ready for it. You won’t have to “try” anything. Your mind and your body will accept it when you’re ready to accept it.

When will that be? No idea. But it won’t be forever. Just step back and enjoy your life as it is. Stop trying to force things. It’ll only end badly if you do. You’ll share this with someone when it’s the right someone and you’re at a stage in your life where you’re ready to let yourself share it.

Could you give me advice?? I’m 16 (girl) and I need to tell my mum I’m bisexual but don’t know how? She has always said she doesn’t have anything against same love but she some times takes the piss about it as well,what should I do or say to her to make her understand I’m still the same and haven’t changed one bit, need advice xx

It’s a bit tricky explaining to parents about bisexuality. I would try dropping hints first, prepare her for this instead of having it be a shock. Mention how you find this girl/that girl attractive. Talk about your views on sexuality, see how she reacts to the subject of bisexuality and if she’s resistant to it, then explain to her how you think it works.

You never have to talk about yourself, just hypotheticals and/or other people. When you’re ready, and you feel it’s the right moment, come out and tell her everything. There’s no need to rush.

If you’re dating a girl currently, then that’s another story. You would definitely want to speed up the timetable and be honest with your Mom about who you’re with.

But if there’s no one really in the picture, you can take your time and ease into the whole thing. Bisexuality is a gray area that many people don’t like, accept, or understand. If it’s not black or white, it’s a scary unknown, and of course it is human nature to fear and resist the unknown.

When it comes to bisexuality, for a lot of people, it takes a while for the concept to sink in and for them to accept it – longer than even homosexuality would. Being gay, while it’s not without it’s prejudices as always, it’s a CONCRETE sexuality. Bisexuality is still just a very confusing concept for people who can’t fathom how you can float from one gender to the other. The world is still very close-minded. That’s not to say that your Mom won’t understand or never will understand, I’m just giving you fair warning that it may take some time after you come out for her to REALLY absorb the information.

How do you know if you are in love with someone? I’m in a long distance relationship&my “boyfriend” says he’s in love me And that scares the hell out me because I don’t know if I’m in love with him.. We’ve been dating over a year&I still don’t know..

If you don’t know after a year whether or not you’re in love with someone, then you actually do know the answer…

Is it normal that I am 16 and I masturbate every day? Should I wind down? Do it less? Is it okay/normal that my vagina is red after it? (Probably from all the rubbing) that goes on there while things are in action.. help! I’m a bit worried ..

Totally normal! You’re fine! Don’t worry so much.Masturbating is a healthy and fun activity. Plus, it’s always better to learn as much as you can about your body to prepare for future sexual encounters. Practice makes perfect!

Some women have a vagina that “blushes” more noticeably so, yes, redness is normal as well. As long as there’s no itching or rash involved – just red from stimulation.

Carry on, soldier! 😉

What do I do with foreskin while giving a guy head or a hand job? Does it come up and down with whatever motion I’m doing or do I just push it to the bottom and try to avoid it or what? Thanks <3

Foreskin isn’t anything to worry about. It’s a natural part of the penis. It’ll go along with whatever you’re doing. 😉 It’s actually easier to give a handjob to a guy who’s uncut because you don’t need as much lube, the foreskin is a natural way for you to slide your hand up and down. Just take care not to be OVERLY rough because if you pull it back too far, that’s painful. So take it slow and see how he reacts, then you can up the pace!

Some ideas…

– If you hold the shaft and move up and down, the foreskin will slide up and down over the head.

– You can also pull the foreskin down below the head of the penis, then use short strokes up and down keeping the head exposed.

– One more… You can pull the foreskin all the way up so it covers the head, use short strokes with one hand, and finger/play around with the bunched up foreskin using your free hand.

As always, the best way to give someone pleasure is to ask them what they like. Everybody likes something different so treat each and every guy as a learning experience. Ask him to show you what he likes, how he wants you to do it. It can be really hot to see him touch himself and it’s great for you to know exactly how to please him (and throw in a few personal touches of your own to surprise him!).

Play around with it. Explore. Have fun! Don’t be afraid of foreskin! It’s not an alien. It’s just an extra couple of inches of skin. THAT’S IT.

so im bi and i recently made out w/ another girl. we were friends prior and had both openly expressed that we wanted to. she was the first person id ever properly kissed and overall it was just… gross :( she would stick her tounge too far into my mouth and then just leave it there and it (her tongue) was almost //slobbery//. after like .3 secs i had opened my eyes and was looking at her waiting for it to end. she was really into it, which makes me worry; is all kissing like that?

NO. All kissing is not like that. You just, unfortunately, had a bad first experience. Dead tongue is horrible!

She’s just not the right match. Kiss more people! Practice makes perfect, but chemistry wins out above all. So it’s always going to be the PERSON that makes the kiss explosive, not just technique alone.

Learn from this experience, you know what NOT to do now. 😉

I have a really sensitive clit and I don’t last very long while masturbating (I know it doesn’t really affect my partner) but is there any way I can prolong my orgasm? Whenever I try to go slow it seems like I can’t find the right spot? I’m talking only minutes to get off. I checked your sex advice page and I didn’t find anything along the lines of it. Thank you!

Wait, you’re complaining about orgasming TOO QUICKLY?

Hun…YOU’RE A WOMAN, NOT A MAN. Have fucking 10 orgasms then! 20!!! Why on earth would you stop at one??? Have them over and over and over again! Our bodies are built for it!

YOU’VE BEEN GIVEN A GIFT! USE IT!!!!!!