Could you give me advice?? I’m 16 (girl) and I need to tell my mum I’m bisexual but don’t know how? She has always said she doesn’t have anything against same love but she some times takes the piss about it as well,what should I do or say to her to make her understand I’m still the same and haven’t changed one bit, need advice xx

It’s a bit tricky explaining to parents about bisexuality. I would try dropping hints first, prepare her for this instead of having it be a shock. Mention how you find this girl/that girl attractive. Talk about your views on sexuality, see how she reacts to the subject of bisexuality and if she’s resistant to it, then explain to her how you think it works.

You never have to talk about yourself, just hypotheticals and/or other people. When you’re ready, and you feel it’s the right moment, come out and tell her everything. There’s no need to rush.

If you’re dating a girl currently, then that’s another story. You would definitely want to speed up the timetable and be honest with your Mom about who you’re with.

But if there’s no one really in the picture, you can take your time and ease into the whole thing. Bisexuality is a gray area that many people don’t like, accept, or understand. If it’s not black or white, it’s a scary unknown, and of course it is human nature to fear and resist the unknown.

When it comes to bisexuality, for a lot of people, it takes a while for the concept to sink in and for them to accept it – longer than even homosexuality would. Being gay, while it’s not without it’s prejudices as always, it’s a CONCRETE sexuality. Bisexuality is still just a very confusing concept for people who can’t fathom how you can float from one gender to the other. The world is still very close-minded. That’s not to say that your Mom won’t understand or never will understand, I’m just giving you fair warning that it may take some time after you come out for her to REALLY absorb the information.