Tag: sexuality

I think the straight guy needs a reality check and to stop calling himself “a straight guy”. Just enjoy the bj.

I really don’t like labels. You can’t put everything into a box. You can be attracted to guys without wanting to have sex with them. There’s such a broad and intricate spectrum of sexuality that it’s ludicrous to think that you can identify and label each person’s individual sexual desires.

And I especially don’t like the label “homosexual biromantic” because it’s just another way of saying you have strong feelings for someone that aren’t sexual. Gee. What’s another word for that? FRIENDS! Enough with the labels, just feel what you want to feel, have sex with who you want to have sex with, and be with who you want to be with.

It’s making us 10000x more neurotic as a society to hurriedly try and slap a label on everyone and put them in a box to categorize us by sexuality and that’s absurd. You can’t sort the entire human race like we’re a box of chocolates.

STOP TRYING TO DEFINE YOUR SEXUALITY. IT’S NOT IMPORTANT. THE PEOPLE YOU LOVE, WHOEVER AND WHATEVER GENDER THEY ARE, ARE THE IMPORTANT ONES. OKAY!?

When they have sex.

Whatever form of sex they choose, oral, fingering, scissoring, any of it, is when they lose their “virginity”. Heterosexual sex is defined by penetration, but that’s not all there is to sex! So, for lesbians, it’s what they personally define as “sex”. Not all lesbians agree on what crosses the line from foreplay to sex, it’s a subjective circumstance. So it’s different for each couple.

You’re basically describing a straight woman’s attitude about women. They appreciate the female body and can say how attractive/gorgeous/sexy/beautiful another woman is without worrying about whether or not that makes them a lesbian. It’s appreciating good looks! It makes no difference if it’s men or women! You can appreciate beauty without needing to fuck it.

Unfortunately this is very much a stigma society places on us. If you’re gay, you can only find men having sex hot. If you’re straight, you can only find a man and a woman having sex hot. If you’re a lesbian, you can only find two women having sex hot.

That. Is. The. Dumbest. Bullshit. Ever.

Gay men appreciate the beauty of women and, often, in the media, they’re the main ones critiquing them. Interesting hypocrisy there, hm? They’re not sexually attracted to women, but they’re the “foremost authority” of fashion and beauty in the media? But wait! They’re gay! *gasp* Horrors! They should be repelled by women! How can they know who’s beautiful and who’s not? They’re supposed to think they’re ogres because they don’t want to have sex with them!

Do you see my point? Why is it any different for you to appreciate the hotness of a hot guy? You don’t want to have sex with him, you just know he’s gorgeous!

Acknowledging good looks means you have eyes. It has nothing to do with your sexuality.

So true. This is extremely common. People have a hard time understanding the fluidity of sexuality when it’s been branded into our heads that it HAS to be one or the other. No “in between”.

That’s why I don’t even like the term “bisexual”. People fall in love with people. It has nothing to do with gender. I feel like it’s easier to understand when you think about it in those terms.

Thanks for sharing!

It’s a bit tricky explaining to parents about bisexuality. I would try dropping hints first, prepare her for this instead of having it be a shock. Mention how you find this girl/that girl attractive. Talk about your views on sexuality, see how she reacts to the subject of bisexuality and if she’s resistant to it, then explain to her how you think it works.

You never have to talk about yourself, just hypotheticals and/or other people. When you’re ready, and you feel it’s the right moment, come out and tell her everything. There’s no need to rush.

If you’re dating a girl currently, then that’s another story. You would definitely want to speed up the timetable and be honest with your Mom about who you’re with.

But if there’s no one really in the picture, you can take your time and ease into the whole thing. Bisexuality is a gray area that many people don’t like, accept, or understand. If it’s not black or white, it’s a scary unknown, and of course it is human nature to fear and resist the unknown.

When it comes to bisexuality, for a lot of people, it takes a while for the concept to sink in and for them to accept it – longer than even homosexuality would. Being gay, while it’s not without it’s prejudices as always, it’s a CONCRETE sexuality. Bisexuality is still just a very confusing concept for people who can’t fathom how you can float from one gender to the other. The world is still very close-minded. That’s not to say that your Mom won’t understand or never will understand, I’m just giving you fair warning that it may take some time after you come out for her to REALLY absorb the information.