Tag: sex positions

I’m 17 years old girl. I lost my virginity couple of weeks a go to a guy and after that we’ve fucked one time. I really like this guy but we’re not together. Now everytime we talk about sex, he tells me that he would like me to be on top. My problem is that I want to try it but I’m afraid that I don’t know how to do it. I have a lot of pressure about that. Like, having sex in general is a new thing to me. How to be on top? what should I do to make him get the pleasure?

Okay, first off, don’t let this guy pressure you into doing anything you don’t feel comfortable with or ready to do. If you’re feeling self conscious about being on top, simply tell him that you’re not ready to do that yet. If he has a problem with it then he can go fuck himself.

I know you said you want to do it, but your hesitancy makes me question if it’s what you want for yourself or if it’s what you want to please him… You see?

Do only what YOU feel comfortable and prepared to do. Don’t let him dictate what positions you’re going to be in! You just had sex for the first time! You’re not even dating! Just tell him you’ll get on top when you want to, but not right now. Not until you feel more confident about sex in general.

When you’re totally ready to climb up there (and it has to be coming from YOU and YOUR DESIRE to get into that position) read this post from an anon question I answered a while back.

A girl on top makes it all about the girl. It’s about you and what you like and what makes you feel good. He’s your playtoy and you’re doing whatever the fuck you want to him. This is why I’m advising you to wait until you feel more comfortable with sex because being on top means exploring what feels good for you. You’re setting the rhythm, the pace, gyrating, whatever it is you like. Until you’re ready for that kind of control…take it slower and if this guy isn’t okay with that, then you need to find another guy. End of story.

Hi I need some help. I’m bi and i’m 18 and me and my girlfriend are kinda bored of our 69 position and just fingering each other/kissing. We want to have sex in a more interesting way what should we try doing?

Sex in new places is always helpful and changes things up! Showers, other bedrooms, hot tub, kitchen, couch, chairs, on a washing machine going through the spin cycle…etc. And that’s only places restricted to the house! lol. Look for opportunities when you have a little bit of privacy, but also the risk of getting caught. Always a turn on! 😉 It’ll get you guys out of the rut.

I also recommend a trip to a high end sex shop! Browse through it together for new things that stand out to you both. New toys to play with is always awesome, but even just going through the store (without buying a ton of stuff!) and seeing what they have, is inspirational. It’ll give you new things to think about and be interested to try in your own way.

I must say, a necessary staple in your collection of sex toys is a strap on. You both get to take turns with it and it opens up many more positions for you to try! It should be a joint decision because you both obviously have a personal preference. If you don’t agree on one, then invest in two! WORTH. IT.

Download a .PDF file that has 101 Lesbian Lovemaking Positions here!

hi, me and my boyfriend are sometimes kind of rough during sex, he strangles me, pulls my hair and stuff, but the other day he was holding really tight on my neck whilst i was on top, and it was just too much to handle, so i forced his arm off aggressively and i felt really angry, and i couldn’t fully relax after that as i wanted to let my anger out. was wondering if you think that’s normal, like i was just doing it in defense or something? and is there anything less rough we could try?

You need to set clear boundaries with him. If that’s what you’re into, then by all means, continue! However, you need a safe word. I can’t stress that enough. You need SOMETHING to indicate during sex that what he’s doing is NOT okay with you, that it’s crossing the line. Something that will tell him loud and clear so that he can immediately back off, check in with you, then move on to something else.

Outline the things that are okay and the things that are off limits (ie: hair pulling – okay, pinned down by the back of your neck – not okay). Make a list and write all of it down so there’s no miscommunication. It’s something you should sit down and do together.

I don’t know why you were angry. I’m really not the person to ask. Maybe it was an instinctive response that increased your adrenaline for self defense.

Or maybe you were upset that he went too far. He scared you and someone that you trust like that shouldn’t scare you. It can be seen as a letdown or a betrayal even. That’s something to be angry about. He didn’t protect you like a partner should and that would make anyone angry.

There are a LOT of less rough things to try. Spanking? Restraints? Biting? Tit slapping? A whole world of stuff out there. Are you really okay with the sex being rough at all? If that’s not something you’re into, it’s OKAY to tell him that you don’t want that. Never do anything you feel uncomfortable or unsafe doing. If he continues to be too aggressive during sex after you’ve talked to him about it, that’s when you really need to stop and consider what you’re doing with this guy and that it’s time to end it. No one, male or female, has the right to push you to do anything you don’t want to.

Okay so first off I’m 16 and i’m bi.. and me and my girlfriend wanted to try out having sex while wearing a short skirt or a dress in public are there any positions or techniques we should use or any tips?.. Ps we will both be in school before this so we can’t bring our toys without getting caught…

Try a park. It’s outside, lots of possibilities for coverage, and public. Two kinks at once!

My boyfriend and I are really honest with eachother but I feel like me riding him isn’t as good as he says it is. Any help or tips on how I can improve my skills?

In this case, I’m gonna tell you to be selfish.

If it’s not feeling good for you (and it should be because that’s a great position for women) then that’s something you need explore for yourself. Try to experiment with different angles, positions, rhythms, etc. You need to really focus on what pleases you and what works for you in that position. You have the control. Have him do different things as well! Encourage him to play with your breasts, circle your clit, thrust up while you grind down, move this way, go that way, and so on! Do what you need to do to make it work.

‘Cause if it’s feeling good for you, it’ll be feeling good for him, trust me. On the other hand, even if it’s not feeling that good for you, it’s probably still working for him. Guys are easy to please. Men are very visual creatures when it comes to sex (and many other things) so they love when a woman is on top because they get to see everything. You’re doing most of the work and they get to watch, it’s a win/win for them!

So I don’t think your boyfriend is exaggerating or lying to you when he says it’s good. I think you’re not feeling very confident up there and that’s negatively influencing the experience for you. If YOU are feeling good up there then he’s gonna get the ride of his life! That’s what the key is: YOU feeling good about it.

Seriously, when it comes to riding a man, it is ALL about you. Go for it! In this case, he’s just along for whatever you want.

Hey this is awkward but you seem to give good advice and stuff so oh well. My gf has been crazy lately (i know she’s allowed to be)and she realized how she was treating me and apologized a lot and felt really bad but i didn’t care because she is honestly the most amazing and georgous girl but she doesn’t understand how i can not be mad and insists she deserves deserves punishment so i was thinking of just doing something fun (sexual) as “punishment” but i don’t know where to start, Any ideas? :)

Haha, well I’m really not the person to ask about anything regarding s&m.

Although, I will say that you shouldn’t call your girlfriend crazy. If she’s been acting out of the ordinary or erratic, I guarantee there’s a legitimate reason for it, even if she won’t tell you what it is. Don’t call a woman crazy, especially if she’s your gf/wife.

I’m pretty sure the reason why she wants this “punishment” is because she treated you like shit and you just accepted it when you should have stood up for yourself. (It also probably makes her feel worse about treating you poorly.)

Women want a man who will not only stand by them, but also stand toe-to-toe with them. Do you know what I mean? She wants you to stand up to her if she’s being a bitch. I’m not saying you can’t be understanding and let things roll off your back if she’s going through a hard time, but don’t let her just walk all over you. It’s not good for you and, frankly, it’s a turn-off for her.

As for “punishment”, again, I’m really not the person to ask, but I think an easy little experiment into that for the first time could be tying her hands together, leaving her at your mercy. Of course, you have to make sure she’s okay with it first, then you can have some fun.

If you’re a talker, then get into the role a bit. Bind her hands (comfortably, with a scarf or something soft) and tell her that she’s being tied up because it’s your turn to do what you want since she’s been...(insert whatever she’s been doing here). Be a little more forceful than usual, assert your role as the dom in this, touch her, tease her, have her suck you off, play with her body, get her worked up, but not enough to cum. (For me, that’s torture! lol.) She’ll be insensate by the time you actually fuck her.

Can’t stress this too much: make sure she’s on board and trusts you in all these areas BEFORE you try anything. Okay?

That would just be something I’d have fun with, but it’s not for everyone. Anyone else here have suggestions?