Author: sumptuousdaydreams

So I’m always curious on being with a girl because Lesbian Porn turns me on soooooo BAD… Problem is i have a boyfriend… I mean who wouldnt love to have a threesome and i know he does and i do too but i’m such a jealous girl… I’m afraid he will give them more attention than me.. what do i do????? and how do i bring up the subject that i want a threesome?????

First of all, there’s nothing wrong with being curious.  Secondly, it is natural to be turned on by all kinds of things — everyone is different.  Some things that might work for you, might not work for me and vice versa.  That being said, if you’re really serious about having a threesome with your boyfriend and another girl that’s something you need to talk to him about, first and foremost.

It’s easy to say that every guy finds a threesome with two girls to be the dream, but that might not be the case for him.  Sure, it might be nice to fantasize about, but he might not actually want to act on it.  That being said, you’ve admitted that you’re a jealous girl and I’ve always found that in threesomes finding a balance is incredibly important.  No one likes to be left out, whether it would be you, or your boyfriend, or the other girl you plan on adding.

Also, you have to think about what girl you would want to invite if your boyfriend is open about the idea.  Ideally, it would be someone that you and your boyfriend were both attracted to.  There are a lot of variables here, and you have to decide if you would be comfortable sharing your boyfriend, or if you would be comfortable experimenting in front of him.  I can understand that you want to find out if you’re actually attracted to women, or if you’re simply turned on by seeing them together — which, believe it or not, can sometimes be the case.

Basically, sitting down and having a conversation with your boyfriend about how you feel, that you want to experiment, and that you’re interested in a threesome is the best place to start.  If you do reach the point where you decide to bring another girl into the bedroom with your boyfriend and yourself, it’s always nice for you to set some ground rules, as well, especially if you’re the jealous type.  For instance, maybe you can both agree that oral is fine for everyone, but you only want your boyfriend to penetrate you.  Again, that’s just a handful of the things that you need to think about and discuss.  But you have to remember, this isn’t something you have to rush into — planning might not sound sexy, but being open and honest and discussing what you want and how you want it is only going to make everyone happier in the end.

— teagan

My girlfriend and I want to have sex. She wants to rub my clit and do all of that, penetration for me has always felt a little intrusive and uncomfortable so we’re avoiding that unless I’m ready. My question is, I’ve always gone fast finger wise with my clit while she goes slow. I’m afraid to NOT orgasm with her techniques. How do I tell her without her thinking it’s weird or uncomfortable touching me so fast?

Why would it be weird? We like different things. You don’t stimulate every partner you have the exact same way. There’s SERIOUSLY nothing to be embarrassed or feel weird about! Just tell her you like it fast? That’s what you do when you have sex with someone for the first time – you tell/show them what you like! Guide her along. She wants to know how to make you feel good, not have you suffer through sex with her! lol. Besides, you’ll have to learn how she likes it since you already know it’s significantly different from what you like. It goes both ways. Besides, who knows what you might teach each other? She might do some things that you never thought you’d like, but boom! Pleasure explosion. You never know!

Just experiment together, be honest, communicate about what you want (both verbal and by showing/doing), and have fun with it. Don’t let yourself get caught up in the endgame of orgasm/not orgasm. Because if you start worrying about that, you’re going to put too much pressure on yourself, you’re not going to be able to enjoy anything because you’re overthinking it, and then it will just be a waste! Relax. Enjoy yourself. Talk it through, kiss it through, laugh it through, fuck it through.

She will NOT think there’s anything weird about you wanting her to go faster/harder on your clit because there is NOTHING weird about it. Trust me on this.

I have a boyfriend who I love to death, we are soulmates mentally and emotionally, I feel like we were meant to be together, and I think he’s absolutely adorable, but I get nervous of other people judging me for dating him. I’ve been told I’m out of his league, because he doesn’t meet the stereotypical standard of ‘hot’…he’s very short, but I am too so it’s ok, and he’s a little chubby, and people tell me I can do way better. I love him but it’s off-putting to hear that from friends. Help?

If you love him and you want to be with him, who cares what anyone else thinks? Do YOU think you deserve a “hotter” guy? Do you wanna trade him in for a six foot something dude with a six pack? If you do, that’s your prerogative.

But you say you love your boyfriend and if you love him, in your eyes, he should be the most gorgeous person you’ve ever seen. Flaws or no. We all have flaws, but love really is blind. When you’re in love, you don’t see the physical flaws, you see the beauty.

You say you want to be with him, then be with him, and don’t let naysayers tell you otherwise. I guarantee most of them have never been in love or have found someone like you have. They don’t understand because they’ve never been there. What does it matter if they’re judging? You found something they don’t have! But I think they’re getting to you because, deep down, you believe it too.

I think you see yourself as out of his league…and that’s a huge problem. Because, deep down, you think you’re better than him. Your relationship is doomed if that’s the case. If you are embarrassed to be with him because of his looks, you’re not soulmates and you’re certainly not meant to be together. So own up to what you TRULY feel and figure it out. You want to let your friends convince you that you deserve someone hotter, go ahead. Who cares what his personality is like or if you have a connection with him? At least he’ll be a physical match for you and that’s what matters right, how you look standing next to each other?

By the way, I’m pretty sure your boyfriend has a much harder time with his insecurity about being with you since you’re apparently so “out of his league” that even YOU think it’s true. You might want to stop being so self absorbed for a minute and think about how it might be affecting him. You know…cause you supposedly love him and all that.

I love how inclusive your blog is. Even though not every scene is a turn on for me personally, just seeing all the different ways of having sex – guy/guy, girl/girl, girl/guy, submissive/dom regardless of gender, threesome+ – makes the whole concept richer and more enjoyable. Thank you.

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artbymoga:

Inspired by a recent experience I had with someone stealing my art and cropping out my URL.
Dedicated to every artist who has had their art work stolen.

THIS IS WHAT MAKES ME FUCKING ANGRY.

ALL THOSE STUPID WEHEARTIT USERS DON’T EVEN KNOW HOW MUCH TIME ARTISTS SPEND ON THEIR DRAWINGS.

I DON’T CARE WHO YOU ARE, WHERE YOU ARE OR WHAT YOU LIKE.

PLEASE SOURCE THE FUCKING ART WHENEVER YOU UPLOAD ART THAT ISN’T YOURS.

CREDIT THE FUCKING ARTIST!!!

I am dating this guy since a couple of weeks. Last night I went down on him and omg he is huge! I have been dating a few guys in the past, but he is way bigger! Will it be able to fit in? It barely fits my mouth!

Your vagina is bigger than your mouth. Remember, we can push human beings the size of a football through there. He’ll fit. Just take it really slow, lots of lubrication, and let your body adjust. ENJOY!

im (pretty sure) im a lesbian but i find guys attractive. i would never date a guy or have sex with a guy, i just dont want to, but i love how guys’ bodies look and feel and everything is beautiful but i dont have any sexual attraction towards men. it seems weird and i dont know if i might be bisexual or maybe pansexual but im just really confused.

You’re basically describing a straight woman’s attitude about women. They appreciate the female body and can say how attractive/gorgeous/sexy/beautiful another woman is without worrying about whether or not that makes them a lesbian. It’s appreciating good looks! It makes no difference if it’s men or women! You can appreciate beauty without needing to fuck it.

Unfortunately this is very much a stigma society places on us. If you’re gay, you can only find men having sex hot. If you’re straight, you can only find a man and a woman having sex hot. If you’re a lesbian, you can only find two women having sex hot.

That. Is. The. Dumbest. Bullshit. Ever.

Gay men appreciate the beauty of women and, often, in the media, they’re the main ones critiquing them. Interesting hypocrisy there, hm? They’re not sexually attracted to women, but they’re the “foremost authority” of fashion and beauty in the media? But wait! They’re gay! *gasp* Horrors! They should be repelled by women! How can they know who’s beautiful and who’s not? They’re supposed to think they’re ogres because they don’t want to have sex with them!

Do you see my point? Why is it any different for you to appreciate the hotness of a hot guy? You don’t want to have sex with him, you just know he’s gorgeous!

Acknowledging good looks means you have eyes. It has nothing to do with your sexuality.