My girlfriend and I want to have sex. She wants to rub my clit and do all of that, penetration for me has always felt a little intrusive and uncomfortable so we’re avoiding that unless I’m ready. My question is, I’ve always gone fast finger wise with my clit while she goes slow. I’m afraid to NOT orgasm with her techniques. How do I tell her without her thinking it’s weird or uncomfortable touching me so fast?

Why would it be weird? We like different things. You don’t stimulate every partner you have the exact same way. There’s SERIOUSLY nothing to be embarrassed or feel weird about! Just tell her you like it fast? That’s what you do when you have sex with someone for the first time – you tell/show them what you like! Guide her along. She wants to know how to make you feel good, not have you suffer through sex with her! lol. Besides, you’ll have to learn how she likes it since you already know it’s significantly different from what you like. It goes both ways. Besides, who knows what you might teach each other? She might do some things that you never thought you’d like, but boom! Pleasure explosion. You never know!

Just experiment together, be honest, communicate about what you want (both verbal and by showing/doing), and have fun with it. Don’t let yourself get caught up in the endgame of orgasm/not orgasm. Because if you start worrying about that, you’re going to put too much pressure on yourself, you’re not going to be able to enjoy anything because you’re overthinking it, and then it will just be a waste! Relax. Enjoy yourself. Talk it through, kiss it through, laugh it through, fuck it through.

She will NOT think there’s anything weird about you wanting her to go faster/harder on your clit because there is NOTHING weird about it. Trust me on this.