teagan – Page 2 – Sumptuous Daydreams

coming from a girl. sex has been so uncomfortable so far, even though my bladder is empty, i feel the need to pee during sex and makes it so uncomfortable and unrelaxing. whats this about?

First of all, make sure that you don’t just have to pee! Make a trip to the bathroom before you start getting frisky, and see if that helps your problem. Or if you have more impromptu sex, even if it disrupts the vibe, if you feel like you’re going to pee — go pee and then come back to your partner to continue. Better safe than sorry, because obviously peeing on them is probably going to ruin the vibe — unless you’re both into that. Communication is key. (;

On the other hand, it could be something else. There is always the possibility that the angle that you’re having sex from is allowing your partner to press against your G-spot. In this case, after a bit of stimulation, that particular feeling of ‘Oh god, I have to pee!’ will generally pass and lead to an incredible orgasm if you’re lucky. Generally, this happens more easily if you’re riding him, or you’re having sex from behind. Try a few positions, and try to work through the feeling and enjoy the experience with your partner who may have hit the jackpot by finding your G-spot. It takes a lot of couples a long time to figure that out, so, enjoy it instead of feeling uncomfortable.

-teagan.

Would you say its polite to give oral after you have received?

Personally, I would say that giving oral is always polite. It’s something that most people enjoy, and a really fun experience to share together.

Some people are not quite as into oral sex, but that’s something that can always be discussed with your partner. Communication, as always, is the key.

As a quick side note, some people are pretty expectant of receiving oral once they’ve given it, and while I’m not down with all that selfish behavior, I think it’s something to consider. If someone goes down on you, they’re probably going to want something in return. But, as far as it being polite, well, absolutely. Everyone loves an orgasm.

-teagan.

I have never fingered myself befor but i want to, but im to sceard my hole will be to small?

Okay, if it’s your first time you’re going to want to go slowly but I can assure you that you won’t have any problems with being too small — especially for your own fingers.

The trick is to make sure that you’re aroused, so you can fully enjoy what you’re doing. So, take your time. Watch some porn, lay in bed and tease yourself — your breasts, your clit, whatever works. You don’t have to rush yourself along and just shove your fingers inside yourself. That isn’t really pleasant for anyone.

So, once you’re feeling nice and relaxed and probably very wet from all the teasing you’ve been doing, then start fingering yourself. You can start with one finger and go slowly, building up from there. Just explore yourself a bit and really enjoy what you’re doing. If you’re wet, you shouldn’t have any problems with putting your fingers inside of yourself. (Hell, if you’re too nervous to get wet on your own, use some lube which you can buy from basically anywhere to help get you into the mood).

See what works for you, though. One finger. Two fingers. Whatever. Switch up the angles, or the speed, and see what really turns you on. In no time, you should be able to find out what really turns you on and build on it from there. There’s plenty of time to explore what feels good, and there is literally no right way to masturbate, so have fun with it!

-teagan.

So I’m straight–but recently I’ve really reallly been entertaining the thought of eating another girl out. I want to so badly! Any ideas on how one would initiate this?

Well, firstly, I’ve always thought sexuality is a fluid thing so even if you currently identify as straight, there’s nothing wrong with pursuing the same sex if you’re curious. In fact, congrats on being open minded and wanting to see what else is out there in the world.

That being said, I would try to find someone that you have a bit of chemistry with. Explain the situation and let them know that you’re curious, and looking to experiment a bit. Be up front with them, if that’s all you’re looking for. You don’t want to drag someone along and hurt their feelings because they think you’re looking for more than something physical.

I’m sure that you know some girls that might be into it already, hell, maybe some of your own “straight” friends are feeling the same way and you can help each other out. I can say from experience that I’ve had more than a few sexual encounters with friends of mine who didn’t think they were into girls. Just go with the flow and see where things take you. There’s no real rush, and hopefully you’ll find someone that you click well with and you have a lot of fun.

Of course, I have to remind you that safe sex is the best sex and if you’re planning on going out and picking up a random instead of someone you’re associated with, then make sure that you’re safe. Simple things like if you use sex toys, use condoms with them to keep everyone involved healthy and happy.

-teagan.

Is deep throating something that you have to practice to get right? I’ve tried once but i couldn’t really handle it

Deep throating is absolutely something you have to practice! Don’t worry about not being able to do so immediately, some people have a really sensitive gag reflex, and some people don’t have a gag reflex at all.

First of all, deep throat can be a really enjoyable thing for both you and your partner — as long as you’ve made yourself comfortable doing it. You don’t want to feel obligated to do so or like you’re choking just trying to keep their cock down your throat.

If you have a really sensitive gag reflex, there are some ways to desensitize that. One way to do this is by practicing. Find a popsicle stick or something, and starting at the front of your tongue, move the stick along your tongue until you reach the part where you begin to gag. Once you find it, take a few days to continually poke at it, and get past the discomfort. You continue doing this, until you get all the way back. If you don’t condition yourself this way, it’s possible that you’ll have problems with gagging at any point on your tongue – the front, or the middle, or the back. I know it sounds weird, but it’s true.

Another thing to do, is go slow. Make sure that you have a signal for your partner if he’s going too fast, or being too harsh, and make sure he knows that you want to set the pace. Start by taking him completely into your mouth until you feel him hitting the back of your throat, and then slowly work up to accepting him even further into your throat. Eventually, with practice, you’ll also be able to deal with the movement that action requires, but don’t push yourself!

In all actuality, it might be possible that it just isn’t something you enjoy, or your body won’t allow you to do it. But, there’s no harm in practicing, and there’s no harm in not doing it, either. It’s your body, and it’s all up to you. (:

-teagan

Well i was wondering where am i supposed to spit after givin someone a blowjob, because like how is the situation you know?

First of all, you should never do anything that you’re uncomfortable with, so whether you want to spit or swallow is up to you.

There are a few options, once your partner comes you can either spit it on him, (though, that is probably something you would want to discuss with them first), or keep a cup handy to spit into. You can also keep a towel nearby, or just spit it on the blankets in a pinch. Good sex is usually messy sex, so you shouldn’t be too concerned about things getting a little messier. There’s also always the option of going into the bathroom if you have one at your disposal. Of course, that might cause your partner some discomfort, so to spare their feelings maybe tell them what you’re doing, so they aren’t horrified and think you’re just bailing on them. Communication is important here!

Of course, another thing to consider is that if you’re worried about the taste here, spitting is only going to make that worse since you’ll be holding it in your mouth for longer.

Also, if you really don’t want to deal with the spit or swallow issue, you can always let them cum elsewhere. Let them cum on your chest, or your stomach, or wherever you’re comfortable with — or not on you at all. You can always get them close to their climax, and then finish the job with your hand instead.

Basically, there is really no way you’re “supposed” to give a blowjob, or spit or anything else. The technique is up to you, and so is what you decide to do with the cum in your mouth. And don’t worry, if you decide you want to swallow instead, cum is good for you! (;

-teagan.

Hi there can I ask for some advice? I turned 18 recently and my friend bought me my first vibrator, I’ve used it twice but I’m all ways sore after I use it. I know because I’m a virgin it would hurt some, but it can get really unbearable. I’m worried that when I do have sex it will hurt just the same. I’ve masturbated before with my fingers, and try turning my self on before I use the vibrator but it still hurts.

First of all, congrats on having a friend who bought you something useful. (;

Secondly, there are lots of reasons that you could be experiencing discomfort. You said you try to turn yourself on first, but maybe you’re rushing things. If you’ve masturbated with just your hands before, and that’s worked for you, start there. Don’t try to rush yourself, think of something pleasant, look at porn, whatever and go slowly. So once you’re feeling turned on, start fingering yourself or massaging your clit and then incorporate the vibrator. Also, there’s no reason to start by fucking yourself with it, make use of the vibration. Tease yourself with it, trace around your clit, all over your pussy, whatever works for you. And then, work on inserting it. Start slowly, with the vibration off, and as you get comfortable, try dialing the vibrator speed up from there so you’re not overwhelming. That way you’re focused on the pleasure, and can see what is causing you the discomfort. If you go slowly, you’re more likely to find the point you’re having trouble with.

Finally, as a warning, make sure to take good care of your toys! Always wash them after use, and check that if they’re the kind that is rubber material, that they don’t have any tears or things like that. This collects bacteria, and can cause infection, which you do not want. Some vibrators are only sold as novelty, and thus, no one cares if they meet safety standards, so make sure you’re not using something inside of you that you shouldn’t be.

-teagan.

P.S.

crazedanddonfused said: Also if you’re having problems with being turned on enough before using it, you can get some water-based lube online, or free at a health clinic (or in Spencer’s!) to help.

Saying Hello!

Hi Guys! I just wanted to say hello! I’m Teagan, and I’ll be fielding some of the questions that you guys have been shooting our way. The mistress of this blog has currently been working solo, and wanted to pull in some fresh meat to help get questions out more quickly, as well as give a new perspective on some of your questions.

Any of the questions that I answer will be signed off with my name, so you’ll know who you’re talking to and who is answering your question. I look forward to hearing from all of you. (: