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– Even with a handjob, foreplay is STILL important. Start off with kissing as always and then slowly move your hand down. Rub his inner thigh, stroke over his crotch when he still has his pants on, then you can gently take hold of him and massage his cock through the material. After you see him getting really into it (you should be hearing some sighs and groans), unbutton the pants and reach into his boxers. Still take it slow at this point, you’re still at foreplay, so consider it “teasing”.

– If you feel comfortable with it, go topless! (I’ve said it before, but guys are big on visual stimulation so getting to focus on your breasts will get them even more hot and bothered.) If you’re not there yet, try just wearing your bra. If you’re leaning over him, wear just your panties or nothing at all so he can see your ass. The more visual stimulation, the better. Also, eye contact is hot!

– LUBE. If he’s not slicked up with something, it’s gonna be hell on his cock so have something prepared! Oil-based or silicone based lube is best for a handjob because it’s slick and doesn’t dry up too quickly. However, if you’re planning to follow this up with sex or some other fun, go water-based because the skin will soak it up and you can move on. It just doesn’t last as long as the others. Now, if you don’t have that kind of lube available, body oil works just as well! Don’t have lube or body oil? Any kind of non-scented lotion will do. Spit should be a last resort because it’s just really not conducive for the BEST handjobs. So try being prepared okay? Get some KY, some Vaseline, ANYTHING. Honestly, if you carry around a small bottle of Johnson’s baby oil in your purse, he will love you forever.

– Find a rhythm and then work it. The goal is to be able to speed it up towards the end, but don’t go insane (especially if you don’t have the upper arm strength or enough lube – ow?).

– Hand positions. There are several different ways to use your hands. You can use your whole hand, your palms only, your fingers, or pinch your finger and thumb together to form a ring. All of the hand job “moves” are just variations of simple grip, stroke, and area touching. Do whatever comes to mind, play around, experiment to see what works and what doesn’t. It’s all fun!

– Best method? The two hander. Take both of your hands and grip the shaft. Ask him if he wants it looser or firmer so you know what the right pressure is. Don’t be too delicate, it’s not a flower! Grip it good, but still ask him what he likes so you know for sure what works. Then, slowly and rhythmically (always with rhythm!) twist both hands in the opposite direction while sliding up and down. It stimulates shaft and the head at the same time AND it makes him feel like there’s two people working on his cock, which he’ll love. Gradually increase your speed. Two hands are better and more interesting than one.

– Variation of pressure is ideal. Firmer going down, looser going up, then do the opposite. Switch it up!

– Keep your wrists loose. IT’S ALL IN THE WRIST. Don’t focus so much on your hands, instead your wrists. The way you flick your wrists and and swirl up and down is where the pleasure is!

– Don’t ever rub, you should always be sliding (or gliding) – you know what I mean.

– Midway through the HJ, give some love to his balls! Different guys like different things when it comes to playing with their balls, so you just have to experiment to find out what your guy likes. Go easy on them though! Be gentle. You can cup them, squeeze them (GENTLY!), move them around in your hands, and even stroke your fingers over them. On your way back to his cock, you can lightly scratch his balls with your nails.

– If you’re into it, pause the HJ for a moment and use your mouth on his balls. Either tongue them lightly or just put your mouth (NOT teeth) on them. If you’re a little gun shy about it, don’t worry. Just be gentle and whatever attention you give there will be received with great appreciation on his part!

– The head of the penis is the most sensitive part so you’ll want to pay more attention to that and be gentle with it. Don’t let it be your ONLY focus though. Use your thumb and index finger to form an ‘O’ shape and move it up and a down an inch or so over the head. You don’t have to move it much, you’re just trying to stimulate the head.

– Gonna use a big word for you! The frenulum is the most sensitive part of the head. It’s a little v shaped mark on the underside of his cock. Try taking a break from the regular handjob and spend like 30 seconds just rubbing the frenulum with light pressure before going to massage his balls and then back to up and down on his cock again.

– When he starts to orgasm and shoot his load, the usual instinct is to speed up your movements, HOWEVER guys actually like it when you slow down and release pressure as they start to orgasm. This is because when he’s orgasming, the head of his penis becomes insanely sensitive, to the point where it’s painful for him when you touch it. So backing off and going easier on him as he blows his wad is the best thing you can do for him.

– Try different positions with each handjob. You can straddle him while he’s lying down, you can kneel while he’s in a chair (make sure you’re comfortable!), you can sit next to him and reach over, etc. Change it up! Change is good. Keeps things new!

– Talk to him. Ask him what he likes. Ask him to SHOW you what he likes. Yes, that’s right, have him jerk off in front of you and then you need to take mental notes of how he does it. Who better to learn how to give a handjob from than the guy who’s been doing it to himself since he was 12?

HAVE FUN!