Tag: sexuality

Okay so I’m bisexual but at the same time I feel like I’m a lesbian cause I only like doing stuff with guys I don’t get feelings for them even remotely but this girl likes me and I just really like her and I’ve never felt like this with a guy like I realllllyyyy like her does it seem like a lesbian? I’m just confused and need advice…

You like being with guys and girls. You’re attracted to guys and girls.

You FELL for a girl.

That doesn’t mean you’re a lesbian. It means you fell for SOMEONE. It just happened to be a girl that you made your first real connection with. It was either going to be a guy or a girl – 50/50 chance there. You’d probably be panicking about being straight if this was reversed.

This doesn’t mean you won’t fall for a guy in the future. Male/female – it doesn’t matter. You made a connection with someone and you should take advantage of that because connections like that are rare, we don’t find them often, so when we do, we need to do everything we can to enjoy it and immerse ourselves in it to the fullest.

Whatever happens in the future will happen, but what does it matter? Are you suddenly going to stop being attracted to boys because you’re dating a girl? You’re going to declare yourself a lesbian and then your sexual attraction to the male gender will just magically disappear? It doesn’t work that way! lol. You just happened to form an emotional (as well as physical) connection with a girl first. That’s all.

Stop worrying about the lesbian/bi/straight bullshit. The older you get and the more people you meet, the more you’ll start to understand yourself, and you won’t be so concerned about being exactly “this” or exactly “that” anymore.

The world is not black and white so stop trying to put yourself in a box that doesn’t make sense. Focus on this girl and all these new feelings you’re experiencing. Nothing else matters. Be with her. Be happy! 🙂

I am getting turned on by your gif’s of gay guys having sex. Is that weird? I am female and bisexual and normally think anal is weird whether it being two dudes, a guy and a girl, or two girls with a dildo.

Well, first, it’s just naturally more pleasurable for men to have anal sex than women because of anatomical differences and the presence of their G-Spot/prostate. So two men having sex has a different pleasure spin on it, to start with, rather than seeing women have anal sex.

Also, it’s just two hot guys fucking. It’s sex. Sex is a turn on. Whether it’s two guys, two girls, guy and girl, two girls one guy, two guys one girl, orgy, whatever! As long as it’s done right and there’s chemistry, there’s intimacy, there’s a feeling of real pleasure taking place…that’s the turn on!

You’re not thinking about anal sex when you see two guys, you’re thinking about how hot they look, how good they’re feeling, the rhythm they have, etc. You’re thinking about the sexual pleasure they’re deriving from it. It doesn’t matter as much HOW they’re getting it, but rather how good they’re making it look.

Sex turns you on. GOOD SEX turns you on even more. Men, women, it doesn’t matter which combination you use, it’s all still sex and if they’re doing it right, it’s fucking hot.

I have never been interested in girls. But, I get really turned on when I see lesbian gifs and things like that. Should I experiment, or just dismiss it? Is this normal?

I’m all for experimenting! You never know until you try. No matter the outcome, you’ll know for certain where you stand afterwards. You’re into, you’re not into, you’re kinda into it, whatever! As long as you tried.

It may very well be that you just think two women are hot together, but it’s not what you want for yourself, or you may be starting to discover a new side to your sexuality. Who knows? Give it a shot!

IT IS ABSOLUTELY 100% NORMAL TO BE EXPERIENCING THIS.

So I have a boyfriend.. But lesbian porn turns me on so much. I want to try kissing a girl and “stuff” but I don’t want to loose my boyfriend. I have a couple lesbian friend and I want to ask them if I could try with them but I don’t how to. And I don’t know if its right. Should I go ahead behind my boyfriends back or is that cheating?!

Kissing someone else when you’re in an exclusive, monogamous, relationship is generally considered cheating unless you have different parameters in your relationship. If he made out with another girl, would you consider that him cheating on you?

If yes, then yes, messing around with other girls behind his back is cheating.

If you want it badly enough, talk to him about it. Ask him if he would be comfortable having an open relationship. You can set rules for it. Honestly, that rarely ever works out, but you can always try.

I, personally, would break up with him and explore my other needs. You’re young, you’re not married, there is no real commitment here. The fact that you’re on this blog asking me about it shows how much you really want to try something different. It also shows how things are just not really working in your current relationship. It doesn’t mean your boyfriend is a bad guy, a bad boyfriend, or that you don’t really care about him. It’s just not the right relationship for you if you’re seriously contemplating messing around with other people.

It’s scary to leave someone when you feel comfortable with them and you care about them. It’s scary risking being alone for a while. For most, it’s easier to be with someone than it is to be alone, even if it’s not exactly what you want in a relationship. That’s normal and completely understandable. However, when it comes down to it, you’re settling for less by staying with him. And you’re not doing him any favors by staying with him while thinking about other people.

Would you want him to stay with you if he was thinking about other girls and wanting to have sex with other people? No. Why would you want to be with someone unless they want you and only you? That’s the whole point of being together.

Gender is irrelevant. It’s the act itself that defines cheating.

My personal advice? End it on the best terms possible and do what you need to do for yourself. Do not mess around behind his back. Either break up or give him full disclosure on what you want. Because if you start doing stuff behind his back, lying to him, it’s a betrayal no matter what. And you can’t have a healthy relationship that way.

So I have this best friend who’s a guy (I’m a girl btw) and he says he’s bi. Long story short, after a year and a half of teasing and being maybe too comfortable with each other, we started hooking up. We’re not dating and I doubt we ever will, I honestly don’t want to. But the thing is, he hooks up with me and a bunch of other guys, and I mean A BUNCH. I’m the only girls he fools around with. And he tells me everything about the guys. Am I being stupid? Am I just hooking up with a gay guy? HELP

It seems like the problem you’re running into here is that ultimately you’re not feeling good about this situation. He’s hooking up with you and yet still telling you about all the other guys he’s doing. It’s going from being a casual hook up to you feeling a bit used and not special. If he’s out there with all these other people then why is he with you at all? You’re just another one of them, right? Just another way for him to get off? Is that how it’s making you feel?

Maye he is gay and still has sex with you because he wants to somehow cling to the last bit of “straightness” he can. Maybe he actually just likes having sex with both men and women. Maybe he hasn’t been interested enough in another girl like he’s into you, but the guys so far are just a dime a dozen to him. I don’t know! You know him better than I do, so what do you think? It sounds to me like he’s in the experimenting stage of his life. He’s seeing what’s out there and what works for him. He’s doing his own thing, and that’s fine, nothing wrong with that, but it means that you need to think about yourself and what this is doing for you.

Whether or not he’s “gay” or “bi” – you have to evaluate how you feel in this arrangement with him. You obviously don’t like it because you’re here asking me whether or not you’re being stupid for fooling around with him. You feel stupid! No relationship, whatever kind it may be, should make you feel that way. So think about what it is you’re doing and how it makes you feel and decide whether or not it’s worth it to keep pursuing.

If you don’t want to date him, then it’s just sex that’s making you feel kind of worthless (which you are NOT). Is that something you want to keep doing? Or do you think you could stop and find something better for yourself? Because you do deserve better.

I’m a 19 year old girl and I have a boyfriend who I love yet all I can think about when I get horny are other girls. I watch porn and it’s always lesbian porn. I’ve been with 1 girl before (but we didn’t do too much) and it was amazing. I can’t help but have this feeling that I want to be with a girl sexually again. It really turns me on. He knows how I feel and said if I slept with a girl he wouldn’t be mad but there are no girls I know who would do that with me…what should I do?

First off, are you sexually attracted to your boyfriend? I know you said you love him, but that doesn’t mean you’re IN love with him. And if you are attracted to him, are you MORE attracted to girls?

It sounds like you really like your boyfriend, but the fact that you want to sleep with someone else really shows that this relationship may not be the right one for you. It’s the same thing as you wanting to sleep with another guy. It’s still having sex with another PERSON. Would he be okay with you having sex with another guy? I’m going to guess no. He wants monogamy, but in his mind, it doesn’t apply to same-sex, because he thinks another girl can’t compete with him. WRONG. Sleeping with a girl is just like sleeping with a guy, feelings are involved! It’s having sex with someone that is not your significant other – guy or girl makes no difference.

I can’t tell you what to do or what your feelings are for your boyfriend. All I can do is tell you what I would tell any of my friends – if you’re thinking about other people and you want to sleep with other people, then the person you’re in a relationship with might not be the one for you and it might be time to end it.

This isn’t a case of a long distance relationship or long term relationship that needs spicing up (special circumstances) – this is simply you not getting the sexual gratification you need and you’re seriously considering finding it elsewhere. Why be in a relationship at all if you want to fuck someone else? If you’re thinking about other people when you’re with your boyfriend? What’s the point?

If you want to be with a girl, I think you should give yourself the chance. But I wouldn’t advise doing it while you’re in a committed relationship. If you want to explore something different, something that is REALLY calling to you, then you owe it to yourself to do that, just don’t string your boyfriend along with it. It’s not fair to him – even if he thinks it’s okay because I’m pretty sure you know how much it’s NOT okay… Your emotions are already invested in this. Is cheating for you really defined by whether it’s with a man or a woman? Sex is sex.

You’ll eventually find another girl that you want to be with or experiment with. They’ll come along somehow, somewhere, but you have a better chance of finding that when you are not in a relationship.

You’re young! This time of your life is all about exploring new things and discovering yourself. Give yourself the to opportunity to do that. Now is not the time to play it safe. This is your life! Don’t you want to see what’s out there?

I’m so confused, I have only liked a boy in all my life. I’ve never had a boyfriend or a girlfriend. Girls and boys turn me on both. I masturbate to all, gay, lesbian and straight porn. But when it comes to been in love I’ve only really liked a boy, but I was like 13 years old, since him I haven’t like anyone. I don’t even have a clue on what my sexuality is. Am I weird?

You might be weird…but it wouldn’t have anything to do with this.

You’ll figure it out in time. You’ll eventually meet someone else that you’re drawn to and it could be a boy or a girl. It doesn’t really matter. If people ask, just pull a South of Nowhere and say “I’m not into labels”. Or answer however you feel comfortable. It doesn’t matter what you say to them because it’s not their business anyway.

Don’t worry about defining your sexuality. Greet everyone you meet with the same openness and see the opportunity. Why limit yourself by trying to figure out your “sexuality”? That’s going to develop on its own when you meet more people and start dating. Until then, no labels, and discover what it is you like on your own time and on your own terms. This is not some case where there’s a predetermined set “date” where suddenly time’s up and everyone yells at you to sign up for one of the clubs or you’re a freak of nature. Don’t let anyone dictate this for you because it’s not about them! Who gives a fuck about them? This is about you and only you!

I’m not sure if I’m bisexual or not. My friends get grossed out by girl on girl action but I think it’s attractive to watch and I do watch lesbian porn Ive had sex with a girl once when I was very drunk. But touching a girl sober doesn’t interest me?

I don’t know what the hell is wrong with your friends. How do you get grossed out by g/g??? They’re either freaks or liars. I’m guessing liars cause people who “protest” like that are really trying to cover up something they’re not comfortable with… And in this case, it could very well be that g/g does turn them on and they don’t know how to deal with that so they shut it down.

I think you’re a 2 on the Kinsey scale: “predominantly heterosexual, but more than incidentally homosexual”. Which breaks down to, you’re a straight girl, but women can be sexually attractive to you. You’re what I like to call a “drunk lesbian”. Believe me, there are many…many…MANY girls out there that do exactly the same thing. Changing it up a bit is a turn on for you. That’s all it means.

I think everyone (male and female) is between a 1 and 5 on the Kinsey scale, which basically rates HOW bisexual you are and what gender you lean towards MORE. I think everyone has the potential for attraction to the same sex as well as the opposite sex. Some people just lean one way more than the other and some people are more in the middle. I’ve said this a million times, but I will say it a million times more: sexuality is fluid. Stop worrying about trying to define it and just do what feels right.

Enjoy the porn, appreciate the attractiveness of the female gender, and if you ever feel in the mood to have sex with another girl again, go for it!

So.. last night me and my friend went to a party we got really drink and we made out for a while she ate me out and had an orgasm I liked it. and i’m so confused right now am I a lesbian? we haven’t talked since it happend and i’m so confused like I’ve never even had sex before and urgg

Does it matter?

You had sex with a girl and you liked it. Okay. Do you want to date her? Do you want to have sex with her again? You can do all of that and then if it doesn’t work out then maybe later down the line you’ll find a boy you’re attracted to and date/have sex with him. Maybe you’ll like that more, maybe you’ll like being with a girl more, maybe you’ll like both for the different pleasures it gave you!

Don’t rush into a gay panic. Enjoying sex with a girl simply means that you enjoyed having sex with that one particular girl. It does NOT mean that you now have to swear off boys forever, cut your hair like Justin Bieber, and eternally doom your closet to plaid button downs. (JOKING.) I mean, really, calm down. You’re not a lesbian just because you enjoyed having someone go down on you. It’s a very pleasurable sex act…

Focus on whether or not you actually want to be with the girl you had sex with. Not because she’s a girl, but because you like her, you’re attracted to her, and you want to do all those things you do with a bf/gf – cuddle, kiss, fuck, hold her hand, cry on her shoulder, bring her soup when she’s sick, dance with her at a club, talk to her about everything and anything, laugh until you cry, sit on her lap even when there’s plenty of room elsewhere, etc.

If that’s not what you want, then you’ll meet someone else you’re attracted to. Could be a guy. Could be a girl. Just go with it. We like people for being who they are, not for being a certain gender.