Firstly, I don’t think that just asking her makes you sound like an asshole at all. Communication should be number one in any relationship. Both sides will be much happier knowing that the other feels confident enough to discuss their feelings and open up to them.
That being said, there are a few options here. Maybe start out slow, don’t just throw a dick pic in her direction and hope that’ll light her fire. Truthfully, not many people like unsolicited dick pics, take it from me.
Maybe start out simple, tell her that you’re thinking about her, and you’re turned on. Or you wanna know what she’s wearing, whatever you’re feeling. And then let things progress from there. I don’t know if you’re in an online relationship, or you actually know one another in person, but either way those are some good options. Of course, if you know one another in person and are already sexually active, it might not take much convincing to get her to send you nudes, and vice versa.
Sexting doesn’t just have to be about sending/receiving nudes anyway, hell, a lot of the sexting I’ve done was purely word motivated and sometimes that can really open things up. A lot of times people find it easier to say things in a text message that they wouldn’t in person, so there’s just a few things to consider. Plus, it can be all about the fantasy —if there’s something you wanted to try in person but were too afraid, maybe introduce it there and see how she reacts. The possibilities are endless.
-teagan.
Sumptuous Daydreams 