I can tell you that it, personally, doesn’t bother me in the slightest. I have some too. And lots of guys have stretch marks as well. They’re like little scars. Are we really going to be SO SHALLOW as to be put off by someone’s scars? We all have them.
Many guys that I know aren’t bothered by stretch marks, but I can’t speak for all guys. What I can tell you that if someone is put off by some stretch marks…they’ve saved you the time and trouble of having to get to know them.
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My high school’s (I was in high school last year) sex ed textbook didn’t mention the clitoris
This is a pretty good resource, apologies for gendered language.
I think you should do whatever is going to make you feel good, happy,
and proud of yourself. If you want to have sex just to have sex, do it.
There’s absolutely nothing wrong with that. But if you know that you
might regret doing it, then don’t. Just wait.
Three months from now: will you be happy about it?
1 year from now: will you feel a little bummed that you didn’t wait?
4
years from now: will you think: “wow, I was such an idiot for needing
to be just like my friends and hooked up with that loser that one time”?
You
said yourself that you didn’t want it to be casual. If that’s really
what you want then stand by it and the time will come when you meet
someone you want to take the plunge with. Wait for someone good. 🙂
That’s my advice. They won’t be the love of your life. You don’t even
need it to be a long term relationship. Just make sure it’s someone good.
You are experiencing what is known as a lesbian miracle.
Or the plot of MTV’s Faking It…
ANYWAY.
You didn’t stop it before it went too far. You are soooooo very past that point. The moment her lips came near you and her hand went between your legs ended any chance of your “just friends” status. The only thing to do now is to take it and go with it. She’s your best friend. You love her. She’s reciprocated. Time to find out what’s there beyond friendship.
(She needs to cut the bf loose before you do anything else though. Starting it off with dishonesty and you feeling like a dirty secret will only serve to hurt you both.)
No, that is not normal and usually indicative of a problem going on. I would make an appointment with your gynecologist and have it checked out. It could be nothing or it could be a symptom of something real happening (ie. ovarian cysts, inflammatory pelvic disease, something with your uterus, etc.) Get it checked out. Better to know than to be in pain and speculating.
Is he going slow or rushing? You need to have a lot of foreplay, a lot of fooling around and kissing and touching before trying it. And even then, you have to go slow, ease in, let your body adjust to it. The more often you do it, the easier it gets, but you have to let your body adjust – he can’t just ram into you before you’re ready especially when your body is very new to this.
Are you sure you’re wet enough? Try using a water based lube and see if that makes a difference. Also, if you’re worried or nervous about the penetration – that works against you. It’ll make you tighter and dry. Try to relax, lie down comfortably, kiss and touch and have him rub circles around your clit for a little until you’re soaking wet and then he can slowly push a finger in and test it out. He shouldn’t be jamming them in and immediately trying to fuck you.
There was a post on tumblr I saw recently that said girls enjoy fingering when “you know the difference between summoning a genie and stuffing a chicken”. So accurate.
Your body needs to relax in order to open up more to the intrusion. Have you tried oral sex? Having him go down on you? That’s one of the best things to make penetration more pleasurable for you – if he can get you to orgasm BEFORE penetration, the contractions from your orgasm will naturally open your channel and you’ll be well aroused and ready for him. Even if you don’t orgasm through oral, the oral still helps a lot because that pleasure will help your body relax, open, lubricate itself with your arousal, and make you ready for penetration. Send him down there and let it happen! Oral is gold.
If none of this works then I would say it’s time to see a doctor because it’s possible there may be some health issue going on or an obstruction that’s causing you pain. (If you can use a tampon without pain, then there’s no obstruction.)
The point is, sex should not hurt. So keep asking why and don’t ever just accept things the way they are. You will figure it out and you will experience pleasure, just keep looking for different answers/ways because sex does not and should not hurt (unless you want it to, but that’s a whole ‘nother thing).
Would you like to keep your job? Keep those fantasies to yourself and stop snooping too! The only way you “accidentally” stumble across nudes while babysitting is when you “accidentally” open a file/desk/dresser “accidentally” looking for something that would never be there. Get real.
Unless they laid those private pictures out on a table for you to see as a not so subtle invitation into a threesome – highly unlikely – your fantasies will remain fantasies and if you try anything, you will be out of a job. Personally, I’d take the money.
YOU BETTER BE A DAMN GOOD BABYSITTER FOR THAT KID/S!
Two terms that mean the same thing.
STD = Sexually Transmitted Diseases
STI = Sexually Transmitted Infections
STI
is the more accurate medical terminology because an infection is only
called a disease when it has symptoms and not all STD’s do.
You can be infected and not show symptoms which means that it doesn’t fit
the definition of “disease”. STI the more appropriate
terminology.
They still mean the same thing.
Chlamydia can lie dormant in the body for many years causing a low grade
infection without symptoms – which is why it’s called “the Silent Infection”. When the infection flares up with symptoms, it’s usually due to a change in the immune system – like a cold/flu, cancer, or some other illness.
Even though chlamydia is the number one most common STI – a large number of cases still aren’t reported because people are asymptomatic. Chlamydia in men more often goes undetected because a) they show no symptoms and b) they don’t get tested.
Chlamydia often affects women more quickly and more seriously because it’s a bacterial infection and they have a lot more IMPORTANT STUFF down low that can easily be infected and cause more obvious symptoms.
However, both men and women can carry and transfer chlamydia for a long time without knowing because they don’t get tested and they don’t have symptoms. This is why you need to get tested at least every 6 months when you’re sexually active! Safe sex and unsafe sex – you still need to be tested because you will not know for certain unless you are tested for it.
Gonorrhea can go unnoticed in men, but it’s less common. Gonorrhea for men is more obvious with its symptoms. It’s more likely for gonorrhea to be undetected for a longer time in women because the symptoms are milder for women.
Either way, the moral of the story is DON’T HAVE UNPROTECTED SEX AND GET TESTED ROUTINELY. Because you never know. You never know.
That’s so cute! No, you’re fine. Totally 100% fine. It’s just one grade apart – which, admittedly, is a bigger gap maturity wise than say 22 and 23 (which is nothing), but it’s still just one grade difference. Right now, it seems a little bigger than it really is because of all the big events that start happening at 18 (legal, graduating, going to college, etc.). 2 years from now, your so called “age difference” will be nonexistent. It’s just a weird little period of your life where you’re still a teenager, but the magical number 18 makes the world think of you differently, when you really haven’t changed at all. Don’t worry about it.
However, the thing that you might want to start thinking about is what the changes in your life are going to do to your relationship and whether or not you’re going to be able to evolve with those changes. You’ll be graduating, likely going to college, and she’ll still have another year of HS. In a sense, you’ll be leaving her behind. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with your ages, but you two will face a big life event here and it is ALWAYS taxing on a relationship when one starts to move on to something different before the other does. I wish you all the best!!
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