Do you think you have to use a riding crop or feathers or something just because she’s blindfolded? That’s such a cliche and not at all true. I mean, sure, you could try that if you wanted to, but I’d save that for later exploration. Not on your first try.
Blindfolding is about sensory deprivation. Removing one sense heightens the others. No sight means that taste, touch, smell, and hearing becomes more acute. It’s your first time, just explore and have fun with it. Test it out. See what it’s like! You’re not “supposed” to do anything specific when someone is blindfolded. There’s no manual or a step by step playbook that you’re supposed to follow. It’s simply exploring how not being able to see, increases your reaction to touch (and your other senses). The biggest sense involved during sex is TOUCH and when you remove a sense, it’s going to make touch more intense and you’re going to feel more than you usually would during sex. It’s incredibly erotic.
Make sure you’re paying attention to how she’s feeling and her comfort level during this. If she starts to get anxious or overwhelmed, talk to her about it, stop, take the blindfold off, wait until she’s ready to try again or be ready to change it up if she doesn’t want to try it anymore. Just be alert and aware of your partner’s emotions. It’s easy for a person to get overwhelmed when using sensory deprivation.
A tie is better than a bandana – make sure it’s comfortable but secure around her eyes – hopefully it’s a silk or satin tie because polyester would get scratchy.
First turn the lights off (gradual deprivation is better than sudden), then blindfold her, and as you’re putting it on, whisper in her ear about how amazing it’s going to be, how hot this is, how sexy she is, tell her how she’s going to love what you’re going to do to her. Basically whatever you feel comfortable with saying, but whispering it against her ear while you’re putting a blindfold on her is going to be really hot for her.
Everything that you usually do when you have sex is going to feel more intense for her because she can’t see any of it. You don’t have to do anything different than what you normally do! It’ll be different just because she has a blindfold on. You’ll find out what gets her going and arouses her the most through trial and error. Have fun with it and see what all the hype is about. 😉
Some basic suggestions about what to do after the blindfold goes on:
– Kiss her, kiss her everywhere, lick her, taste her, touch her, turn her on her stomach and kiss her over her back and thighs and neck and ass, then turn her over again and do it again. Take your time.
– Don’t kiss her! Brush your lips against hers without really kissing her, move down her body without touching her anywhere, just let her feel your warm breath on her skin, maybe let your lips graze her, but never any real pressure or kisses. It’ll drive her crazy! She’ll be begging you and grabbing at you (in that case, I would pin her wrists down so you can keep teasing her long enough to get her where you want her to be).
– Give her a massage. Oil it up!
Some other “easy” ideas to try:
– Tease her. She can’t see where you are or where your hands are going to be so use that to your advantage – surprise her – make her guess where you’re going to go next. Don’t give her exactly what she wants until you’ve built up her arousal enough for your liking. If she cums easily, bring her to the edge of orgasm and then taper off, don’t let her cum. Do that a few times and then when you finally let her orgasm, she won’t be able to move for an hour. It’ll be amazing.
– Ice cubes or cold water. You can use an ice cube around her nipples and her navel. Play with her nipples more than you usually would, try biting them lightly after they’re hard and erect from the cold. Whatever works for her! The sensations will be increased threefold because she’s blindfolded.
– Use a vibrator. Don’t tell her you want to use it, surprise her and bring it out after she’s blindfolded, let her hear it first, build up the anticipation, then use it on her. (If she’s the kind of person that would want consent beforehand, then obviously, get permission for any toy use before even getting into bed. You’ve been together for a year, you know her well enough by now to know what’s okay and what’s not.)
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