Tag: relationships

My guy will not go down on me. It makes me feel disgusting. He won’t even try it. I know it’s not because I smell because I’m all about being clean and making sure I’m clean before entering the bedroom. My vagina also looks totally normal. I just don’t get it. He says he doesn’t really like fingering either, but can tolerate it.

DUMP. THAT. DOUCHEBAG. ASSHOLE.

I’m not joking. Dump him now. Call him and tell him to go fuck himself.

No one should make you feel that way. You are NOT disgusting. If he has a problem with sex (yes, fingering and oral are indeed a vital aspect of sex as a whole) then why the hell would you want to waste another single, solitary, second on some asshole who doesn’t know what the fuck he’s doing and treating you like shit because of it?

He’ll “tolerate” fingering? How about tolerating your boot up his ass? Cause that’s what he deserves for being such a stupid, selfish, prick.

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Every time my boyfriend and I are about to have sex he isn’t hard. I tried hand jobs and blowing him..but it doesn’t work. Idk what to think or do anymore and this already happened twice..

Twice? How many times have you tried it and it’s worked?

If it’s seriously impacting your sex life then you do need to talk to him. It’s his issue. Something is going on with him. Whether it’s physical or mental, I don’t know. But it’s not you, I promise. Physical stimulation produces an automatic, involuntary response in men so if he’s not reacting to that then there’s definitely something wrong. ED is a super sensitive topic with men, it’s basically calling into question their masculinity and purpose as a man – all society based concepts that are so ridiculous and unfair to men. It is nothing to be ashamed of. It doesn’t mean they’re any less of a man just because they’re having an issue.

85% of the causes of ED are attributed to physical issues that can be resolved! You just need to see a doctor about it. If it’s not physical, the most common psychological factors are depression, anxiety, and stress. Do you notice him going through anything recently, acting differently than he usually does. Because that could be it right there.

He likely feels really embarrassed about this (which he shouldn’t) and he might try to avoid discussing it so you’ll have to push a little bit. Try to be as compassionate as possible and talk about it candidly with him. It’s affecting your sex life, so something has to be done. You guys need to have a real conversation. If you don’t, it’s the pink elephant in the room, and it’s going to get so awkward and uncomfortable that you guys will end up going your separate ways.

It’s not an easy thing to address. Just remember compassion, don’t be condescending or blame him for anything. He can’t help it and neither can you. Confront it together, as a team, instead of putting it all on him with an attitude of “why can’t you do this?”

If it happens once or twice, that’s nothing to worry about. If it’s more than that, then there’s a cause for concern. TALK!

Hi.I had sex for the first time last year but i didn’t enjoy it like when i masturbate.i’m addicted to masturbation since i’m 13 now 19.i feel so ashamed about it :(i want to stop masturbating @( a)i am afraid to loose him when he finds out

Uh, what exactly qualifies as addiction? How many times a day are you masturbating? Cause it’s really totally normal, even if it’s every day.

Sex for the first time is almost never good in the sense of purely physical pleasure. Practice makes perfect. The more you do it, the better it gets because not only does your body adapt, but you start learning about what you need to do to make it good.

If you’ve been having sex for a year with this guy and it’s not as good as what you do alone then you have two options to consider.

A) He’s a dud in bed and you need to break up. ‘Cause, really, what’s the point?

B) You might be too inhibited during sex and instead of showing him what you like/need, you’re holding back out of shyness, embarrassment, whatever. You can’t rely on the other person to know everything that makes you tick. You have to help them get to know you. Guide them. Don’t leave them hanging. You know what works for you, now you have to teach your partner to do it. Sex is about teamwork. You have to let someone else help you out now instead of doing all the work yourself.

Hi, I’m an 18 year old girl and I lost my virginity on my 15th birthday to my girlfriend at the time. She was 14 1/2. It was honestly the best sex I’d ever had, and I’ve had multiple sexual partners since then. Do you think that it’s wrong that we had sex so early? I’ve never regretted it and neither has she I don’t think.

If you don’t regret it, then of course it’s not wrong. You obviously chose a moment when you were ready for it. Not many people are prepared at that age, but if you were, then good for you.

However, is it possible that maybe you’re looking back at your first time through rose colored glasses? Maybe it wasn’t that the sex was so great, but that you were so happy to be with who you were with? She was your first. We all have a soft spot for our first loves, a part of us may always be in love with them. It’s a strange thing. Doesn’t mean they were “the one”, but they have a part of us that we can’t get back – stays with you our whole lives. So maybe you’re looking back at her knowing how much you loved her and it’s just that you haven’t found the right person yet that will succeed her. (You will find that person eventually.)

We tend to over romanticize/dramatize significant moments in our lives especially when it’s with people we care about. If it was subpar, we can blow it out of proportion and say WORST EVER. If it was good, then that can sometimes be elevated in our memories to BEST EVER.

Either way, if you’re still comparing sex with your ex-girlfriend to current partners today…you might want to take a hard look at what you’re doing and why you keep thinking about her. Why was it the best sex you’ve ever had? What made it that way? What turns sex from good into great into amazing is usually how we feel about the partner we’re with.

hi, i’m a girl. and recently I broke up with my gf, we were dating for six moths,I feel bad and lost without her. I feel I can survive without her, but i don’t want to, she was like everything to me, and I just screwed everything up,it’s shitty. I guess, we broke up because I wanted too much from her, I pressed on her,and I know my fault, I know her fault. So, how do you think, do I have a chance to get her back? also, she said her feelings is not so strong how it used to be, and just idk. help?

You can survive without her and you will, even if it feels like you’re drowning without her. It’s not true, you’re not actually drowning, it only feels that way. And it won’t feel like that forever.

Time helps. You need time. You’ll start to breathe normally again and you’ll live your life and spend time with your family and your friends and someday you’ll realize you moved on. You’ll realize that it doesn’t hurt as much anymore. You’ll find someone else, something that I know seems like it’s impossible and something that you don’t even want in the least, but the point is that there is a future for you without her. You’re so young. I promise you, it hurts for a while, but it gets better.

Don’t try to get her back. Why do you want someone back who says they don’t even feel as strongly about you as they used to? You have to know when to let go, when to recognize that a relationship is ending and should end. Accept it, grieve for it, and then move on.

You are strong enough to get through this. Heartbreak helps you understand and appreciate love far more than those who have never had their hearts broken. It’s a way of life and it’s getting you one step closer to finding the person you ARE meant to be with.

How do you know if you are in love with someone? I’m in a long distance relationship&my “boyfriend” says he’s in love me And that scares the hell out me because I don’t know if I’m in love with him.. We’ve been dating over a year&I still don’t know..

If you don’t know after a year whether or not you’re in love with someone, then you actually do know the answer…

How do you have rough sex? My gf (we are both girls) seems to really want it but i have no idea how to? the idea turns me on as much as it scares me. Im not really sure if i am scared because i have no idea what to do or the idea that i might hurt her; though i think it is both actually. Any advice for a first timer? She thinks i am too vanilla and i want to tell her i am not just that i am not sure how to

Take baby steps. You don’t have to jump in all at once. Try little things to experiment and see how it works for you, WHAT works for you. Being rough doesn’t mean you have to start slapping her around and flogging her!

Try some light spanking, scratching, hair pulling, biting, dirty talk. Have a safe word. Test each other’s limits, learn them. You could bind her hands and use a strap on, that’s hot, and it’s not overly rough, it’s more about dominance.

Try being more dominant, exerting more power during sex, more authority, more control. That’s where you start and that’s how you can show her that you’re not so vanilla after all. SHOW, don’t just tell. 😉

Rough sex is not always about the kinky stuff with toys – it starts with the psychological elements of dominant and submissive. One partner usually likes a little pain and the other likes to take control and get an adrenaline rush that way. It’s different for everyone. Don’t be afraid to get into it. That’s what a safe word is for, just in case anyone oversteps, and that’s how you learn limits. You can’t hold back otherwise it won’t be as good.

Talk about your fantasies. Discuss the things, kinks, that turn you on or that you’ve always thought about wanting to try. Let yourself go, let your emotions take over, find your baser sexual urges and tap into them! Getting rough requires trust and sexual freedom. If you don’t have sexual self confidence, then you’re not going to be able to release yourself fully.

Trust, let go, and fuck your girl exactly the way you want to fuck her.

Check out this article for more specific tips.

Hi I was wondering if I could get advice or tips on pleasing girls? My boyfriend and I are having a threesome soon and I have never done anything with a girl besides hook up with them. I am attracted to girls and still trying to figure out if I could be bisexual or not. I watch a lot of lesbian porn and so far I have been very turned on while kissing another female, It’s just I have never found the right girl to find out with. I am very nervous that I won’t be able to please the other girl right

I think you’re pretty much between a 2 and 3 on the Kinsey Scale… If not certainly a 3. You’re attracted to girls, you like making out with girls, etc. It just so happens that you haven’t found the right girl yet. That will happen eventually.

As for tips, check out the sex advice tags page.

But the easiest thing to stress is to trust your instincts. Think about what YOU like and then transfer it to her. You change and adapt according to the response she gives. Trust me, you’re not sexually inexperienced, you know what works to make yourself orgasm, now the tables are turned and you have to apply that knowledge to another girl. Maybe she’ll even teach you a thing or two… 😉

does confidence have any effect on the ability to orgasm? I’ve been with a handful of girls and have made only a few cum. One was a very self confident girl and we had great sex and I was able to make her cum on average 4 times before I do, but this new girl I’m with I’m her first partner, and I’ve tried everything but I can’t make her cum. She’s not as confident as my other partners. I still haven’t seen her breasts because she won’t let me. she’d let me lick her all night and day though

Self confidence leads to being more comfortable and being comfortable means you’re relaxed and being relaxed means you’re more willing to let yourself be open and FEEL.

So, yes, confidence has a huge impact on whether or not a girl orgasms. It really does take two when it comes to sex. Women need to learn how to ACCEPT an orgasm and men need to learn all the right ways to give them one. It’s teamwork.

Help your girlfriend with her confidence. Build her up. Work on trust. Be patient. Listen to her. Get to know her needs and what she likes. It’ll happen.

Always remember though: all girls are different.

They like different things, different methods turn them on or turn them off, what works for one girl might not work for another. There’s no “one size fits all” concept when it comes to sex. Everyone is unique and that’s one of the best parts – learning everything there is to know about each person. So if you’re just repeating the same things you did with other girls and not changing it up based on the girl you’re with, that could be a big part of the problem as well.

You have to adapt to each individual’s sexual needs.

I’ve recently made out this girl, she told me she didn’t want to have anything serious with anyone, and 5 days later she went back to her ex-girlfriend and I just can’t get over her, I see her everyday in school and everything and I really wanna go after her, but I think she wouldn’t ever be with me. Should I go after her, even though she has a gf and everything?

She chose her ex. That’s it. Don’t pursue someone that would choose someone else over you. You deserve better. It’s hard to see past her right now, but give it time. Someone else will catch your eye and they will be 10x better than you ever hoped for.

Chasing/longing for someone who is in a relationship with someone else and WANTS to be with that other person? Never good. You’re the one who will get your heart broken. Don’t do that to yourself. She’s just not the right one.