You idiot!!! That’s a pretty freaking big detail to leave out when you’re asking someone for advice! Sheesh.
With that “tiny” detail now known, all I can say is…you’re fucked.
Lol. No. Okay, so is your hesitation due to your best friend and how she might react? Because dating a sibling is a bit tricky… (This would work so much easier if you came off anon! I’ll private message you, okay?)se
Here’s the good news: you’re both in the same boat! Let that ease your anxiety a bit. She’s nervous, you’re nervous, so let that comfort you in knowing that you’re on equal footing here.
That being said, what’s stopping you? The fact that she’s a girl? SO WHAT? It’s a person that you’re attracted to so do what your instincts tell you to do. Don’t give yourself a complex about the gender difference. Sexuality is fluid. It doesn’t mean that you’re gay or that you’re straight or that you’re bi. You’re attracted to someone…so go for it. If she was a guy, you would have already made a move, am I right? Or at least pushed him to make the move.
You can do one of two things: you can talk to her about your feelings for her or you can kiss her (then talk about your feelings).
If you’re unsure of how she’s feeling about you, whether or not she’s feeling the same, then the only thing you can do is suck it up, be brave, and talk to her about it. Tell her how you feel. She might not feel the same and, yes, that will suck, but at least you’ll know where you stand and all that tension from the unknown will be resolved (even if it means leaving you hurt).
However, if you’ve already talked about this with her, or if you’re feeling the receptive vibes, then kiss her! That will help. Taking that next step. Make it short and sweet since she’s not experienced with kissing and then you both will be able to move from there. You can talk about how nervous you are and what you’ve been thinking. You will be more certain of your feelings after that kiss. You’ll feel if it’s right and she’ll know what she feels as well.
Even if she does share your feelings, she’s not going to make the first move because of the imbalance of experience in general. You’ve already been with people and she hasn’t.
Have you talked about your feelings with each other? It kind of sounds like you did from what you said. But I could be wrong. If you have discussed your feelings for each other then DEFINITELY KISS HER ALREADY!
Is there any other reason why it’s awkward for you two other than the fact that you’re both girls who have never been with another girl before? Because if that’s all that’s stopping you, you need to change your mindset. Girl/boy – doesn’t matter. Kiss who you wanna kiss. Love who you love. Experience is the least of your concerns. If you want to, you both will learn about each other as you go. Just enjoy it! There will be missteps and awkwardness and fumbling, but that’s all part of the joy of being together and getting to know another person.
Enjoy learning about each other and exploring in all the ways you want to. There’s no shame in it. None at all.
elizabethjackson2012 replied to your post: theres this one guy that i have sex with and he is…
You should never be afraid to tell your partner if something hurts or makes you uncomfortable. If they love you, they wouldn’t want to hurt you. It doesn’t have to come across as a criticism. Just say, “Gently please baby… softly.”
Honesty is the best policy. If he’s not doing something that you need, trust me, the guy is gonna want to know! I know it’s awkward because you don’t want to embarrass the other person so my advice would be to talk him through it when he’s doing it. A little bit of instruction goes a long way, especially when you’re breathless, naked, and holding him by the back of his head. 😉
When he starts using his mouth on your nipples, just gently tell him how you want it done. Tell him you how you want to feel his tongue on you, tell him to go slower, tell him how good it feels when he does it. Don’t tell him he was doing it wrong before (he’ll get that without it being said), just tell him how you want it done now. If he’s the right kind of guy, he’s going to want to do everything he can to please you, and he’d probably hate that he’s been getting that part wrong. If he gets shy about it, encourage him even more. Verbal and non verbal praise and encouragement will get you everywhere!
That’s just my humble opinion. Anyone else have thoughts on this?
Sumptuous Daydreams 