Tag: orgasm

I’m a 19 year old boyish lesbian. I have had sex with girls but I have never made a girl a cum and I have never used sex toys. I am the dominating one in most cases and I prefer giving sex than receiving. I would like to know what would be the best way of making a girl cum. How can I make her have an orgasm. It will be really helpful if you could answer to these questions. I want to give her the best pleasure that I can. Thanks

Okay, first, have you ever had an orgasm? Whether from masturbating or with someone else? Because if you haven’t, that’s the first thing you need to do. In order to be able to understand the pleasure you’re trying to give another person, you need to experience it for yourself. That is, first and foremost, the best way to comprehend what it is you need to do, how to connect with what your partner is feeling, and to be able to give them the best experience possible.

You don’t need sex toys to make a girl orgasm (but it always helps, definitely not a bad thing). Oral is the easiest way to make a girl cum. Master that first and the rest of it you’ll learn with time.

The way you phrased it really makes me think that you take all of the pressure of sex on yourself and that you view it as your job to please the other person and know exactly how. That’s not how sex works. Sex is a physical and emotional connection between two people. It’s something you do TOGETHER, with give and take, not just one person doing all the work and the other getting all the pleasure.

You have to understand, being able to receive is GREAT, but a lot of people really enjoy giving as well (as you do!). Giving can grant just as much satisfaction as receiving, it’s just in a different way. It’s all part of the experience. You like being able to make someone feel good and that makes you feel good in turn, right? Well, remember that you’re not the only one who feels that way! Other people want to give too. They want the chance to be the one to make you cum and know what that feels like as well. So less dominating and more teamwork! You need to be able to listen to your partner and work in tandem to make this happen. It’s not a one-woman show! Talk to her, ask her questions, listen to her, watch her responses, a moan, a lip bite, a sigh, her stomach muscles contracting, etc. All of that will help you become more in tune with what she needs.

For a step-by-step process to lay it all out for you, read this:

Back to Basics

I know it’s not your first time, which is what the article is aimed towards, but it’s really specific in each step that you should think about and take into consideration. So I would definitely give the whole thing a read from beginning to end!

How can I make myself squirt? My girl friend said it turns her on and I want to squirt for her.

There’s no specific “method” to squirting. Honestly, it’s not even medically proven that every woman has the ability to ejaculate. I have heard, however, that it takes a lot of experimenting to find what will make it happen for you personally.

The most common denominator is that it involves a VIGOROUS stimulation of the clit and the G-spot. Once you’re worked up and wet from playing with your clit, you move to your G-spot. Use your fingers in a circular, steady, aggressive, pace to stimulate the G-spot. You can just use your fingers, but adding toys to the mix makes it easier though.

It often happens after your first orgasm, so this isn’t a one-off, it might happen in between your second or third. Just because you ejaculate, doesn’t mean you’ve had an orgasm yet. It’s a different kind of experience. Most women say that you know when it’s about to happen because it almost feels like you have to pee. The key is to ALLOW that to happen. Squirting seems to go hand in hand with very vigorous, rough, sex.

For more specific details try reading this:

HOW TO SQUIRT

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Go hard, get wet.

How does an orgasm feel? Because I feel my body tensing up and clenching my fingers but I never end up satisfied.

Many a fanfic writer has wasted away their days trying to accurately describe the wondrous experience known as an orgasm…

All have failed.

There’s no way to describe it other than that if you’re wondering whether or not you’ve had an orgasm, then you have not had an orgasm.

My advice is to relax and breathe deeply, even holding your breath for a few seconds before exhaling. It’s like you’re trying to breathe every ounce of pleasure happening to your body further inside yourself. You feel it more acutely and then you have to relax and ALLOW your body to feel it (in the exhale). Men get all tight and clenched right before they orgasm, but women need to be as calm and open to pleasure as they can possibly be in order to allow their body to crest and fall over the tipping point.

Try using a vibrator against your clit. It really helps!