Tag: oral

What’s the best position to eat a girl out

Ones where the girl feels the most comfortable. The more comfortable, confident, relaxed she is, the better it will feel. So all those crazy standing positions, or like hanging onto a rope while being eaten out in midair, are just overrated. They can be fun, but they’re not the most conducive for the BEST of the BEST.

Try having her on her back with pillows under her ass and her legs draped over your shoulders.The higher she is, the more you can reach and the angle is better. But if her back is arching too much, that can be uncomfortable. So watch out for that.

Also try it sideways. Both of you on your sides, your head between her legs, and go to town. There’s a lot of access that way, it’s really comfortable, and it’s different than the norm so it feels great. You can have fun doing a 69 that way too, instead of being on top of each other, try just being side by side.

Would you say its polite to give oral after you have received?

Personally, I would say that giving oral is always polite. It’s something that most people enjoy, and a really fun experience to share together.

Some people are not quite as into oral sex, but that’s something that can always be discussed with your partner. Communication, as always, is the key.

As a quick side note, some people are pretty expectant of receiving oral once they’ve given it, and while I’m not down with all that selfish behavior, I think it’s something to consider. If someone goes down on you, they’re probably going to want something in return. But, as far as it being polite, well, absolutely. Everyone loves an orgasm.

-teagan.

I’m a lesbian and I plan on eating my girlfriend out for the first time very soon. I don’t know how to use any sort of protection but I was wondering if I even had to since we’re both clean of STD’s and we’re virgins? We honestly don’t plan on having sex with anyone else. (We’ve been together for 2 years)

If you don’t use protection when engaging in sexual activity, such as eating a girl out, that’s a personal choice you make. You know you’re still a virgin, but you’re taking her on her word that she’s a virgin as well. You can never be 100% certain what she’s done with others. People lie. It’s just the truth.

Dental dams are the way to protect yourself when you go down on a woman. It’s a thin, rectangular piece of rubber (like a condom) that you put over the vagina to prevent any fluid exchange. (You also would use this for any mouth to anus play – rimming/analingus.) Almost everything is the same when you’re eating her out, the only difference is that, like a condom, there will be a thin piece of latex between you and her vagina. (If you’re allergic to latex, they make them in silicone too.) This video shows you what a dental dam looks like and how to place it over the vagina.

If you choose to engage in any form of unprotected sex, even when eating out a girl without dental dams or going down on a guy without a condom, you have to acknowledge and accept the fact that you are taking a risk. Both of those acts are often glossed over when it comes to safe sex because a lot of people either don’t realize the risk they’re taking or they choose to roll the dice and hope for the best. A lot of people take the risk and do just fine. Some aren’t as lucky. Use your judgment and choose your partners wisely.

Just know that, YES, you can get STD’s that way and, YES, it could happen to you. Just because you can’t get pregnant through oral does not mean that oral sex is “safe sex”. You could easily get gonorrhea in your throat from an unprotected blowjob or herpes/genital warts from unprotected cunnilingus. It can happen! That’s all I want people to understand. That it’s possible. You are not immune.

Now, it’s highly unlikely in your case, for your particular situation, but it’s good to know for the future! Up to you!

Additionally, you always want to have routine STD screenings when you’re sexually active. Trust is an essential part of a relationship, BUT you still need to protect yourself. So even if you believe with all your heart that your partner is committed to you and can’t possibly give you an STD they contracted from someone else, you still need to acknowledge that it’s POSSIBLE. So always be safe, protect yourself first and foremost, and get yourself tested on a regular basis.

Is deep throating something that you have to practice to get right? I’ve tried once but i couldn’t really handle it

Deep throating is absolutely something you have to practice!  Don’t worry about not being able to do so immediately, some people have a really sensitive gag reflex, and some people don’t have a gag reflex at all.

First of all, deep throat can be a really enjoyable thing for both you and your partner — as long as you’ve made yourself comfortable doing it.  You don’t want to feel obligated to do so or like you’re choking just trying to keep their cock down your throat.

If you have a really sensitive gag reflex, there are some ways to desensitize that.  One way to do this is by practicing. Find a popsicle stick or something, and starting at the front of your tongue, move the stick along your tongue until you reach the part where you begin to gag.  Once you find it, take a few days to continually poke at it, and get past the discomfort.  You continue doing this, until you get all the way back.  If you don’t condition yourself this way, it’s possible that you’ll have problems with gagging at any point on your tongue – the front, or the middle, or the back. I know it sounds weird, but it’s true.

Another thing to do, is go slow.  Make sure that you have a signal for your partner if he’s going too fast, or being too harsh, and make sure he knows that you want to set the pace.  Start by taking him completely into your mouth until you feel him hitting the back of your throat, and then slowly work up to accepting him even further into your throat.  Eventually, with practice, you’ll also be able to deal with the movement that action requires, but don’t push yourself!

In all actuality, it might be possible that it just isn’t something you enjoy, or your body won’t allow you to do it. But, there’s no harm in practicing, and there’s no harm in not doing it, either.  It’s your body, and it’s all up to you. (:

-teagan

Well i was wondering where am i supposed to spit after givin someone a blowjob, because like how is the situation you know?

First of all, you should never do anything that you’re uncomfortable with, so whether you want to spit or swallow is up to you.

There are a few options, once your partner comes you can either spit it on him, (though, that is probably something you would want to discuss with them first), or keep a cup handy to spit into.  You can also keep a towel nearby, or just spit it on the blankets in a pinch.  Good sex is usually messy sex, so you shouldn’t be too concerned about things getting a little messier.  There’s also always the option of going into the bathroom if you have one at your disposal.  Of course, that might cause your partner some discomfort, so to spare their feelings maybe tell them what you’re doing, so they aren’t horrified and think you’re just bailing on them.  Communication is important here!

Of course, another thing to consider is that if you’re worried about the taste here, spitting is only going to make that worse since you’ll be holding it in your mouth for longer.

Also, if you really don’t want to deal with the spit or swallow issue, you can always let them cum elsewhere.  Let them cum on your chest, or your stomach, or wherever you’re comfortable with — or not on you at all.  You can always get them close to their climax, and then finish the job with your hand instead.

Basically, there is really no way you’re “supposed” to give a blowjob, or spit or anything else.  The technique is up to you, and so is what you decide to do with the cum in your mouth.  And don’t worry, if you decide you want to swallow instead, cum is good for you!  (;

-teagan.

Hi there! Both my girlfriend and I, are virgins. We plan on giving each other our virginity and we talk about it a lot (I’m 17, she’s 18) I told her I would definitely eat her out because I’m comfortable with that and I want to please her also. I just have one question, is it sanitary? We’re both very clean people who haven’t had any sexual contact with anyone but ourselves whilst masturbating. I heard you’re suppose to wash your face after or not get cum on your face because of diseases? Help?

It’s absolutely sanitary! And, no, you’re not going to get an STD from having cum on your face or from not washing your face after sex…

If your partner has an STD or another communicable disease then you’ll get it from engaging in any form of unprotected sex – oral or intercourse. It has nothing to do with you leaving cum on your face for too long or something, haha.

Don’t worry about it. Just wipe it off with the back of your hand or on her thighs or her stomach or even the sheets, and keep on going! It would actually be incredibly insulting/rude if you just left right after eating her out to wash your face… Sex gets messy and good sex is even messier! Enjoy it!

On the flip side, semen actually contains properties that are really good for your skin! Weird but true…

Can you catch a cold sore from giving oral sex?

Okay, let’s start off by clarifying that cold sores are a form of Herpes Simplex – Oral Herpes (HSV-1).

When someone has an outbreak, which is when they have a cold sore or a fever blister (whatever you want to call it), that’s when HSV-1 is the most contagious. When the symptoms/blisters are present, when they’re actually on your mouth, that’s when you can easily give it to someone else. Sharing a cup, sharing a towel, and yes, oral sex. If you have an outbreak and you perform oral sex on someone, you are opening them to a high risk of infection.

Oral herpes is transmitted through direct contact between the contagious area and broken skin (a cut or break) and mucous membrane tissue (such as the mouth or genitals). Herpes can also be transmitted when there are no symptoms present. There are several days throughout the year when the virus reactivates yet causes no symptoms (called asymptomatic shedding, viral shedding, or asymptomatic reactivation).

So if you have an outbreak, refrain from kissing on the mouth and performing oral sex until the sore heals and the skin goes back to normal. However, a large majority of the adult population already has HSV-1 and it’s asymptomatic for many.

There’s also a reverse! By performing oral sex on someone who has genital herpes, it would be possible to contract oral herpes – but that’s rare. Most cases of genital herpes are caused by HSV-2, which rarely affects the mouth or face.

However, you will likely contract HSV-2, genital herpes, if you perform oral sex on someone who has it, especially if they have any open sores around that area. I don’t want to freak people out, but yes, you can contract genital herpes EVEN WHEN THERE ARE NO VISIBLE SORES.

So oral herpes is a very mild disease, there’s no cure, but the biggest issue is largely cosmetic. Genital herpes, with the HSV-2 virus, however, is more painful, and can be worse if you have a suppressed immune system. The sores are easily transferred to other parts of the body so you have to be particularly careful. Wash your hands immediately if you touch a sore.

Oral and genital herpes are manageable conditions so don’t panic. Yes, you should take all the precautions you can, but if you do contract the virus, it’s not the end of the world.

Talk to your doctor!

My boyfriend ate me out for the first time today and i could feel i was really close but i just couldnt cum…. What should i do to help that happen….?

Deep breathing and relax, let your mind go. That’s the best advice I can give. Plus, it was your first time where he did that so it’s only natural that you were perhaps a bit nervous and tense because of that.

I’m an 18 year old girl and I’ve gone down of guys before but we always get interrupted before he finishes. But I don’t even know what to do when he does cum. Do I spit or swallow or? I just need some advice.. Thank you!

That’s your choice! Think about what you’d be comfortable with. A lot of guys prefer it when you swallow because they like being in your mouth until the very end and it’s also really hot for them to watch you.

You can swallow, you can take it and then spit (some of it does accidentally go down your throat though and you actually taste more of it because, with spitting, it swirls around in your mouth for a longer period of time), or you don’t have to take any of his cum at all!

If you’re not comfortable with it then DO NOT SWALLOW. You don’t have to, it’s not a requirement, and your guy will be perfectly fine with it.

Just discuss it with him before you start and make sure that he knows to pull away and finish himself off (or you can do it with your hand) into a tissue or somewhere on your body, whatever you want.

Test the waters. Try actually getting the point of climax with him (no swallowing, he jerks off onto something else) and after you’ve seen it the first time, decide whether or not you would mind having him cum in your mouth the next time. If you don’t want to do it, don’t do it. It’s that simple. Just communicate that with your partner and make sure he’s on the same page so there are no “surprises”…

Do you consider receiving oral sex as losing your virginity

It depends. I think oral is a very intimate sexual act that someone is performing on you. It really all comes down to what you feel and how you look at it. Personally, I don’t think penetration is the be all, end all defining sex act that means you’re no longer a “virgin”.

If having a penis inside you is the only way to end your “virginity” then there are a HELL of a lot lesbians out there that are still virgins despite having multiple partners for years… It’s all in your personal perspective. What line would you need to cross to no longer consider yourself a virgin?

And is it really that important to make the distinction? Virgin, not a virgin, half a virgin, whatever! You’re engaging in sexual activity. That’s all.