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Ok so I gave my bf head for the first time and I swallowed all of his cum. I was really proud and thought this was good but when I got home… I had a “cumshart” lol and then I had the worst diarrhea for two hours. On Google it said hiv but no I’m his only partner. Why did this happen? How can I prevent that? I really want to swallow his load but I can’t if I’m going to have the runs after lol. I’m so upset, has this happened to you?

I don’t know about the HIV aspect, I haven’t heard that, so I can’t tell you anything. I’m not a doctor. You did have unprotected sex so, yes, you are at risk for it. He told you that you’re his only partner, but people lie. You never know 100%. It’s always a good idea to get tested. That’s all I can say about that.

Now I’ve never experienced it, but I’ve heard about it happening to other people. My best guess is (again, I’m NOT a doctor nor do I have any medical expertise) that there was some bacteria on his junk.

Diarrhea is essentially the body flooding your bowel with water to flush out toxins before they’re absorbed into your blood stream. It’s a defensive measure.

There shouldn’t be any bacteria in semen, but it’s easy for it to collect on his dick/balls. It could have also been from your hands since I’m sure you used them in addition to sucking him off. So my advice is for both of you to thoroughly wash up before engaging in any sexual activity.

Another thought is that it could be an allergy of some kind? The first seems more likely. Either way, I’d try making sure you’re both scrubbed clean and if you still have the same reaction then don’t swallow it anymore! Obviously, your body is rejecting it for a reason. Have him ejaculate somewhere on your body or on your face, just don’t swallow and keep it away from your eyes!!!

I’m in my 30s, f, love sex, but have never gotten off from oral. All oral has ever done for me is make me beg to be penetrated. Or too wet. Really feel I’ve been missing out. Didn’t seem to matter, who was doing it. Is there something I should try?

To each his own.

Either you’ll meet someone who makes oral a life changing experience for you or you’re simply not into it. Everyone’s different! Use it as foreplay and then go for penetration!

There’s absolutely nothing unusual about it in the least. It’s all completely normal stuff. You like being penetrated to orgasm – that’s what works for you! Other people would say the opposite. Everyone has their own thing. Own it. Enjoy it. Use it.

(How is it possible to be “too wet”?? Pfft! No such thing!)

Me and this guy have been dating for a while now and we’ve done pretty much everything but sex. My question is about blowjobs. I get him to moan and he seems to enjoy it but he always ends up taking over to finish him self off. Does that mean I’m bad at it or something? Any tips.

No, not at all! Just that practice makes perfect.

He’s used to his own way of masturbating so he’s probably used to a hard and fast jerk off to the finish line (he should take it easy with that!).

So maybe you just haven’t been able to get the pace he needs at the end. Ask him! Try speeding up, sucking harder, etc. See what works. You can’t do the same thing every time and expect different results. Think of it as a fun experiment, not something to stress and worry about. It’s all about getting to know each other and what each of you like!

It’s helpful to combine your hands and your mouth when giving a bj. The two different tactile sensations are awesome! (Ie. one hand on the base of his shaft, jerking him off, covering whatever you can’t fit in your mouth.)

Hi! I am a lesbian and when me and my girlfriend have sex I almost always go down on her but she rarely does to me. I am the first person she’s ever been with and at first I thought it was because she just wasn’t confident having sex but now I don’t know. I don’t want to ask her up front to do it more because I want to respect her if she does feel uncomfortable or something. Any advice on how to either make her want to do it more or what i should do? thank you!

Respect comes from being upfront and honest. Respect her enough to be honest with her about what you want. It’s how you handle it AFTERWARDS that is the biggest thing.

Ask her to go down on you or ask her why she doesn’t seem to want to go down on you. Direct it on yourself, “I feel” “it makes me feel” “I could be totally wrong…” etc. Just don’t accuse her of something. Tell her how you’re perceiving the situation, which is that you think she’s uncomfortable with it.

Then you’re going to have a conversation about it. If she feels uncomfortable, respect that, and try to get her to explain why, and you guys can try to work on it. Maybe she doesn’t even realize that you feel like you’re not getting enough of it in return! Maybe you’ve been so obliging in the beginning because she was a virgin that she now thinks you DON’T want it as much as she does. We don’t know what goes on in other people’s heads! We can guess all we want, but the best chance we have is to just ASK THEM. Hopefully they’ll be honest with you in return.

It’s a conversation you need to have. You can’t try subliminal messaging to make her want to lick your pussy or bend over in front of her face and wag your ass to say “EAT IT!”. It’s the equivalent of a guy trying to push a girl’s head down to suck his dick. It’s insulting and not at all subtle.

Just talk it out.

Any tips/advice for first time rimming? gf and I are concerned about hygiene. We’re monogamous and std free. I know tongue can’t go directly directly from anus to vag, but can we catch anything orally from analingus (even after douching and shower)?

Douching is for the vagina… It has no bearing on anal sex. If you meant an enema, then NO. Enema = bad. It dries you out and makes you more prone to tearing. It’s unnecessary.

You can contract anything from unprotected oral sex – cunnilingus or anilingus. So if you’re really serious about protecting yourself, use a dental dam.

But, yes, in addition to STD’s, there are other things you can contract from rimming – such as bacterial diseases, intestinal parasites, or an infection like conjunctivitis. This can be avoided with thorough cleaning (you do NOT need to use an enema) and, obviously, don’t double dip. Just take a shower before and after. Scrub and soap each other up! Nice and clean. That’s all you need. (You can even use a wet finger in there to clean out any remains if you feel it necessary.)

Simple things like that will suffice in protecting you from the additional risks of anal play. But always remember that STD’s are just as easily contracted from anal as they are from vaginal. So don’t say you weren’t warned!

TIPS FOR RIMMING:

1. Use your breath. Blow warm air onto the anus and the skin surrounding it, or just hover above and breathe against it. Stimulates the nerves without you even having to touch anything!

2. Use your tongue. Lick it with a flat tongue, flick it, rub and push against the general backside region, or you can harden your tongue to penetrate, probe, tap and trace the rim. Start off with a nice flat tongue and work your way up to the tongue fuck.

3. Use your lips. Kiss and suck the asshole, taint, inner thighs, crack of the ass, buttocks, lower back and the back of the legs. Just use it all. Same as you would when eating pussy!

4. Use your fingers and hands. Finger the asshole gently and pull apart the butt cheeks. You also can reach around from behind and play with her pussy, clit, etc. Don’t use the same hand!

5. Use your teeth. As long as you are only doing little nibbles or gentle love bites — don’t bite to bruise in this instance, it’s unsafe. Nip her ass cheeks!

7. Positions: Sit on your partners face – Entwine yourself in a 69 -Lay face down with pillows under your hips, so your hips and ass are raised in the air for better access – Get on all fours, arch your back, spread your knees and ass cheeks apart – Lie on your back with a pillow under your ass, lifting it up in the air – Lie on your back, pulling your ankles to your ears, and expose your hole – Stand facing the wall, or bend from your waist, with your legs spread wide.

my boyfriend ate me out for the my first time and i thought it was supposed to feel really good like everyone says but it gave me no pleasure, it just felt like i was being licked:/ is it me? is it him? i want it to feel good but idk what he can do or how i can tell him

It’s you and it’s him. You have to relax more and it sounds like he needs to learn what spots to hit and what RHYTHM means.

You can actually help him with this. When you try again, try giving him a little more direction, lead him to the spots that you know work for you and ask him to speed up the pace. Pay attention to the little things that spark and you can gasp and tell him to keep doing that. You have to give it time, breathe, and keep asking him to change it up if it’s not working. Go faster, go there, go here, down, up, in, out, suck, whatever!

If you felt like you were just being licked, then that’s all that was happening. Not good.

You can’t lick pussy like it’s a lollipop.

You need to fucking devour it.

Ive gone down on my boyfriend multiple times and whenever i ask him to return the favor he tells me he’s scared and doesn’t know how to do it. He said its kinda gross to him and he’s intimidated by the thought of doing it…Im the first girl he’s done stuff with though. We’ve been dating 4 months

Tell him to man the fuck up and do it. If you can suck his dick, he can certainly lick your pussy. “Scared” is bullshit. He can google tips, you can talk him through it, etc. He has no reason other than his ‘grossed out’ thing. If he’s too grossed out by the thought of going down on you, then he can forget you going down on him! Quid pro quo!

Besides, you want to please your partners as much as you possibly can. That’s a natural instinct; to give as much as you receive. So for him to be so resistant to this is really when you need to start questioning who is putting who’s needs first? He’s being selfish.

I get being nervous about it, that’s normal, but he needs to push through the nerves and realize that it’s not scary, it’s not gross, and IT’S NOT ABOUT HIM. It’s about you. If he can’t understand that, then maybe you need to think about why you’re wasting your time with this guy.

My guy will not go down on me. It makes me feel disgusting. He won’t even try it. I know it’s not because I smell because I’m all about being clean and making sure I’m clean before entering the bedroom. My vagina also looks totally normal. I just don’t get it. He says he doesn’t really like fingering either, but can tolerate it.

DUMP. THAT. DOUCHEBAG. ASSHOLE.

I’m not joking. Dump him now. Call him and tell him to go fuck himself.

No one should make you feel that way. You are NOT disgusting. If he has a problem with sex (yes, fingering and oral are indeed a vital aspect of sex as a whole) then why the hell would you want to waste another single, solitary, second on some asshole who doesn’t know what the fuck he’s doing and treating you like shit because of it?

He’ll “tolerate” fingering? How about tolerating your boot up his ass? Cause that’s what he deserves for being such a stupid, selfish, prick.

My boyfriend wants to eat me out and I’m totally on board with it. I guess I wanted to check with you (my tumblr sexpert lol) and get pubic hair advice? I’ve shaved down there before and it ends up itchy and once it starts growing back I can’t shave it again until it’s longer because it pulls on the hairs and hurts. So, would it be more enjoyable for him if I was shaved down there or can I simply trim? I understand it’s my body and my choice, I just want to maximize the experience for both of us

Every guy is different. Some like it completely shaved, others appreciate a bush, it’s a very personal preference. Why don’t you try asking him what he’d like? It’s your decision, obviously, but if it doesn’t matter to you one way or the other then why not get his thoughts on it?

If you want to avoid the prickly regrowth issue, shave the same day you plan to have him go down on you. Hair really isn’t that big of a deal as long as you keep it neat and maintained! How much you want to shave is up to you and your partner’s preference.

It is nice to ask them what they like because they’re the ones down there doing the work, but it still doesn’t mean they can dictate what you do. It’s just an opinion to take into consideration. 😉

Check the tags to see my tips on shaving pubic hair!

So, I am a virgin. And I was talking to my mom and her friends about oral sex and I mentioned that you should always use protection if you are unsure 100% if they are clean… And well they all laughed at me and told me no one does that. So, my question is if I suggest oral protection while in the moment, will I be laughed out of bed? Should I go with what I am comfortable or give that up cause apparently NO ONE uses condoms or dental dams in ‘real life’? Am I being too concerned about this?

It’s true that most people don’t practice safe sex when it comes to oral. They take a risk. That’s their right. It’s also true that most people don’t understand how much of a risk they’re taking.

You’re being smart about it. And while many DON’T use protection, there are also some that do. So you’re not alone, just in the minority (unfortunately). It’s reasons like this that we still have such a constant problem with the spread of STD’s. People aren’t protecting themselves enough. If you want to use a condom during a BJ (get a flavored one) then good for you! If you want someone to use a dental dam when going down on you, that’s great too. But you will meet resistance and people will try to talk you out of it because it’s “not as fun” and “doesn’t feel as good”. Ultimately, people don’t want to be bothered with it.

As always, protection is your right and your choice, but be prepared to face people ready to talk you out of it. Especially when it comes to oral sex because too many people are under the impression that if you can’t get pregnant from it, there’s no risk.

That’s ignorant as hell.