So I thought I was asexual… But I sometimes get turned on my thinking about this guy I’m in love with (it’s long distance too) just full on fucking me till I see stars and dirty talking to me… Is that like really weird?

caersidydd:

sumptuousdaydreams:

Nope! Just sounds like your sexual needs aren’t that easily defined. Having sexual desires for someone you love is perfectly normal. I wouldn’t worry so much about putting yourself in a box and instead just be open to the experience.

Just a passerby to add further thoughts on this matter. There are plenty of variances from individual to individual within asexuality. One thing I’ve learned personally being asexual is that the idea of sex in its sort of remote non physical perfection can be a stimulating turn on and it doesn’t make you any less asexual to be turned on by the idea. Actual real sex is worlds apart from an idea, and even if it played out exactly the same way as in your fantasy, it really might not work for you in reality…because you’re asexual.

That said, sexuality is fluid. We shouldn’t be so quick to slap permanent labels on ourselves. What you like today won’t necessarily be what you like next week. And as cliche as it sounds sometimes you really do meet one person that makes you feel entirely different from everything you’ve ever thought you knew and understood about yourself. We’re constantly changing and growing, and shouldn’t place ourselves in boxes that stunt that growth.

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