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This isn’t really about sex but yeah…I’m 16, complete virgin(not even kissed or anything)and I’ve only ever been to a girls school, I’m doing a duologue with this guy a year older than me and we have to kiss and spoon and stuff, and I’m not sure like how to get comfortable with it and make it less awkward I kinda feel sorry that he’s stuck with me for this because I’m really not pretty or attractive and I wanna make him, we’ll not enjoy it, but not hate it Urg, sorry if that doesn’t make sense

Get to know him. If you’re not into him, then treat him like you would any friend. The friendlier you are and the more open you are, the easier any exchange between you will be – even kissing and spooning. It’s about establishing a level of trust. Just relax and talk to him about other things besides what your project is, that will help you feel more comfortable, more trusting, and more confident in anything you do with him.

I know you feel weird being around him when you haven’t had much experience and it’s a lot of pressure when two people are partnered together like that, just total strangers who have to work together, but he’s lucky to have gotten someone like you. You actually care about making it work. You want it to be good. You want to make sure things go well for you both. That’s the best thing anyone could ask for in a partner. It would be a thousand times worse if you didn’t give a shit how it looked and he would be forced to do all the work. Think about that!

I’m SURE it’s not nearly as awkward or terrible as you think it is. We all have a way of making things seem so much worse than they really are. Human beings have a TERRIBLE sense of self perception, we are just ridiculously obtuse about how we perceive ourselves as opposed to how others see us. You are pretty. You are attractive. Just be friendly and get to know him. Everything else will work out. Have faith in yourself. If you keep beating yourself up for all the things you think you’re not, THAT is what will make it awkward and uncomfortable. If you have to fake confidence for a while, that’s okay. By faking confidence, you actually give yourself a little bit of confidence in return. Odd, I know, but it works!

Filme romantico lesbico, indica algum?

Romantic lesbian movies? Regular ones? As in “not porn”? I’ll point out a few that I’ve seen or heard of. To be fair, I don’t watch a lot of movies. I’m more of a TV person.

Imagine Me & You (LOVE this adorable movie)

I Can’t Think Straight (Haven’t seen yet, but heard it was good.)

Saving Face (Haven’t seen yet, but heard it was good, and it’s won some big independent movie awards!)

Bound (I didn’t really like it, wasn’t for me, but it could definitely be someone else’s style?)

Lost & Delirious (Piper Perabo again! But much younger. Not the lighthearted feel that is Imagine Me & You. It’s not my favorite, but it’s still Piper Perabo so…)

Kiss Me (Haven’t seen.)

Elena Undone (Haven’t seen, but apparently they have the longest on screen kiss ever filmed at 3 mins and 14 seconds…)

But I’m A Cheerleader (Natasha Lyonne..’nuff said)

Loving Annabelle (Haven’t seen.)

Show Me Love (Haven’t seen.)

Gia (Angelina Jolie before she was famous and Elizabeth Mitchell…)

D.E.B.S. (Totally hokey but entertaining?)

If These Walls Could Talk 2 (Haven’t seen.)

So I’m 21 and currently living in California to study, me and this guy has been dating and he asked me if I was a virgin, I told him that I first had sex when I was 15. He seemed very shocked at this and later that week he broke up with me. And there’s been rumours that I’m a whore fatet that. However the age of sex is 15 in Sweden, was it wrong of me to lose my virginity that young?

That’s ridiculous! 15 is young, but certainly not unusual. I don’t know what his problem was. Be glad you’re rid of him because he’s obviously an asshole. I don’t even understand how rumors got started because of THAT. It’s so absurd… He clearly has some issues and they have NOTHING to do with you.

No, it was not wrong of you to have sex when you were 15. As long as it was your choice and it was what you wanted. I do think it’s on the young side and I always advise people to wait a little longer, but you did nothing wrong! Don’t for one second feel ashamed just because some uptight dickwad tried to put you down. It’s your life and your choice and it certainly does not mean that you’re a “whore” or any of that BULLSHIT. You had sex when you were 15. SO WHAT? Who cares? You’re 21 now. It’s all in the past.

You did nothing wrong so please don’t ever let people like that guy (or anyone else) make you feel like you did. They have no right to judge you and you shouldn’t give a shit about what they think (because what they think doesn’t matter).

YOU matter. What YOU think matters. That’s all you have to worry about: you.

how is it like to have sex if i’m on my period? is it disgusting for boys?

I can’t speak for boys. It’s really a personal thing. I know some guys are okay with it and others are totally grossed out by it. Also, a lot of girls don’t even want to consider it because when you’re on your period you feel gross anyway and the messy factor is just not appealing. Although! There are also a lot of girls who would love to have sex even when on their period, but they worry about their partners being turned off or grossed out and even think them weird for wanting it. So a lot of girls don’t even try asking because they’re embarrassed.

Lesson to learn here? Everyone has their own personal preferences, you’ll never know what your partner is or isn’t okay with unless you ask, and judging someone’s sexual interests will NEVER do you or them any good. Be open!

Anonymous asked sumptuousdaydreams:

ok,so my bf&i were having a bit of fun&i got him to cum. i licked up most of it,but some was still on his pelvis like,just under his tummy&just above his penis-after some time i sat on his tummy&we were making out,naked&i was just absolutely terrifying myself that i was going to somehow get his cum in me. do you think i mightve? i mean, i think it was dried before i did that, it was 2 or 3 minutes after he came that i climbed onto him. do you think something could happen or am i just paranoid?

i was sitting like at or just below his belly button but i was worried otherwise. idk if it dried and im freaking out. im a virgin and absolutely terrified i dont know i just gfbdgbiladfgb please help?

It’s highly unlikely that you’re pregnant, but I have to admit that it is possible…however small the chance. If his sperm came into contact with your vagina then you were exposed. If you are really that concerned then take Plan B. Again, the chances of you being pregnant are EXTREMELY low, but stranger things have happened so I can’t tell you for certain.

Sperm in semen can survive for hours after ejaculation (longer if in a hot/wet environment – like a bathtub) and if semen is ejaculated into the vagina, sperm can survive for 3-5 days inside a woman.

Be smarter and don’t mess around like that again unless you’re using a condom or you’re on birth control.

why is it that when my boyfriend tries having sex with me in certain positions i feel pressure and it starts to hurt? Especially when im bent over for example

There’s a number of different reasons why it could hurt. Many of them have to do with medical issues so the next time you see your gynecologist or internist, I STRONGLY advise that you discuss it with them. (STD’s are a possibility…)

However, a common reason why certain positions hurt is because he’s penetrating you more deeply and possibly hitting your cervix. If your cervix is closer than average or tilted, he could be banging against it. PAINFUL! It’s another reason to talk to your doctor because they can examine you and tell you if that’s the problem.

Sex should not hurt (if you’re not a virgin). So this is definitely a problem you need to address with your doctor ASAP so that you can find out why this is happening. Avoid those positions that hurt until you get to the bottom of this.

Also, try using lube! You might not be aroused enough sometimes and if he’s pumping away, that’s extremely unpleasant.

And tell him to take it easy and be more gentle. He might be going too hard and being too rough with you, especially in those positions where he has the opportunity to penetrate you more deeply.

I really like rough sex. Like, choking, slapping, name calling, scratching. It gets to the point where I feel weird and dirty. Like there’s something wrong with me when my girlfriend (i’m a lesbian btw!) pulls my hair and calls me a cunt. Am I crazy?

Yes, you could be crazy. Hell, you might need to be institutionalized for all I know! That’s your life.

However…you’re not crazy because you like it rough.

EVERYONE has their thing. Everyone has something they like that’s different from someone else. Some people want to be fucked in the ass. Some people would knock your teeth down your throat if you tried to fuck them in the ass. Some people like their hair pulled and biting. Some people want to be called ‘Daddy’. Some people like being tied down. Some people like vanilla sex. Some people like threesomes. Some people like it with the lights on. Some people like voyeurism. Some people like feet. Some people like it outside.

I could go on for a very, very, very long time here, but I think I’ve made my point.

Everyone has their little kinks that they like and that’s what turns them on. It’s nothing to be ashamed of. If that’s what you WANT (key word: want) then embrace it! Enjoy and explore your sexuality. Don’t let the fear of something being “weird” or “dirty” or “wrong” turn you away from doing things that excite you (as long as you’re being safe, of course).

Dirty talk and rough sex is hardly a novel concept. There’s an element of danger, adrenaline, that’s exciting. There’s an illicit thrill in being called names that you would never accept outside of ‘play’ because it’s like being in a fantasy. Sex needs to be reinvented all the time. New ideas. New ways to take you out of your “real” world and let you experience different kinds of pleasure and ecstasy.

Pain and pleasure are only separated by a very thin veil. Both stimulate the same nerves, both release endorphins, both heighten sensitivity, etc. There’s a stigma surrounding rough sex that basically says it’s BDSM or it’s women being degraded. Bullshit. Between two consenting partners, whatever you two agree on, goes. And it’s OKAY!

Does it make you feel weird and dirty doing these things because of what others might think? What “society” thinks? Or does it make you feel that way because you feel like you’re letting yourself be taken advantage of, degraded, and you don’t like being treated that way? That’s the question you need to ask yourself. If it’s okay with YOU (and your partner) then it’s okay! There’s no need to feel weird or dirty for liking it. More people are into it than you would think!

Read the article below and see if it helps you feel a little better about yourself and understand why it is you like it. It also gives tips! 😉

SEXY ROUGH SEX

any tips for phone sex? like what to say to your partner etc..

It depends on your vernacular. If you tend to be more crude, then the way you describe things is going to very very vulgar and explicit. Which is okay! That’s great! It’s your thing and many, many people love dirty talk. Talk about all the filthy things you want to do to them or have done to you. Describe it. Using your imagination and your fantasies is what phone sex is all about. You need to have a good imagination and let go of your inhibitions!

If you’re not that forward and you feel a little shy about it, then describing how you FEEL rather than the actual act is the way to go. “You make me feel so good. I love it when you touch me. I love it when you do *this*. My body is aching. I’m so wet.” And so on!

HOW TO HAVE PHONE SEX – the only thing I really disagree with in this article is one of the things they listed as the “don’ts” of phone sex. They say don’t laugh, I disagree. Laughing is really sexy and lightens up the mood and makes you feel comfortable with each other. Otherwise, it’s all pretty on point.

HOT THINGS TO SAY DURING PHONE SEX

TIPS JUST FOR GUYS

Okay, I have a problem… I love my boyfriend, I love having sex with him, I love how I’m comfortable around him, but my anxiety is now seriously starting to hold me back from enjoying sex. I am on the birth control pill and I take it religiously every morning, we always use a condom and make sure it didn’t break or tear, yet every month when I’m supposed to get my period, I have massive anxiety attacks that it won’t come. I don’t want to stop having sex but I just don’t know what to do.

You are taking all the precautions possible. There’s nothing to be worried about. You’re on the pill and you’re using condoms. Other than having him get a vasectomy, you’re doing everything you can.

Your anxiety about this leads me to think that there are some other stressful things going on in your life. Or maybe you know someone who recently got pregnant?

Talk to your doctor or someone else qualified and have them explain to you the chances of you getting pregnant with the preventative measures you’ve taken. Your chances are very, very small. You’re taking on the pill, that’s 99.9% effective. Then you have a condom as a physical barrier. The condom more than takes care of that freak chance of .1% you have left after the pill. You have to think about this logically, with facts, not let your head run away with all the ‘what if’s’.

Keep being careful and you will not get pregnant until you want to be pregnant. Okay? Think about some of the other factors in your life right now that might be influencing this anxiety about pregnancy.

what you told the anon about guys and ear nibling and licking and stuff. SOOOOOOOO true, one of the biggest turn ons ever. to me so is hair play but i dont know if all guys are into having their hair played with

Most guys are into having their hair played with, tugged on, head scratched, etc! Depending on the circumstances it can be a turn on or something relaxing/soothing.

Honestly, both men and woman love having their hair played with. You can’t go wrong.

(Unless you’re messing up someone’s hair that they just spent 30 minutes trying to perfect…)