Tag: Miscellaneous

PSA…

Tumblr Safe Mode
Basically a big fucking mess.

Safe Mode (according to Tumblr @staff)
“filters sensitive content in your dashboard and your search results”

So far everything from a blog that is self proclaimed “explicit” has been/will be blocked. Like mine! Tumblr claims they will be changing this going forward and instead filter on a post by post basis. (Spoiler alert: this is going to continue to be a mess.)

IF YOU WANT TO SEE THIS BLOG’S CONTENT (AND MANY OTHERS), TURN OFF SAFE MODE.

How?

If you’re on the web or an Android device: Go to your account settings and flip the Safe Mode switch.

If you’re on iOS: Go to your phone’s Settings app, tap “Tumblr,” and you’ll see the Safe Mode settings down at the bottom.

You’ll have to turn it off for each device you use (ie. phone, ipad, laptop, etc.)

(If you’re under 18 you won’t be able to turn off safe mode.)

Even if I’m really wet, it still hurts when he puts it in sometimes. What helps with this? If it’s arrousal, I don’t really know anything about what arrousal. I’m really tight like It hurts just puting a finger in me. I guess lots of advice with penetration would help

Is he going slow or rushing? You need to have a lot of foreplay, a lot of fooling around and kissing and touching before trying it. And even then, you have to go slow, ease in, let your body adjust to it. The more often you do it, the easier it gets, but you have to let your body adjust – he can’t just ram into you before you’re ready especially when your body is very new to this.

Are you sure you’re wet enough? Try using a water based lube and see if that makes a difference. Also, if you’re worried or nervous about the penetration – that works against you. It’ll make you tighter and dry. Try to relax, lie down comfortably, kiss and touch and have him rub circles around your clit for a little until you’re soaking wet and then he can slowly push a finger in and test it out. He shouldn’t be jamming them in and immediately trying to fuck you.

There was a post on tumblr I saw recently that said girls enjoy fingering when “you know the difference between summoning a genie and stuffing a chicken”. So accurate.

Your body needs to relax in order to open up more to the intrusion. Have you tried oral sex? Having him go down on you? That’s one of the best things to make penetration more pleasurable for you – if he can get you to orgasm BEFORE penetration, the contractions from your orgasm will naturally open your channel and you’ll be well aroused and ready for him. Even if you don’t orgasm through oral, the oral still helps a lot because that pleasure will help your body relax, open, lubricate itself with your arousal, and make you ready for penetration. Send him down there and let it happen! Oral is gold.

If none of this works then I would say it’s time to see a doctor because it’s possible there may be some health issue going on or an obstruction that’s causing you pain. (If you can use a tampon without pain, then there’s no obstruction.)

The point is, sex should not hurt. So keep asking why and don’t ever just accept things the way they are. You will figure it out and you will experience pleasure, just keep looking for different answers/ways because sex does not and should not hurt (unless you want it to, but that’s a whole ‘nother thing).

Who are the blonde and red headed lesbians that are in many of your gifs? My girlfriend looks like the red headed one but we’ve been trying to get her name so I can show her!btw love the blog

Usually I don’t answer these questions because it’s going to flood my inbox with questions about every single person in my gifs and I don’t know the names of even half.

TO ALL MY FOLLOWERS: DO NOT TAKE ME ANSWERING THIS QUESTION AS PERMISSION TO ASK ABOUT NAMES AND SOURCES. THE RULE STILL STANDS. THIS IS A RARE EXCEPTION.

I’m not 100% sure who you’re talking about, but Elle Alexandra is a redhead and she’s been in a lot of my gifs. Hope that helps!

hey! what do you think about seeing a gynaecologist? I’m kind of scared of them…I didn’t have a really good experience with one last year but I feel I’d like to talk with a professional

It’s always going to be a little weird, awkward, uncomfortable. Of course it is! You’re in a scratchy gown, sitting on paper, with your feet in stirrups and your vagina wide open – feeling the breeze – lol. But you get used to it and it is really important to have regular check ups with your gynecologist.

The thing you have to remember is that it’s weird for YOU, but to your doctor, it’s just another day. Another vagina out of the THOUSANDS that they’ve seen over the years. It’s like seeing an arm at that point, it’s so NORMAL to them.

Ask your friends or your mom or your general practitioner to recommend a gynecologist for you. It’s always better to go off a recommendation to find someone.

Find someone you like, someone you feel confident that they know what they’re doing, find someone you trust, and stick with them. It’s the same thing as finding a regular doctor, you have to try a few to eventually find someone who clicks with you.

It’s something really important so you can’t ignore it.

I’m a girl and just started a relationship with a guy a few weeks ago. This is the 2nd guy I’ve been with; the first one was a few years ago when I was a lot younger and he forced me into some stuff that was really not okay. For a long time I couldn’t even think about it, but it’s been a while. I’m still worried though that if anything sexual happens with the new guy I’ll panic and remember the last time and not be able to do anything with him even though I like him and want him to be happy.

The best thing you can do is explain to him that you want to take it slow. You don’t have to tell him everything that happened to you right away. Just start off by explaining that you had a bad experience in the past and you need things to move at a pace you’re comfortable with. If he understands that you want to be the one to initiate something, then he should back off and let that happen. If he doesn’t, he’s not someone you want to be with anyway.

You might have some flashbacks and bad moments and times where things move just a little too fast before you’re ready for them to happen and that’s okay! Just don’t give up. It’s not going to feel like that for forever.

First, you need to trust the person you’re with. Nothing is going to feel right or safe or comfortable for you unless you trust them. So focus on building your relationship with him rather than focusing on sex with him. Get to know him better, let him know you better, become close friends, and take small steps towards physical intimacy.

If he’s the right person, he’ll respect the boundaries you set, and you will be able to get through it together. Don’t close yourself off though, it’s too easy to do that, and it’s not going to get you what you want. Be clear with him about what’s okay and what isn’t. Don’t ever be afraid to tell him you want to stop or you’re not comfortable with something. It is your body, your right, YOUR DECISION. It’s not something to be ashamed of or embarrassed about. If you need to stop, then you need to stop. There is always a new day.

No one is allowed to take away your choice. It is your right to choose what you want. If they try to force you to do something you are not comfortable with then THEY are wrong and you should be angry with them for ever trying to make you do it. You are not wrong, THEY are. You have the right to stand up for yourself and say what it is you want, no one, NO ONE, is allowed to make you do anything sexually that you do not want to do. If anything like that happens, you need to tell someone and report them.

I know you like him and you’re worried this “problem” will drive him away, but you can’t think like that. This isn’t about his happiness. This is about your happiness AND his. A relationship is about partnership. When you’re with someone, whatever you go through, they’re going to be in it with you. Together. If he’s the right person, he will be supportive of you, he will protect you, and he will be your partner. You’ve isolated yourself for long enough. Trust is the first step.

so you wouldn’t answer if I asked what video a gif came from? (just trying to understand “source”)

Yes, because:

A) I can’t possibly answer every single question about the hundreds of videos I’ve gif’d.

B) I can’t freaking REMEMBER the hundreds of videos that I’ve gif’d… (They’re not from the same site or the same production company. They’re from dozens of places – just to start!)

C) My askbox is already flooded with so many questions for me to answer that it feels like I’m some tumblr x-rated version of “Dear Abby”. I can’t even keep up with that!

I’ve been having these dreams of my best friend (a girl) and I lately and we start to make out and we almost have sex but then I wake up. I’m straight and so is she. Does this mean anything?

Well, let me start off by saying that I am not a psychologist nor am I an expert on dream analysis. Everyone has different theories about what dreams are really about. None are proven. So they remain theories. You’re asking for mine. So here it is:

Sex dreams are very rarely about SEX. It’s true! Yes, we all have those wet dreams that leave us horny and raring to go in the morning, but not all dreams with sex in them are like that.

So why do you dream about having sex (or almost sex) with your best friend when you identify as straight and you’re not attracted to her when you’re conscious? It’s actually pretty common to have a sexual dream about the same-sex even when you’re not gay or bi.

For women, it can be interpreted as your subconscious expressing a deep, emotional connection to the other person – on a friendship level. It’s the way your mind is able to convey the depth of your feelings for your friend, even if it’s only platonic in reality. Sex is largely about intimacy, right? That’s how our brains then interpret it – doesn’t mean it has to be about actual sex at all, just the deeper meaning of it. It’s representative of emotional closeness.

Also, depending on how the dream actually plays out (the details), it could be a commentary about some rift between you two, insecurities about the friendship, or some quality or talent they have that you emulate or desire. Perhaps the reason why you wake up before the actual act of sex occurs points out something going on with you guys – something that’s making you two be distant or lose touch or have a divide between you. Ring any bells?

Relax. If you’re not attracted to her in RL and this is all happening in your dreams, it doesn’t mean you want to sleep with your best friend. Don’t take it so literally. Think about what sex makes you feel. Not the act, but what it could mean on an emotional level. Something about her is on your mind and your brain is trying to work that out for you because you don’t seem to be willing to do it when you’re awake.

Something to think about. 😉

Is it possible (as a girl) to get cut if you shave with an electric razor? Also can you recommend a good razor?

There’s always a chance of getting nicked if you use a razor. If you use an electric one, make sure it’s one specifically desigened for removing pubic hair.

I don’t shave, I wax. But for a regular razor I always use Venus Embrace (the green one).

hey im the girl whos under 16 with an extremely horny girlfriend. to answer your question, im scared of sex because i have been molested, which she knows of. im not basing my fear of it off of that, but i dont like people touching me a lot, which she said she was fine with. plus i cant even get like.. a tampon in no matter what angle i aim it or position im in soooo.. and plus im young so ugh

I’m so sorry for what happened to you. I won’t presume to understand what you went through and how it affects you still, but I can see that it would affect your perception of sex and everything involved with it. It changes it – all of it.

Perhaps what you need now is to work on finding a way to change it again. Change it for the better and take back what was tainted for you so unfairly.

I think this might be a case of miscommunication. You’re coming from a very different place than your girlfriend, a very different view of everything. Because of what you went through, you’re highly sensitive to things that other people, who haven’t been through what you have, are not. Subtle touches, average physical contact, those things are different for you. So it’s possible that your girlfriend might think she’s being restrained, but it’s still too much for you. What she believes is holding back, is not what you see holding back as. Do you know what I mean?

I don’t know what your girlfriend is thinking or where she is with all of this. The best advice I can give you is to have a flat out, brutally honest, conversation with her, explaining that you feel she’s pressuring you and how uncomfortable it makes you. You’re not ready, and that’s more than okay. So find a way to communicate that to her. You’re not ready now, but it doesn’t mean you won’t ever be. You’re not ready for all of it, but maybe you’re ready for some of it. Find out what that is. Talk about it. Talk constantly. Always check in with each other. She’s feeling frustrated, you’re feeling pressured, so now you have to find a compromise.

I’m sure that if you explain to her that what she’s been doing has been too much for you, she’d feel terrible about it and pull back. Maybe you’ve been putting off having that direct of a conversation with her because you’re embarrassed or you don’t want to hurt her feelings or maybe it’s because you want to be able to give her what she’s asking for and you’re upset with yourself for not being able to. I don’t know. Only you know.

You have to figure this out for yourself and set the pace for yourself, then tell her what that is. Work with her. Don’t shut her out and don’t let her push you to places you’re uncomfortable with because you don’t want to be “weird” or make her feel guilty. This kind of situation requires an enormous amount of trust and a great deal of constant communication. It’s not easy, but it will get easier with time.

Don’t let this stop you from continuing to move forward with exploring your sexuality and your sexual needs, Just do it at your own pace and take it slooooooooow. You guys are so young. There’s nothing wrong with backing off and just taking baby steps. Think of it this way, you should try mastering each step before moving on to the next. Get your PhD in making out. Get your masters in petting and groping. Find out everything there is to know about each other – not just sex. You’re babies. Just keep your hands on yourselves instead of each other for a while. 😉

All in good time.