Tag: masturbating

It seems like you’re overthinking it, trying to force your arousal. Let it happen more naturally, slowly. If you’re feeling horny, let your mind wander a bit – think about things that turn you on. Daydream a bit. Maybe scroll through a sexy tumblr ;). Read some smut/erotica. Watch some porn if that appeals to you. Let your body settle into a state of arousal before you set out to go from 0-100 and masturbate instantly!

Put yourself in an atmosphere that’s quiet and relaxing. Turn on some music, low, if that’s something you like. You want to feel safe and comfortable, without fear of interruption (if you can). Try taking a soothing bath to relax you. Think of it as a slow ease into arousal.

It’s all about your frame of mind. If you’re feeling relaxed, comfortable, and you have time to just close your eyes and daydream about whatever it is that turns you on, that will do the trick. If your head is kind of cluttered that day and you need that extra boost, porn – whether read or watched – can help.

Don’t force it. Don’t overthink. Let your body take its time and react naturally to whatever stimulation is provided. Also, nothing wrong with humping a pillow, but you can check my sex advice tags for more tips on masturbating if you want.

If you clean it properly and thoroughly, it shouldn’t be a problem. If you don’t clean it, there’s bacteria that can be transmitted and possible STD’s.

Also you better have permission to use it because if you don’t, I can assure you there might be some fallout of the physical and/or verbal nature – and that I can’t help you with!

You can’t hide any toys? Really? It’s called the underwear drawer! haha. If you think that what you’re missing is deeper penetration then you don’t need a vibrator (which is the noise you’re worried about). Glass dildos have gotten really popular as of late. They don’t make noise, they’re slick and smooth – lube lasts longer with them, you can get a ribbed one for extra stimulation, and the best part is that if anyone sees it by accident – it doesn’t scream SEX TOY! outright. You could probably get away with passing it off as a cool artsy paperweight, lol. 

Another idea is maybe you could use a clitoral arousal gel. There’s a hundred different brands that offer them. You could probably find one at any drugstore or you could just get it from Adam & Eve (cheap). Anywhere. It could help you get that one step further that you need to reach the finish line. Clit gels enhance your sensitivity and makes it easier for you to reach peak arousal. It’s not a guarantee of orgasm by any means, but it’s a little extra help! If you’re worried about ordering anything sexual online, don’t worry, it all comes in a plain brown box with no indication of the company on the outside. They protect your privacy!

Still don’t want to risk it? Go old school. Get a cucumber! (Zucchini, carrot, summer squash, purple eggplant, and so on…) Clean it and use a condom if you can – you don’t want to risk any contagions or irritants. Women using a vegetable to masturbate is a time honored tradition!

Bath time! Use a showerhead.Or turn on the faucet and let the water run over your pussy. The best use of it is to roll your hips and fuck the water stream basically – letting it hit your clit over and over and over again.

My last thought is that you should try branching out from just using your fingers. Have you tried humping? You can hump your hand, the side of a bed, an exercise ball, a stuffed animal, a pillow, anything you have on hand. It’s about experimenting. Those are all soft edges. You can also try harder edges and see if those work better for yourself. Slide your pussy up and down anything firm that’s flat or round or shiny – a bedpost, pole, a railing, a TV remote, a candlestick holder, a bicycle seat, or a chair arm!

Try masturbating on your stomach. On all fours. On your knees. Sitting up. On a chair. Even just changing the angle by scooting up a little more or lying further back will change how it feels. You have to break out of what your usual routine is and get creative.

Yeah, living at home with the parents cramps your style and makes it more difficult to just relax and get what you need, but it doesn’t make it impossible. Try to get some time when they’re not home. Close the door (lock it if you can). Turn off the lights, Close the blinds. And just relax. Let yourself enjoy it, let yourself make some noise. Doesn’t matter if you orgasm every time, just try to enjoy the pleasure you get on the way there rather than fixating too much on the end goal (it’s counterproductive).

Hope something in here was helpful! Have fun!

Yes, it’s pretty common. Some women take a long time to figure out how to orgasm during masturbation and/or sex. It takes time, practice, and you learn even more about your body when you start having sex so that actually helps you when you masturbate.

Just keep trying. And try new things.

lol. Don’t worry. It’s embarrassing but that’s it. Just pretend like it never happened. She won’t bring it up. You won’t mention it. It’ll be like nothing happened. Don’t worry, it’s just one of those things, it’s normal, life goes on. 🙂

Yes, you should stop doing that.

Stop stopping! Follow through instead! Pleasure yourself! Why on earth would you stop? Live a little. Let yourself go.