Tag: masturbate

IDEAS FOR WAYS TO MASTURBATE (FOR WOMEN)

I can’t even begin to count how many messages I receive on a daily basis with questions about masturbating.

“Is this normal?” “I can’t orgasm” “It doesn’t feel good” “I don’t like penetration, just my clit – am I ruined?” “I don’t know how to masturbate!” And so on…

Here’s the thing: there is no normal.

There is no one size fits all. No one method that is a sure thing. Everyone is different. Everyone has to explore to find their own way. However, masturbating is absolutely common, very healthy, and will help your future (or current) sex life immensely! So I’ve compiled a list of ideas that will hopefully help some of you. Really, it’s to spark some sexual creativity in you, not give you a specific manual.

The best way to utilize this list is to mix and match! Read through and see what different things appeal to you and then combine them, tweak them, to create a fantastic, custom-tailored, method of masturbation! (Boys, check the masturbating tag, I’ve given plenty of creative ideas there for you as well.)

My advice: Don’t touch yourself to get yourself wet. Be wet BEFORE anything goes between your legs. Foreplay is essential even when it comes to masturbating! Get yourself aroused before jumping to fondle your clit or finger yourself. It’s the best way to optimize your experience!

  • Use two fingers to gently rub circles around/on your clit.
  • —-
  • On your stomach or on all fours. It’s a different experience, different sensations. It’s easier to move your hips and fuck your fingers instead of your fingers fucking you. Alt. Use both hands to play with your clit, alternating with a sideways motion while lying on your stomach.
  • —-
  • Use a vibrator on your clit while penetrating yourself simultaneously with a dildo. Increase vibration intensity as you fuck yourself harder with the dildo.  Alt. Use a vibrator/dildo with one hand while using the other hand to play with your clit with your fingers. Suggested: vibrator from Spencer’s and glass dildo “Icicle #1”.
  • —-
  • In the bathtub, sit under the faucet and let it stimulate you. Whirpool jets in a bathtub can be used as well. Alt. use a showerhead – prop your leg up for optimal angle.Showerheads are extremely popular and with good reason… THEY WORK!
  • —-
  • Watch porn and once you’re aroused and wet, hump a stuffed animal. Rub your clit on the nose (or some firmer spot) over and over until you orgasm. Not every stuffed animal works for this so you’ll have to experiment to find one that works the best for you.
  • —-
  • Watch porn to get aroused and instead of rubbing your clit, flick it or slap it or tap it. Rubbing doesn’t work for everyone and you experience different sensations by using a different motion with your fingers. Experiment to see what you like the most!
  • —-
  • Read erotica (whether online stories or a book) to get aroused then penetrate yourself with one, two, or three fingers until you’re on the cusp of orgasm and finish yourself off by rubbing your clit.
  • —-
  • Turn off the lights. Close the blinds (if it’s daytime). Put a rolled up towel or blanket under your hips and while scrolling through this blog (or any site with pornographic images) play with yourself. The angle of your hips makes it easier for deeper penetration and different sensations.
  • —-
  • Dry humping. Hump your hand, a pillow, the edge of a bed, an exercise ball, etc. Try watching porn or looking through sex blogs (suggested: gifs where someone is riding their partner are preferred, they give you a sense of rhythm and adds to the imagination).
  • —
  • Sit on a pillow on a chair in front of the computer or TV and bend a corner up to rub your clit to get yourself wet and aroused. Then lie on your back and finger yourself. Keep trying different positions, different angles, until you orgasm. Don’t be afraid to try “weird” positions because you never know what could be the most explosive for you. No positions are weird if they work!
  • —
  • Nipple stimulation. Use one hand to punch your nipples while the other plays with your clit.
  • —
  • Think about past sexual experiences or fantasize about entirely new ones. You don’t need porn to stimulate yourself. You have an entire pornographic library inside your head just waiting to be accessed ! IMAGINATION. Once you’re thoroughly wet and aroused, start touching yourself.
  • —
  • Use a vibrator on top of your underwear, pressed against your clit. Ride it/hump it/grind against it if you start feeling the urge to move your hips. Don’t ignore those natural urges your body has. You have those instincts for a reason! It’s your body telling you what it needs to reach that peak point of orgasm. The best thing you can do for yourself is learn how to listen to your body and give it what it wants.
  • —
  • Use the Eroscillator vibrator on your clit (hey, it’s recommended by Dr. Ruth!) and vary it up with several of its attachments (ie. Seven Pearls of the Orient).

Note: It is very common for women who consider themselves straight to masturbate to gay/lesbian porn. So please indulge without having a sexual identity crisis! It doesn’t mean you’re a lesbian if you enjoy lesbian porn. It doesn’t mean you’re straight if you enjoy straight/gay porn. It’s fantasy. Fantasies and new things are sexually thrilling. So instead of watching the usual thing that you’ve all seen and done before, why wouldn’t something completely different and sexy, like two women or two men, be a huge turn on? It’s exciting and hot. That’s it. Use it to take back to bed with your partner who is whatever freaking gender you want.

Stop worrying so much! Revel. Enjoy. Explore. Get horny. Fuck the hell out of yourself.

FOLLOWER PARTICIPATION TIME! I NEED YOUR HELP!

So about 90% of my ask box is constantly filled with questions from girls/women about masturbating.

…I can only answer this question so often and I can only give one perspective – my own. That’s not good enough because everyone is different and everyone likes different things. One method might work amazingly for some while the same method will do nothing for others.

So what to do?

I need you – all of you females that follow me (sorry boys, next time) – to message me or send me a fanmail or reply to this post with some of the ways that YOU like to masturbate.

I’ll repeat: TELL ME HOW YOU LIKE TO MASTURBATE.

You can be anon, it doesn’t matter. I’m not going to reply to your message. What I’m going to do is compile a list of at least 10 different ways to masturbate (hopefully you guys will give me more than that) and then I’m going to post it for everyone to see as a “master list” of sorts. Then I can have that for anyone else in the future to see if they need ideas for how to masturbate.

No names will be used. I just need ideas! I need you to tell me what works for you and it needs to be as detailed as you can be. No “I use toys” or “I watch porn”. DETAILS! What toys specifically? How exactly do you touch yourself when you watch porn, and what kind of porn are you watching, and where are you watching it, etc? What is your surefire, go-to, method to orgasm?

Don’t worry about being “weird” or “unusual”. IF IT WORKS, IT WORKS. There’s no judgment here! And the stuff that we don’t typically hear about is exactly the kind of thing other women need to know! Because maybe that’s exactly what they’ve been looking for!

I’m sure there will be many that overlap so the goal is to have at least 10 distinctly different ways to masturbate. This is to help others so please don’t be shy! Who knows? You may discover something new to try yourself! That’s the whole point!

Exchange secrets, ladies!

It’s time to get this masturbation issue solved once and for all.

So message me or even just reply here, whatever you feel comfortable with. Fan mail is ideal if your response is too long for the usual ask box message. Remember, I’m not giving out names. This is just going to be a compiled list. NOW START TYPING AND HIT SEND!

image