It’s actually really common these days for your hymen to “break” (incorrect description, but we’ll get to that) as early as childhood due to exercise, sports, gymnastics, tampons, horseback riding, even bike riding. That kind of excessive pressure on your pelvic area naturally stretches the hymen on its own. It’s a myth that penetration is the only way to “break” your hymen!
In fact, the “pop your cherry” expression is ridiculously inaccurate! You can’t “break” or “pop” your hymen. Watch this video where it explains exactly what your hymen is, looks like, and how it works.
Your hymen stretches and that’s what usually causes the bleeding, but nowadays with tampons and masturbating, women are inadvertently preparing their first time experience to be a lot more pleasurable.
NOT ALL WOMEN BLEED WHEN THEY HAVE SEX FOR THE FIRST TIME.
The thing you have to understand for yourself is that bleeding is NOT an indicator of whether or not a woman is a virgin! Some girls bleed their first time and some DON’T! Some bleed even after they’ve had sex once or twice before. It all depends on how much tissue there is in the hymen and that varies depending on the individual. Some have more than others so those with more will experience a little bit more pain and bleeding. Others experience almost no pain and maybe just a spot of blood! Like a speck! Or nothing at all!
I understand that in certain cultures, blood is the “official” confirmation of virginity, but it’s so inaccurate! The only thing that determines whether or not you’re a virgin is whether or not you’ve ever had sex.
The problem with this antiquated thinking is that it was based on a time where women were less physically active. Women didn’t play sports. Women didn’t exercise (rigorously). Women didn’t use tampons. Women weren’t engaging in physical activities that would stretch the hymen. So it was far more common for them to experience pain and bleeding after their first time. So men just took that idea and made it practically a law without understanding it in the slightest. I know it’s tradition, but it’s tradition based on woeful ignorance of the female anatomy.
Today, it is becoming increasingly common for girls not to bleed at all when having sex for the first time simply based on their physical activities or masturbating or tampons. You’ll still be tight and it will uncomfortable your first time because you’ve never had sex before, but it’s very possible that you won’t bleed and it might not even be because you masturbated! It could just have happened due to your active lifestyle (not sexually active!).
I can’t tell you what to do or how to handle the situation if it arrives because it’s not my culture and I would be an idiot if I tried to advise you on yours, something of which I know nothing about. The only thing I can do is make sure that YOU understand the actual medical reasoning behind this so that you can arm yourself with that knowledge and be able to educate anyone who would question you or doubt you.
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