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do guys like neck kissing and lip biting too? also, do you have any advice for neck kissing?

Most guys absolutely love being kissed on the the neck! Drives them crazy! Occasionally they’re too ticklish, but don’t worry, it’s not going to make it or break it if you try kissing his neck and it turns out he’s too ticklish for it. You just know for future reference that he’s too ticklish there.

As for lip biting, most guys are into that too (just not too hard!). Although, I find the ears are a bigger thing with guys for biting. They often like being licked around the ear, nibbling on the earlobe, breathing on their ears, etc. Big turn on for them!

It’s different for every guy, so you have to experiment to see what works for each of them, but definitely test them out and see what the guy responds to!

Neck kissing…first, think about what YOU like being done to you and turn that around for him. After experimenting, you’ll find what he likes the most. It’s the same thing where everyone is different, so you never know what will work without experimenting.

The basics? Start by letting him feel your breath on his neck. Then kiss him, nibble on him, use your tongue (don’t slobber!), suck a little (hickeys are juvenile so don’t even). Experiment. Try traveling from his jaw to his neck to his ear. Start slow and light and work your way from there becoming increasingly passionate.

FUN THING TO TRY?

Eat an ice cube and then immediately after, lick a part of his neck with your cold tongue then warm it up by kissing the same spot with your warm lips – no tongue. The different temperatures stimulate the nerves and feels awesome! It’s the same idea as using as ice cube on a body part and then warming it up with your mouth. You could also hold an ice cube between your teeth, run it over his body, and then follow the same trail again, kissing it with your warm mouth and tongue. Hot/cold is great for stimulating arousal!

First Time?

I’m about to lose my virginity this weekend and I’m nervous. Any advice?

Be sure this is what you want and not about anyone else, first and foremost.

Don’t expect miracles. It’s not going to be that great (the first time), but if you’re with someone you care about, it will be wonderful in a different way – beyond physical pleasure.

Don’t do anything you feel uncomfortable with. You have the right to say no and to stop at any time you want. Always remember that!

Relax and let yourself be in the moment. Don’t make yourself a wreck with worrying about how to do this and that and all the ‘technical’ things. Do what feels good, act on instinct, and take it slowly.

If you can manage to have an orgasm BEFORE penetration, it’ll make the whole experience so much better. Tell your partner that and try to make it happen.

Be safe and enjoy yourself!

I’m 17 and been with my first proper boyfriend for 5 months now. i’m not very experienced but i would like to rub him down there. I’m not ready for sex and i’m not ready for a proper hand job. do you have any advice on how I could do it through his underwear, how long and how to keep it hot while making out? thanks

Well, that’s a bit problematic because how far do you plan on taking it? I completely understand not being ready for anything more and you should wait as long as you need, but if you tease him too much, you’re going to give your boyfriend a serious case of blue balls and that’s just mean. So until you’re ready to actually get him off, I would keep that kind of touching/teasing to a minimum.

You can massage him through his pants, cup him there, put your knee in between his legs while making out so it rubs against his crotch, straddle him so you can dry hump, etc.

But do this sparingly and not for more than a few seconds because he’s going to have a massive hard on if you do too much and then with no release, that sucks for him. If he does come, then it’s gonna be in his pants and that’s a sticky, gross mess for him and it doesn’t sound like you’re ready for him to be doing that either. So the best thing you can do to make it easier on your boyfriend (and your relationship) until you’re ready for more, is to avoid getting him too excited.

Keep kissing. Keep taking little steps that you feel comfortable with. But keep in mind that he’s a teenage boy with very little control over his body’s reactions so to be the best girlfriend you can be is to understand that and hold off on touching below the waist until you’re ready for more there. Don’t feel pressured to do anything for him. You’ll be ready when you’re ready and if he’s the kind of guy you want to be with, he’ll respect that.

Dumb question, when a guy eats you out is there anything you are supposed to do while he is doing the deed? And another dumb question, will he think the v is gross and ugly? I always thought mine was kinda ugly, but that’s just me:p

Your vagina is a beautiful flower. WORSHIP THE V. It does magical things.

When a guy is eating you out, your only job is to enjoy it and do whatever you want to make it more enjoyable for you. Hump his face, grab his hair, push him to where you want him to go, hold him there, roll your hips, WHATEVER YOU WANT. If you’re not enjoying it, then there’s a real problem there and you need to correct it ASAP. You can start by giving him some instructions during.

It’s all about you when you’re getting eaten out so be as selfish as possible because that’s the only way it’s gonna be any good! In that moment, your partner is there to please YOU. So take advantage of that.

Not dumb questions. 😉

Please help me! Any tips on how to give a good handjob ??

– Even with a handjob, foreplay is STILL important. Start off with kissing as always and then slowly move your hand down. Rub his inner thigh, stroke over his crotch when he still has his pants on, then you can gently take hold of him and massage his cock through the material. After you see him getting really into it (you should be hearing some sighs and groans), unbutton the pants and reach into his boxers. Still take it slow at this point, you’re still at foreplay, so consider it “teasing”.

– If you feel comfortable with it, go topless! (I’ve said it before, but guys are big on visual stimulation so getting to focus on your breasts will get them even more hot and bothered.) If you’re not there yet, try just wearing your bra. If you’re leaning over him, wear just your panties or nothing at all so he can see your ass. The more visual stimulation, the better. Also, eye contact is hot!

– LUBE. If he’s not slicked up with something, it’s gonna be hell on his cock so have something prepared! Oil-based or silicone based lube is best for a handjob because it’s slick and doesn’t dry up too quickly. However, if you’re planning to follow this up with sex or some other fun, go water-based because the skin will soak it up and you can move on. It just doesn’t last as long as the others. Now, if you don’t have that kind of lube available, body oil works just as well! Don’t have lube or body oil? Any kind of non-scented lotion will do. Spit should be a last resort because it’s just really not conducive for the BEST handjobs. So try being prepared okay? Get some KY, some Vaseline, ANYTHING. Honestly, if you carry around a small bottle of Johnson’s baby oil in your purse, he will love you forever.

– Find a rhythm and then work it. The goal is to be able to speed it up towards the end, but don’t go insane (especially if you don’t have the upper arm strength or enough lube – ow?).

– Hand positions. There are several different ways to use your hands. You can use your whole hand, your palms only, your fingers, or pinch your finger and thumb together to form a ring. All of the hand job “moves” are just variations of simple grip, stroke, and area touching. Do whatever comes to mind, play around, experiment to see what works and what doesn’t. It’s all fun!

– Best method? The two hander. Take both of your hands and grip the shaft. Ask him if he wants it looser or firmer so you know what the right pressure is. Don’t be too delicate, it’s not a flower! Grip it good, but still ask him what he likes so you know for sure what works. Then, slowly and rhythmically (always with rhythm!) twist both hands in the opposite direction while sliding up and down. It stimulates shaft and the head at the same time AND it makes him feel like there’s two people working on his cock, which he’ll love. Gradually increase your speed. Two hands are better and more interesting than one.

– Variation of pressure is ideal. Firmer going down, looser going up, then do the opposite. Switch it up!

– Keep your wrists loose. IT’S ALL IN THE WRIST. Don’t focus so much on your hands, instead your wrists. The way you flick your wrists and and swirl up and down is where the pleasure is!

– Don’t ever rub, you should always be sliding (or gliding) – you know what I mean.

– Midway through the HJ, give some love to his balls! Different guys like different things when it comes to playing with their balls, so you just have to experiment to find out what your guy likes. Go easy on them though! Be gentle. You can cup them, squeeze them (GENTLY!), move them around in your hands, and even stroke your fingers over them. On your way back to his cock, you can lightly scratch his balls with your nails.

– If you’re into it, pause the HJ for a moment and use your mouth on his balls. Either tongue them lightly or just put your mouth (NOT teeth) on them. If you’re a little gun shy about it, don’t worry. Just be gentle and whatever attention you give there will be received with great appreciation on his part!

– The head of the penis is the most sensitive part so you’ll want to pay more attention to that and be gentle with it. Don’t let it be your ONLY focus though. Use your thumb and index finger to form an ‘O’ shape and move it up and a down an inch or so over the head. You don’t have to move it much, you’re just trying to stimulate the head.

– Gonna use a big word for you! The frenulum is the most sensitive part of the head. It’s a little v shaped mark on the underside of his cock. Try taking a break from the regular handjob and spend like 30 seconds just rubbing the frenulum with light pressure before going to massage his balls and then back to up and down on his cock again.

– When he starts to orgasm and shoot his load, the usual instinct is to speed up your movements, HOWEVER guys actually like it when you slow down and release pressure as they start to orgasm. This is because when he’s orgasming, the head of his penis becomes insanely sensitive, to the point where it’s painful for him when you touch it. So backing off and going easier on him as he blows his wad is the best thing you can do for him.

– Try different positions with each handjob. You can straddle him while he’s lying down, you can kneel while he’s in a chair (make sure you’re comfortable!), you can sit next to him and reach over, etc. Change it up! Change is good. Keeps things new!

– Talk to him. Ask him what he likes. Ask him to SHOW you what he likes. Yes, that’s right, have him jerk off in front of you and then you need to take mental notes of how he does it. Who better to learn how to give a handjob from than the guy who’s been doing it to himself since he was 12?

HAVE FUN!

I’m a 19 year old boyish lesbian. I have had sex with girls but I have never made a girl a cum and I have never used sex toys. I am the dominating one in most cases and I prefer giving sex than receiving. I would like to know what would be the best way of making a girl cum. How can I make her have an orgasm. It will be really helpful if you could answer to these questions. I want to give her the best pleasure that I can. Thanks

Okay, first, have you ever had an orgasm? Whether from masturbating or with someone else? Because if you haven’t, that’s the first thing you need to do. In order to be able to understand the pleasure you’re trying to give another person, you need to experience it for yourself. That is, first and foremost, the best way to comprehend what it is you need to do, how to connect with what your partner is feeling, and to be able to give them the best experience possible.

You don’t need sex toys to make a girl orgasm (but it always helps, definitely not a bad thing). Oral is the easiest way to make a girl cum. Master that first and the rest of it you’ll learn with time.

The way you phrased it really makes me think that you take all of the pressure of sex on yourself and that you view it as your job to please the other person and know exactly how. That’s not how sex works. Sex is a physical and emotional connection between two people. It’s something you do TOGETHER, with give and take, not just one person doing all the work and the other getting all the pleasure.

You have to understand, being able to receive is GREAT, but a lot of people really enjoy giving as well (as you do!). Giving can grant just as much satisfaction as receiving, it’s just in a different way. It’s all part of the experience. You like being able to make someone feel good and that makes you feel good in turn, right? Well, remember that you’re not the only one who feels that way! Other people want to give too. They want the chance to be the one to make you cum and know what that feels like as well. So less dominating and more teamwork! You need to be able to listen to your partner and work in tandem to make this happen. It’s not a one-woman show! Talk to her, ask her questions, listen to her, watch her responses, a moan, a lip bite, a sigh, her stomach muscles contracting, etc. All of that will help you become more in tune with what she needs.

For a step-by-step process to lay it all out for you, read this:

Back to Basics

I know it’s not your first time, which is what the article is aimed towards, but it’s really specific in each step that you should think about and take into consideration. So I would definitely give the whole thing a read from beginning to end!

Hi I need some help. I’m bi and i’m 18 and me and my girlfriend are kinda bored of our 69 position and just fingering each other/kissing. We want to have sex in a more interesting way what should we try doing?

Sex in new places is always helpful and changes things up! Showers, other bedrooms, hot tub, kitchen, couch, chairs, on a washing machine going through the spin cycle…etc. And that’s only places restricted to the house! lol. Look for opportunities when you have a little bit of privacy, but also the risk of getting caught. Always a turn on! 😉 It’ll get you guys out of the rut.

I also recommend a trip to a high end sex shop! Browse through it together for new things that stand out to you both. New toys to play with is always awesome, but even just going through the store (without buying a ton of stuff!) and seeing what they have, is inspirational. It’ll give you new things to think about and be interested to try in your own way.

I must say, a necessary staple in your collection of sex toys is a strap on. You both get to take turns with it and it opens up many more positions for you to try! It should be a joint decision because you both obviously have a personal preference. If you don’t agree on one, then invest in two! WORTH. IT.

Download a .PDF file that has 101 Lesbian Lovemaking Positions here!

How can I make myself squirt? My girl friend said it turns her on and I want to squirt for her.

There’s no specific “method” to squirting. Honestly, it’s not even medically proven that every woman has the ability to ejaculate. I have heard, however, that it takes a lot of experimenting to find what will make it happen for you personally.

The most common denominator is that it involves a VIGOROUS stimulation of the clit and the G-spot. Once you’re worked up and wet from playing with your clit, you move to your G-spot. Use your fingers in a circular, steady, aggressive, pace to stimulate the G-spot. You can just use your fingers, but adding toys to the mix makes it easier though.

It often happens after your first orgasm, so this isn’t a one-off, it might happen in between your second or third. Just because you ejaculate, doesn’t mean you’ve had an orgasm yet. It’s a different kind of experience. Most women say that you know when it’s about to happen because it almost feels like you have to pee. The key is to ALLOW that to happen. Squirting seems to go hand in hand with very vigorous, rough, sex.

For more specific details try reading this:

HOW TO SQUIRT

Go hard, get wet.

Want to give my first blowjob. What do i do with my tongue and the head of his penis? He gives really good oral i want to return the favor, what will drive him crazy?

All right, tips you asked for, tips you get!

Warm the head of his penis with your breath. This is a sensual way of saying “hello.” Use your tongue then for long licks along the underside of the penis.
Spend extra time licking and pressing your tongue into the area right underneath the head (there’s a little V there).
Remember that the head is more sensitive than the shaft. Take it in your mouth and swirl your tongue around the rim.
Don’t try to deep throat, especially not on your first try. It’s not gonna work and most women can’t ever learn to do it. You can try to work up to it over time, but just forget about it for now.
Do not suck hard. Some suction is good, but to “suck a guy off” is more a figure of speech than a guaranteed technique.
Keep a lot of saliva in your mouth. Guys love those wet slippery cavities. (As do we all…)
After playing briefly with the head, slide your mouth down the shaft. Use your hand at the base of the penis to cover what you can’t get in your mouth. Let your saliva lubricate your manual stroking.
Be fairly light as you go down, firmer as you come up. Then switch it up! Firm going down, lighter coming up. Variety is nice, so swirl, swish, lap and lick. Vary speed and firmness. Find a rhythm, but don’t keep doing exactly the same thing.
With your fingertips, tickle behind the his testicles…also it’s a good area to lick.
I’ve said this before, but ENTHUSIASM is the best thing you can do to make it special for a guy. Be noisy (but don’t overdo it – you’re not in a porno!). Let the sounds you make show him how much you’re enjoying it. When your mouth is not full, ask him for suggestions. Guys love giving directions when it comes to their cock.
If you want to swallow, you can, but it’s COMPLETELY OKAY not to. It’s your choice. Since it’s your first BJ, my advice would be to have him ejaculate somewhere else. It’s a bit overwhelming for a first time so don’t put that pressure on yourself.

Have a good one! 😉

Awk question but I’m in college and have giving two blow jobs in my life… not exactly experienced. Can you give me some tips? PLEASE. I want to be good…. ah!

How to Give the Best Blowjobs

^That gives you some specific details to focus on. But the biggest tip I can give? Even if you hate giving a guy head, pretend to love it.

Fake it with the best of them. Because even if you really don’t like the act itself, you do enjoy giving someone else pleasure, so it’s all the same in the end.

Go to town on his dick like it is the best fucking popsicle you’ve ever tasted. Lick, suck, tease, bob, play with him, do EVERYTHING. In fact, act like it’s your new favorite toy and it’s yours to do what you want with.

Your enthusiasm and passion is half of his pleasure. If he thinks you love his cock that’s going to turn him on 10x more than any trick you’ve got with your mouth. Just the truth.

One more thing? Different guys like different stuff, so don’t make the mistake of doing “one style fits all”. Ie. some guys like you to start off slow and teasing, then go for it with gusto. Others want you to skip the teasing and jump right into the swing of it. Some want this fondled, some want that touched, and so on. There’s no ONE way to give a blow job. Listening and being aware of the other person’s responses and reactions is the best way for you to learn what pleases them the most and therefore give them the best head possible.

Go forth and suck!