Tag: health

My boyfriend and I have sex alot, and it is good, HOWEVER, I have been diagnosed with endometriosis and sex hurts for me alot. Is there any way of avoiding this? can we do other stuff to get the same effect?

I’m not a doctor! This is really a question for your gynecologist and I strongly advise you talk to them about it. There’s no need to be embarrassed. Your doctor will know what you can do and what will be effective taking your diagnosis into consideration.

That said, penetration is the issue, correct? Well, it would do you a service to use all those things you considered “foreplay” before as more of a central focus now. Oral sex is the best! 😉

Also, I don’t know how severe your condition is, but I have heard that different positions actually help make it less painful. Missionary is the worst, but side by side and doggy style are a little more comfortable because of the angle of penetration. Try it and see what happens? If not, back to oral and foreplay – all day, every day!

Again, please, PLEASE, discuss this with your doctor. It’s not anything new for them, they’ve had this discussion a thousand times over with women with same problem. So suck it up and go talk to them about it. If you want a healthy sex life – that’s what you need to do to get it.

Before anal what should i do to get all the waste out of my ass? Also will i bleed?

Try to make sure you go to the bathroom at least an hour before having sex. Shower and soap up everything really well. If you are able to go, then don’t worry about ‘cleaning out’. Just clean your asshole in the shower! 🙂

If you can’t go, then maybe you can use an enema at least a few hours prior to having intercourse. If you do it right before you have sex, it dries you out and you’ll be more prone to rips or tears. You can buy a disposable enema kit at your local drugstore. It’s not healthy to do an enema very often so practice sparingly. There have also been studies done where it shows that enemas or any other kind of “waste cleansing” measures taken can cause more problems than they solve and have been implicated in the increased transmission of STI’s (including HIV).

Just be aware that it’s not necessary to “anal douche” before having anal intercourse. If you’re regular and not constipated, you’ll likely be clean inside already. The waste isn’t stored there. You’re also going to be using a condom (RIGHT?) and that’s the safest, cleanest way to have anal sex.

You should not bleed if you do it properly. You need to go really slowly, prepare your body for it (anal stimulation like rimming, slowly working lubed up fingers in, stretching your asshole by spreading out your buttcheeks, etc.), and use PLENTY OF LUBE. Seriously, there is no such thing as too much lube during anal.

If you bleed afterwards, that means rectal tissue got torn or damaged during sex (which should not happen!). You need to have your muscles be relaxed and open and your partner can’t be too rough with you. Rough anal will cause bleeding.

I’m sure I don’t have to say this, but I will anyway. WEAR A CONDOM. It’s not just for safety – it will allow him to move in and out of you more easily and prevent anal fissures (tearing).

hi okay so i got fingered the other day (for the first time and i’m a virgin) and my pussy is really sore… is that normal? also i usually randomly get wet during the day but after i got fingered it’s more wet and i first i thought it was pee because it’s a little yellow but it smells like cum… is something wrong with me? thanku!!

Yes, it’s normal to be sore.

No, it should not be that color. Anything that’s not white or clear (and not related to your period) is an indication of an infection or an STD. See a doctor if that continues.

When I cum, there’s this white creamy stuff. Does that mean I ‘squirted’?

No.

When you “squirt” it’s a clear fluid. You would be more concerned with whether or not you had accidentally peed.

So there’s a few possible reasons for the “white creamy stuff”:

1) Our female ‘juices’ change texture over the course of a month due to our menstrual cycle. Right after your period ends, it may be a lot like lotion, creamy, smooth. Closer to ovulation, it becomes clearer (not always though) and slippery. As soon as you ovulate, the fluid becomes thick and sticky. This all happens because the vagina is a self cleaning, nifty little sucker. Awesome! 😉

2) It could just be a frothy foam worked up through vigorous intercourse, coating the penis, and making your usual lubrication look different.

3) If the discharge has a not-so-great odor and/or looks kind of lumpy like cottage cheese then you probably have a yeast infection or an STI and you should see your doctor to have it treated ASAP.

4) It’s a possible oversight, but are you certain the “white creamy stuff” isn’t semen? Just throwing that thought out there…

imagethetvgivethandthetvtakethaway replied to your post: about 3 or 4 weeks ago my boyfriend at the time…

do you ever just wanna say “fuck this shit, im out”, damn people are clueless, it freaks me out. Dont people learn anything in bio class, at least.

Actually, no, it doesn’t. I don’t mind (though it does worry me sometimes…). Some people are really young and inexperienced. Besides, did any of us ACTUALLY pay attention in sex ed or biology in high school? I don’t remember anything beyond some weird old cartoons that everyone laughed at… We usually learn all this elsewhere, ie. our parents. (I did pay attention to bio in college though!) Some people don’t have those same opportunities for information so they go online. If being reassured is what they need or if they’re looking for some advice, I’m all too happy to help to the best of my knowledge. *shrug*

That said…

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1) Sperm is not an almighty god that can make its way through two solid layers of clothing, bypassing your tampon/pad, swim up your vaginal channel, your cervix, into your uterus, through the fallopian tubes, and impregnate a new egg while your uterine lining is in the process of shedding an old one. Guys might like to think of their ‘little soldiers’ as the mega dudes of their manhood who make miracles happen, but it’s just not gonna happen like that.

2) You will not get pregnant from a handjob unless the “handjob” actually means a penis ejaculates into your vagina. Or if semen is ejaculated onto your exposed vagina. Or you use a turkey baster to collect the semen ejaculated after the handjob and then insert it into your vagina… Okay, I think you get where I’m going with this.

3) It is HIGHLY UNLIKELY that you could even get pregnant while you have your period to begin with. Even if you did have unprotected vaginal intercourse, there is an very, very small chance that you would get pregnant. I wouldn’t take any chances though. Always be safe. Shit happens.

Any questions? Thoughts? Ask box is open!