No, that is not normal and usually indicative of a problem going on. I would make an appointment with your gynecologist and have it checked out. It could be nothing or it could be a symptom of something real happening (ie. ovarian cysts, inflammatory pelvic disease, something with your uterus, etc.) Get it checked out. Better to know than to be in pain and speculating.
Tag: health
What’s the difference between sti and std?
Two terms that mean the same thing.
STD = Sexually Transmitted Diseases
STI = Sexually Transmitted Infections
STI
is the more accurate medical terminology because an infection is only
called a disease when it has symptoms and not all STD’s do.
You can be infected and not show symptoms which means that it doesn’t fit
the definition of “disease”. STI the more appropriate
terminology.
They still mean the same thing.
How possible is it for chlamydia/gonorrhoea symptoms to stay dormant for? 2 years after I had unprotected sex with a girl I developed symptoms I have been to get tested and waiting on results I am worried I will have an sti
Chlamydia can lie dormant in the body for many years causing a low grade
infection without symptoms – which is why it’s called “the Silent Infection”. When the infection flares up with symptoms, it’s usually due to a change in the immune system – like a cold/flu, cancer, or some other illness.
Even though chlamydia is the number one most common STI – a large number of cases still aren’t reported because people are asymptomatic. Chlamydia in men more often goes undetected because a) they show no symptoms and b) they don’t get tested.
Chlamydia often affects women more quickly and more seriously because it’s a bacterial infection and they have a lot more IMPORTANT STUFF down low that can easily be infected and cause more obvious symptoms.
However, both men and women can carry and transfer chlamydia for a long time without knowing because they don’t get tested and they don’t have symptoms. This is why you need to get tested at least every 6 months when you’re sexually active! Safe sex and unsafe sex – you still need to be tested because you will not know for certain unless you are tested for it.
Gonorrhea can go unnoticed in men, but it’s less common. Gonorrhea for men is more obvious with its symptoms. It’s more likely for gonorrhea to be undetected for a longer time in women because the symptoms are milder for women.
Either way, the moral of the story is DON’T HAVE UNPROTECTED SEX AND GET TESTED ROUTINELY. Because you never know. You never know.
Hello I’m a 21 year old girl and every time I have sex my vagina starts out fine and well naturally lubricated but usually about 20 minutes it dries up and isn’t wet anymore and I don’t know why, what is happening?
A few things come to mind as possible causes:
1) You might just not be into it! Yep. It could be that easy. The sex sucks, you stop being excited, you stop being wet. A guy gets hard because he’s aroused. A girl gets wet because she’s aroused. If he stops being hard or she stops being wet that means there’s a distinct lack of arousal. That’s how it works. You get turned on at first, but it seems like your interest drops off once you start having sex. How is the sex? Your arousal ends when actual sex begins so maybe it’s time to evaluate what’s going on. It could just be the simple fact that the sex isn’t good and you need to change it up or find a partner that actually “does it” for you.
2a) Dehydration. Believe it or not, drinking more water (especially when you’re NOT thirsty – key!) could solve your problem. Dehydration is a common issue for people that they don’t even notice because unless it’s SEVERE, the symptoms are mild and usually brushed off as normal.
2b) Your diet! Are you eating healthy diet with lots of fruits and veggies, or are you a meat and starch person? Lower the amount of high cholesterol foods, increase fruits and veggies and drink more water. The cleaner, healthier diet keeps all of your parts moving and your sex life benefits too! Take vitamins, especially zinc which helps with lubrication.
3) Do you think about sex in general? Does it interest you? Do you daydream about sex with celebrities, etc.? Do you masturbate? Do you stay wet while you masturbate? If yes, that would indicate that you are interested in sex, but you’re not interested in sex with whoever it is you’re having sex with. This could be a sign of the person/relationship being the problem – not you.
4) Anxiety is the natural enemy of sexual pleasure. Are you feeling stress or dealing with other matters at work life, school, family, that would be enough to be affecting your sex life?
5) Are you taking any medications? Lots of medicines can cause vaginal dryness as a side effect.
Look, female arousal takes more time than male arousal, so foreplay is crucial. Try focusing on “warming up” more than the penetrative act in sex.
The inner channel of the vagina is not the most sensitive area for a woman and 15 minutes of senseless thrusting into a relatively numb area is not going to keep you going. It’s not gonna do it for any woman! Inevitably, you dry up because it’s not feeling good for you and then you start getting sore, which makes everything 10x worse. The idea is to utilize all the other pleasure zones you have WHILE being penetrated. Also, oral sex as foreplay helps out hugely because if done right, you can be right right on the cusp of coming, dripping wet, before any penetration even occurs! Perfect!
Just to cover all my bases, other factors that could affect arousal and lubrication are hormone levels, sleep, and lack of exercise.
Hope this helps!
Ok so I gave my bf head for the first time and I swallowed all of his cum. I was really proud and thought this was good but when I got home… I had a “cumshart” lol and then I had the worst diarrhea for two hours. On Google it said hiv but no I’m his only partner. Why did this happen? How can I prevent that? I really want to swallow his load but I can’t if I’m going to have the runs after lol. I’m so upset, has this happened to you?
I don’t know about the HIV aspect, I haven’t heard that, so I can’t tell you anything. I’m not a doctor. You did have unprotected sex so, yes, you are at risk for it. He told you that you’re his only partner, but people lie. You never know 100%. It’s always a good idea to get tested. That’s all I can say about that.
Now I’ve never experienced it, but I’ve heard about it happening to other people. My best guess is (again, I’m NOT a doctor nor do I have any medical expertise) that there was some bacteria on his junk.
Diarrhea is essentially the body flooding your bowel with water to flush out toxins before they’re absorbed into your blood stream. It’s a defensive measure.
There shouldn’t be any bacteria in semen, but it’s easy for it to collect on his dick/balls. It could have also been from your hands since I’m sure you used them in addition to sucking him off. So my advice is for both of you to thoroughly wash up before engaging in any sexual activity.
Another thought is that it could be an allergy of some kind? The first seems more likely. Either way, I’d try making sure you’re both scrubbed clean and if you still have the same reaction then don’t swallow it anymore! Obviously, your body is rejecting it for a reason. Have him ejaculate somewhere on your body or on your face, just don’t swallow and keep it away from your eyes!!!
Since when was is offensive to ask a person about their sex history? I asked this girl and she got upset about it.
How did you phrase it? And when did you ask? It’s all about timing and the wording of it.
Yes, you should talk about sex history, but there’s a very specific way to go about it without making people feel like you’re accusing them of sleeping around/having an STD, or prying into something that’s none of your business, or using it in a moment of frustration/jealousy.
It should be a very calm discussion where you both agree to be truthful with each other about past sexual activities. It should be in a private, comfortable setting. Try not to ask it in an actively sexual situation. So not in bed or when you’re fooling around.
Basically it’s: “I know this is really awkward, but have you been tested before? When? I did it (insert answer here).” Something along those lines.
It’s a mature dialogue between two consenting adults. Not “So…how many people have you fucked? Do you have anything I can catch?”
If they don’t want to talk about specifically the people they’ve slept with, then you don’t get to push that. Yes, you should know about STD screening and risky sexual behaviors, but you don’t have a right to know more than that. It’s up to them to disclose any more details and if they don’t want to, that’s their prerogative and you don’t get to be mad about it.
First off, you need to think about WHY you’re asking these questions. If you’re asking because you just want to know what their number is or juicy details on who they’ve been with, not because there’s any concern of STD’s or HIV, then you need to RECONSIDER. The number is not important and you can discuss that later in the relationship when you’re both comfortable with each other.
This discussion is for two things, really.
1) To assess safe sex practices (which should be talked about early in the relationship when the sex starts…)
2) To be closer to your partner by learning about the extent of their experiences and who they’ve been with. This is to increase intimacy, not to compare numbers, amount of experience, or to find out if they hooked up with that one person you always suspected…blahblahblah.
Other tips?
– Don’t ask questions you don’t want an answer to.
– Be upfront about your expectations. “I want us to get tested before we have sex. I want to use condoms. etc.”
– You have to be careful about coming across as judgmental. Laughing, whistling, making jokes, all of that can be interpreted as assholish judgmental behavior.
– Reassure your partner that you care about them and that you want to learn, support, and figure out which precautions to take, not to pry or judge on previous behavior. OKAY?
It’s a tricky line to walk, but if you have concerns, you must voice them. Just choose your words carefully and come from a place of respect and understanding.
Also, just going to point out that you should always choose your partners wisely because people lie. You can ask all you want, but people lie. That’s reality. Be careful about who you trust.
Is there any way to make your genitals taste better (besides going vegetarian/vegan)?
Under the cut is my no-nonsense advice.
Recently my girlfriend and I tried anal, and for the first time in her life she cam, which means she has been wanting a lot more anal sex. I did not want to worry her too much as I have heard of it before, but when we are having anal sex there is usually a white discharge from her anus on my penis (I know it is NOT semen). What is this discharge and is it a bad sign for her or I?
Are you sure it’s not just lathered up lube? It tends gets all worked up and looks like discharge, but it’s just the lube coming out as a blob.
If it’s not that or semen, or semen mixed with lube, then there’s a possibility it could be a type of mucous that the body creates naturally in response to constipation and sometimes anal sex triggers that secretion. If that’s the case, there’s still no cause for concern. It’s normal, not unhealthy, and won’t hurt you or her.
You should tell her what happened anyway because if it continues, then there might be something going on with her health-wise (IBS or something) and she would want to get it checked on. No need to freak her out, but you have to be up front about it!
I’ve heard about it happening a lot so I don’t think there’s something wrong, but I’m not a doctor so this is just one layperson’s opinion.
okay lately ive been having a huge issue. at first I thought it was crabs but I have no pubic hair so it couldn’t be. my labias itch extremely badly, to the point where I have to sit down and itch for quite a few minutes. only the lips itch, nothing internal. they also seem more dry then normal. its become super uncomfortable and I hate it. im 16 and am sexually active with my boyfriend… he has been with other people but I know he doesn’t have an std. thoughts?
Okay, well there’s an easy answer and then a more complicated one.
Easy: Itchiness is common when pubic hair is growing back. You said you have none, so that means you shave or wax. Your hair starts growing back very quickly and it usually gets itchy.
Or it could just be dry skin! Like you would have anywhere else.
Complicated: You’re right, it could be an STI, a bacterial infection, or a yeast infection. So make an appointment with your doctor. Read here about another possible cause. Unless you have the results of your boyfriend’s STI screening in your hand that proves he doesn’t have anything, then I’m sorry, but you still have to consider him a risk.
Either way, if it concerns you enough to ask me, then it means you need to talk to your doctor and figure out for sure what’s going on down there. Whatever it is, you need to know for sure in case you require treatment. I’m not a medical professional so I can’t help you here.
I’m homeschooled and have thus never had a sex ed class. My parents don’t want me to have sex until after marriage, so they won’t talk to me about it. Do you know of any youtube channels or anything where I can educate myself?
Kicesie focuses on the basics of Sex Ed. So she’s more like Sex Ed 101. A little boring, but her information is on point.
I find LaciGreen entertaining and informative! She talks about more specific questions, debunks sex myths, and does her part to erase sexual stigmas. I think you’d learn a lot from her as well once you get the basics down!
You’re doing the right thing by seeking out information. It’s well within your right to wait until marriage (if that’s what you want), but even if you are waiting until marriage, you still need to know about sex! Hello? Marriage = lifetime sexual commitment to one person (among other things, of course, lol).
As for the best information you can get about STD’s and birth control, visit http://www.cdc.gov/STD/.
If anyone else has recommendations for YouTube channels for sex education, please send them this way!
EDIT…
timeisamany recommended: Sexplanations
Sumptuous Daydreams 