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Does every uterus have the potential to squirt?

First off, fluid from female ejaculation does NOT come from the uterus. It comes from what researchers have dubbed the ‘female prostate’ and exits through the urethra.

Now that that’s out of the way…

It has not yet been proven (or disproven) that all women have the ability to ejaculate. It’s still a relatively new area that’s being explored right now in the medical community. They didn’t even acknowledge the existence of squirting until the ’80s! No one has been able to prove what it “is” definitively nor can they prove that all woman are capable of it.

It’s 2013 and they still haven’t figured this shit out yet! Jfc…

hey! i slept the first time with my boyfriend and it was the first time for him too. he could not cum and he said he could not really feel anything, is it because he was masturbating so much (i’ve read your post about that)? maybe you could help me because i don’t know what to do :$ thank you :)

It’s very possible that too much aggressive masturbation could be the cause, but I’m a little worried because that excuse sounds a lot like a guy trying to make up some bullshit reason as to why he “can’t” wear a condom – because he can’t “feel” as much… If that’s the case, tell him to fuck off. You don’t need that kind of assholery in your life.

Now, I could be completely wrong about that! I have no idea what your situation is. So if it’s not that or an issue of masturbating, then it could possibly be a physical problem, or perhaps drug-related, prescription or non-prescription. It may be because of strong religious injunctions and/or guilt; the idea of not wanting to surrender to a woman; or, even fear of pregnancy! There’s a lot that goes into a guy’s state of mind when he’s not able to ejaculate. Either it’s a real physical problem or there’s something going on in his mind that’s stressing him out too much.

It was your first time! Keep trying. Make sure your movements have enough friction happening. If all you were doing was grinding, that could be the problem right then and there! If the same thing happens every time, then he should see his doctor about it. Remember though, this has NOTHING to do with you. His inability to orgasm is not your fault by any means so do not put that on yourself!

To be safe, tell him to keep his hands off his dick for a few weeks, try to have sex a few more times, and see what happens!

My boyfriend wants to eat me out but ive never done it before&He knows that. Hes so sweet but im so incredibly nervous What if i smell? What if i taste bad? What if he doesnt like what he sees or just doesnt like me down there at all? Agdjdndnc

Look, your boyfriend wants to go down on you…SO LET HIM! Do you know how many girls have to push and needle their boyfriends into giving them head? Guys are selfish assholes. Your boyfriends WANTS to give you extra attention!

I know it’s nerve wracking the first time and you feel really vulnerable in that position, but it’s all going to be just fine! Whatever nerves you have, just laugh them off, be playful and silly, enjoy yourself. Don’t take it so seriously. The only way you’re going to enjoy it is if you relax.

Trust me, if you smell bad or taste bad, you would know about it. Just shower before you do anything and you’ll feel more confident about the whole cleanliness issue. It’s not a matter of whether or not he’s going to like it down there, it’s a matter of whether or not he’s going to be any good at it! Honestly, he has ten thousand more reasons to be nervous and worried about this than you do – he’s the one who has to perform! 😉

Approach it with a sense of humor and be confident. Your job is to help him go to all the right places and enjoy what he’s doing to you, nothing more. He’s asking you for this, not the other way around, so let him make you feel good. That’s going to be the biggest turn on/pay off for him. 🙂

KEEPING IT UP

When in intercourse, my dick sometimes start unhardening so theres much less pleasure for both of us. Any thoughts on why that happens? Is it because I have more pleasure when I masturbate?

There’s several different factors that are a possibility as to why you might go soft during sex.

1) You’ve been drinking.

2) You’re stressed out and your mind is on other things. If it’s money or sports or family, etc. If you’re not in the moment, that could very well be the cause – especially if you don’t have a problem while masturbating.

3) Depending on your age, it could possibly be the beginning of ED (Erectile Dysfunction), in which case you would want to talk to your doctor about it. I doubt that’s it though.

4) You’re masturbating way too much and you need to cut back. Think of it like this: if you’ve been stranded in a desert for six days without water and you finally stumble across a spring, wouldn’t that be the absolute greatest drink of water you’ve ever had? Now imagine you haven’t masturbated or had sex for six days, and suddenly your girlfriend bends over and begs you to fuck her, don’t you think that you’ll experience one of the most mind-boggling orgasms of your life?

It’s about sensory deprivation for pleasure and you’re engaging in sensory overload which decreases your pleasure. If you’re jacking off every day or more than once a day, then sex isn’t going to have that much enjoyment for you because you’re all juiced out. Masturbation is great, yes, but fucking your girlfriend is better!

Also, when you masturbate really roughly with a hard grip and squeezing the head of your dick, it takes away from the sensation of entering something softer like the vagina. You’ve grown too accustomed to the pressure of your hand and pussy isn’t as forceful so you lose the sensation. CUT BACK ON JACKING OFF! And go easier on your dick. Masturbating should be about training your dick for sex, not ruining it. Stroke it gently, not aggressively. You want to increase your endurance and allow for pleasure, not completely ruin it for yourself.

WOMAN ON TOP

Anonymous: Hey, this is kind of awkward but I’ve seen that you give good advice so I hope that you can help me. The thing is that I would like to be on top but every time I do it just doesn’t feel good. It just doesn’t give me any pleasure but I would really like it to. So I guess that I just do something wrong… Any advice on how to do it better?

Pleasure from being on top, for women, begins with confidence above all. Riding a guy requires a level of self assurance and comfortableness with your sexual nature. You feel exposed up there and if you don’t let go of your inhibitions and allow the selfish desires of taking your pleasure exactly as you want, then it won’t work. Does that make sense?

It also takes practice. You learn something more about what you like and how moving this way with that angle feels better than going that way with the other angle, and so on. So you need to ride and ride and ride and ride him some more until you get it just right!

I’ve said this so many times, but I’ll say it yet again, being on top means YOU are in charge and it’s about YOUR pleasure. If you are feeling good, then he’s going to feel good! He’ll love seeing your reactions and watch as you ride his cock.

Get out of your head and be more in tune with your body. Focus on what feels good. Forget what you think you’re “supposed to do” when you’re on top, if it’s not working, then try something else, don’t linger. It’s all about you and finding out what you like when you’re up there. Not some misdirected idea of what he thinks is sexy or what you’ve seen in porn.

The most basic position for riding goes like this: Get on top of him, knees on either side, lean forward with your hands on his chest for leverage (it gives you more control over how deep you want to thrust as well), reach behind you to grab his cock and ease yourself down on him by sitting back a little bit, then rock back and forth on your knees in whatever way comes naturally to you. You can sit upright or hunch over him or lean all the way back on your hands and thrust away. You can face him or reverse it so he’s seeing your back. It takes practice to find a rhythm and prevent him from slipping all the way out of you. Completely normal. If you get tired, you can have him flip you over and keep going until you get your wind back and want to go again! It’s FUN!

Grinding when you’re on top is more likely to be pleasing for you. Try the ‘bump and grind’ which is basically thrusting your pelvis back and forth around in a circle (think 80’s rockstar?). This works for a lot of woman more than just up and down.

Grind back and forth / bounce up and down – that’s basically what it comes down to. This is YOUR time and YOU are in charge. He’s just there to watch at this point. Find your pleasure. Find what feels good. Don’t feel embarrassed about having to explore more to figure out what it is you like. Take your time. Move different ways. Encourage him to play with your breasts or rub your clit.

The best thing you can do is to be honest with your partner. Tell him you want to practice riding him! Seriously! Do it all night long! However long it takes to find out what you like. Once you figure it out, then he can come into the picture. Grinding is most likely going to be the best for you, but guys don’t get as much from it as we do because there’s not enough friction from grinding for them, so you’ll find a compromise. For now, just focus on you and what works for you then you can worry about him! 😉 Trust me, he’ll be MORE than okay with that!

Under the read more are some images of what different positions you can try on top to figure out what you like the best! Sometimes the visual helps more than an explanation. Once you see it, your imagination takes you to where you need to go. 😉

^ A pillow to change his position makes a difference!

^ You’re essentially straddling one leg and using it for leverage.

^ His legs are crossed Indian style and you’re sitting on his lap.

How do you avoid grazing your teeth on the penis when you are giving a blow job? I’m afraid I will hurt the guy when I finally do give one:/

Wrap your lips over your teeth and make sure your lips are wet so it slides in and out easily. The wetter the better when it comes to BJs.

Darling, it’s better down where it’s wetter, take it from me!

Sorry. I digress…

It’s like a popsicle – you use your lips and your tongue to control it, suck on it, lick it, etc. Basically, use your lips as a shield to prevent your teeth from grazing him.

You’re not going to hurt him, I promise. He’ll love whatever you do! (You already know not to let your teeth touch him and that’s one the most common mistakes women make when first starting to give BJs!)

do guys like neck kissing and lip biting too? also, do you have any advice for neck kissing?

Most guys absolutely love being kissed on the the neck! Drives them crazy! Occasionally they’re too ticklish, but don’t worry, it’s not going to make it or break it if you try kissing his neck and it turns out he’s too ticklish for it. You just know for future reference that he’s too ticklish there.

As for lip biting, most guys are into that too (just not too hard!). Although, I find the ears are a bigger thing with guys for biting. They often like being licked around the ear, nibbling on the earlobe, breathing on their ears, etc. Big turn on for them!

It’s different for every guy, so you have to experiment to see what works for each of them, but definitely test them out and see what the guy responds to!

Neck kissing…first, think about what YOU like being done to you and turn that around for him. After experimenting, you’ll find what he likes the most. It’s the same thing where everyone is different, so you never know what will work without experimenting.

The basics? Start by letting him feel your breath on his neck. Then kiss him, nibble on him, use your tongue (don’t slobber!), suck a little (hickeys are juvenile so don’t even). Experiment. Try traveling from his jaw to his neck to his ear. Start slow and light and work your way from there becoming increasingly passionate.

FUN THING TO TRY?

Eat an ice cube and then immediately after, lick a part of his neck with your cold tongue then warm it up by kissing the same spot with your warm lips – no tongue. The different temperatures stimulate the nerves and feels awesome! It’s the same idea as using as ice cube on a body part and then warming it up with your mouth. You could also hold an ice cube between your teeth, run it over his body, and then follow the same trail again, kissing it with your warm mouth and tongue. Hot/cold is great for stimulating arousal!

Stupid question, i really want to make my boyfriend come I’ve given him hj and bj but i always stop early because i dont know what its going to be like. i love the fact that i get to please him and i’m ready to be doing all that. i hate the fact that i tease him and never let him release! but yeah what should i do? should i have a chat to him about it?

Definitely talk to him! If you’re feeling nervous about it, you need to explain exactly that to him – let him know what it is your feeling/thinking. Guys need us to spell it out for them, they respond well to a direct “this is what’s going on” approach. They do not understand mixed messages and get confused very easily so the best form of communication is the one that is as straightforward and honest as possible.

What is it exactly that you’re worried about? Some white stuff is gonna come out and you just wipe it off with whatever you have handy. That’s it really. Just make sure you’re not in the way so it doesn’t get on your clothes and make a mess. Also don’t let it get in your eyes! Burns like a mofo. 😉

If you’re really worried about taking it all the way to the finish line, try this: do what you usually do and then when he gets close, instead of stopping altogether, have him take over. Tell him to finish himself off. So he’ll jack off in front of you and you can watch and see for yourself without worrying about the responsibility. He’ll think it’s hot if you ask – anything so that he gets to come! Once you see it the first time, it’ll never be a big deal again, haha.

Do you want me to post some “cum shot” gifs for you so you have an idea of what it’s going to look like?

My boyfriend and I have sex alot, and it is good, HOWEVER, I have been diagnosed with endometriosis and sex hurts for me alot. Is there any way of avoiding this? can we do other stuff to get the same effect?

I’m not a doctor! This is really a question for your gynecologist and I strongly advise you talk to them about it. There’s no need to be embarrassed. Your doctor will know what you can do and what will be effective taking your diagnosis into consideration.

That said, penetration is the issue, correct? Well, it would do you a service to use all those things you considered “foreplay” before as more of a central focus now. Oral sex is the best! 😉

Also, I don’t know how severe your condition is, but I have heard that different positions actually help make it less painful. Missionary is the worst, but side by side and doggy style are a little more comfortable because of the angle of penetration. Try it and see what happens? If not, back to oral and foreplay – all day, every day!

Again, please, PLEASE, discuss this with your doctor. It’s not anything new for them, they’ve had this discussion a thousand times over with women with same problem. So suck it up and go talk to them about it. If you want a healthy sex life – that’s what you need to do to get it.

Before anal what should i do to get all the waste out of my ass? Also will i bleed?

Try to make sure you go to the bathroom at least an hour before having sex. Shower and soap up everything really well. If you are able to go, then don’t worry about ‘cleaning out’. Just clean your asshole in the shower! 🙂

If you can’t go, then maybe you can use an enema at least a few hours prior to having intercourse. If you do it right before you have sex, it dries you out and you’ll be more prone to rips or tears. You can buy a disposable enema kit at your local drugstore. It’s not healthy to do an enema very often so practice sparingly. There have also been studies done where it shows that enemas or any other kind of “waste cleansing” measures taken can cause more problems than they solve and have been implicated in the increased transmission of STI’s (including HIV).

Just be aware that it’s not necessary to “anal douche” before having anal intercourse. If you’re regular and not constipated, you’ll likely be clean inside already. The waste isn’t stored there. You’re also going to be using a condom (RIGHT?) and that’s the safest, cleanest way to have anal sex.

You should not bleed if you do it properly. You need to go really slowly, prepare your body for it (anal stimulation like rimming, slowly working lubed up fingers in, stretching your asshole by spreading out your buttcheeks, etc.), and use PLENTY OF LUBE. Seriously, there is no such thing as too much lube during anal.

If you bleed afterwards, that means rectal tissue got torn or damaged during sex (which should not happen!). You need to have your muscles be relaxed and open and your partner can’t be too rough with you. Rough anal will cause bleeding.

I’m sure I don’t have to say this, but I will anyway. WEAR A CONDOM. It’s not just for safety – it will allow him to move in and out of you more easily and prevent anal fissures (tearing).