Tag: anal sex

My boyfriend and i were having sex and he had sped up and happened to slip out of my vagina and the tip of his dick slipped into my anus. Its bleeding, not a lot, and it hurts. Is there anything i should do or just give it time?

Well, first, I have to admit that I find it unlikely that it was an “accident”. I mean, it is possibly for that to happen accidentally, but very unlikely, especially since it was such a well aimed “slip” that made you bleed… It sounds like a guy trying to pass off what he did as an “accident” when, really, he was going for it.

I don’t know this for certain, I wasn’t there, and I’m not saying an accident is impossible, but the skeptic in me really questions this. You should think a little more about what happened and consider whether or not you need to have a discussion with your boyfriend about experimentation and realize that there could be a MAJOR consent issue here.

Secondly, the rough entry without proper lubrication and foreplay undoubtedly caused some anal fissures (tearing) and that’s why there’s bleeding. It should heal on its own, could take a week for it to heal fully, but if you continue to experience significant bleeding/pain after 24 hours, see a doctor.

Any tips/advice for first time rimming? gf and I are concerned about hygiene. We’re monogamous and std free. I know tongue can’t go directly directly from anus to vag, but can we catch anything orally from analingus (even after douching and shower)?

Douching is for the vagina… It has no bearing on anal sex. If you meant an enema, then NO. Enema = bad. It dries you out and makes you more prone to tearing. It’s unnecessary.

You can contract anything from unprotected oral sex – cunnilingus or anilingus. So if you’re really serious about protecting yourself, use a dental dam.

But, yes, in addition to STD’s, there are other things you can contract from rimming – such as bacterial diseases, intestinal parasites, or an infection like conjunctivitis. This can be avoided with thorough cleaning (you do NOT need to use an enema) and, obviously, don’t double dip. Just take a shower before and after. Scrub and soap each other up! Nice and clean. That’s all you need. (You can even use a wet finger in there to clean out any remains if you feel it necessary.)

Simple things like that will suffice in protecting you from the additional risks of anal play. But always remember that STD’s are just as easily contracted from anal as they are from vaginal. So don’t say you weren’t warned!

TIPS FOR RIMMING:

1. Use your breath. Blow warm air onto the anus and the skin surrounding it, or just hover above and breathe against it. Stimulates the nerves without you even having to touch anything!

2. Use your tongue. Lick it with a flat tongue, flick it, rub and push against the general backside region, or you can harden your tongue to penetrate, probe, tap and trace the rim. Start off with a nice flat tongue and work your way up to the tongue fuck.

3. Use your lips. Kiss and suck the asshole, taint, inner thighs, crack of the ass, buttocks, lower back and the back of the legs. Just use it all. Same as you would when eating pussy!

4. Use your fingers and hands. Finger the asshole gently and pull apart the butt cheeks. You also can reach around from behind and play with her pussy, clit, etc. Don’t use the same hand!

5. Use your teeth. As long as you are only doing little nibbles or gentle love bites — don’t bite to bruise in this instance, it’s unsafe. Nip her ass cheeks!

7. Positions: Sit on your partners face – Entwine yourself in a 69 -Lay face down with pillows under your hips, so your hips and ass are raised in the air for better access – Get on all fours, arch your back, spread your knees and ass cheeks apart – Lie on your back with a pillow under your ass, lifting it up in the air – Lie on your back, pulling your ankles to your ears, and expose your hole – Stand facing the wall, or bend from your waist, with your legs spread wide.

Is anal sex messy? My guy wants to try it and I’m really only opposed on the grounds that I’m a germaphobe.

Sex is always messy. Anal sex is messier than vaginal, but just like vaginal, if you do it right and you use protection, it’s all good! If you’re a germaphobe then don’t try rimming (tonguing ass). Germs aren’t a problem if you’re using protection and you don’t do stupid things like go from ass to pussy using the same condom…

Try to use the bathroom at least an hour before, have several condoms on hand for switching, use lots of lube, and take a hot shower after!

It’s always good to try something at least once. If it doesn’t do it for you, there’s nothing wrong with telling your boyfriend that. There are plenty of different things you can experiment with that doesn’t have to do with anal!

Recently my girlfriend and I tried anal, and for the first time in her life she cam, which means she has been wanting a lot more anal sex. I did not want to worry her too much as I have heard of it before, but when we are having anal sex there is usually a white discharge from her anus on my penis (I know it is NOT semen). What is this discharge and is it a bad sign for her or I?

Are you sure it’s not just lathered up lube? It tends gets all worked up and looks like discharge, but it’s just the lube coming out as a blob.

If it’s not that or semen, or semen mixed with lube, then there’s a possibility it could be a type of mucous that the body creates naturally in response to constipation and sometimes anal sex triggers that secretion. If that’s the case, there’s still no cause for concern. It’s normal, not unhealthy, and won’t hurt you or her.

You should tell her what happened anyway because if it continues, then there might be something going on with her health-wise (IBS or something) and she would want to get it checked on. No need to freak her out, but you have to be up front about it!

I’ve heard about it happening a lot so I don’t think there’s something wrong, but I’m not a doctor so this is just one layperson’s opinion.

I am getting turned on by your gif’s of gay guys having sex. Is that weird? I am female and bisexual and normally think anal is weird whether it being two dudes, a guy and a girl, or two girls with a dildo.

Well, first, it’s just naturally more pleasurable for men to have anal sex than women because of anatomical differences and the presence of their G-Spot/prostate. So two men having sex has a different pleasure spin on it, to start with, rather than seeing women have anal sex.

Also, it’s just two hot guys fucking. It’s sex. Sex is a turn on. Whether it’s two guys, two girls, guy and girl, two girls one guy, two guys one girl, orgy, whatever! As long as it’s done right and there’s chemistry, there’s intimacy, there’s a feeling of real pleasure taking place…that’s the turn on!

You’re not thinking about anal sex when you see two guys, you’re thinking about how hot they look, how good they’re feeling, the rhythm they have, etc. You’re thinking about the sexual pleasure they’re deriving from it. It doesn’t matter as much HOW they’re getting it, but rather how good they’re making it look.

Sex turns you on. GOOD SEX turns you on even more. Men, women, it doesn’t matter which combination you use, it’s all still sex and if they’re doing it right, it’s fucking hot.

FIRST TIME ANAL

Hey, I’m a guy and looking into trying anal with my girlfriend. She’s definitely interested, but neither of us want to force it and cause her any pain that can be avoided. She said she would be ready for a little pain when push comes to shove, as it might take time getting used to the sensation, but we want to minimize it if at all possible. Can you give me some tips to help start us off and maybe give me, as a guy, some tips to really help soothe her and help her out?
– Anonymous

GO. AS. SLOWLY. AS. YOU. POSSIBLY. CAN.

That’s numero uno. The first time is always the hardest and it does hurt in the beginning and she will be sore as hell afterwards, but if you do it right, it won’t hurt nearly that much and after the first time, it gets easier. I’m glad you’re asking about it because that really shows that you want to do the best you can for your girlfriend. 🙂

Here are some basic guidelines to anal. I’m going to direct the tips to girls and what they can do. You can either have your girlfriend read this or suggest these things to her.

1) RELAX. Spend a few minutes relaxing your mind and your entire body. You can also relax your anal muscles – which would help you so much! Try tightening them by squeezing your butt muscles and hold for a few minutes, then release. Do this a few times and you’ll start to feel more of what it is you need to relax.

2) LUBE, LUBE, LUBE, AND MORE FUCKING LUBE! You seriously cannot use too much lube when it comes to anal. You don’t have any natural body juices helping out here so this is extremely important. The more lube you use, the more comfortable and enjoyable it will be. Use a water-based lubricant. The skin naturally absorbs and it dries up a little more quickly than the others, but that’s why it’s the safest form to use. You don’t want to risk infection because cleaning out the ass is more difficult. So water-based lube and lots of it!!! Keep it close by in case you feel like you need more during!

3) Before going right to it, start off by using a finger to get your anal muscles to relax and open to the intrusion. Slowly insert more fingers as it becomes more comfortable for you. Rimming is also a good idea (tongue fucking your ass). The anus has a concentration of nerve endings and can be an erogenous zone for some women. So the more gentle finger play and stimulation you have there, the better intercourse will feel.

4) Communicate! Talk to your partner about your fears or desires for anal sex. Continue to communicate when first trying anal sex by letting your partner know if it hurts or if you would like him to move more slowly or more quickly. It is important that you feel comfortable so don’t be afraid to talk to them about it! Just biting your pillow is NOT going to help you here. If you’re willing to try this in the first place, then you need to be in a position where you feel comfortable directing your partner in exactly what you need. Never force anything. This is all about easing into it at the pace that YOU need.

5) Women—you stay in control! Especially the first time you are trying anal penetration, it is good to be in control of your man’s dick so that you can guide it at a pace and pressure that you are comfortable with. Take your time in getting it in. This is also good because the lining of the anus is very sensitive, so pay attention to your body and stop if it is too painful. Some good beginning positions for when trying anal sex are missionary, doggie style, and laying on your side with your partner behind you on his side. These positions are the best because your anal muscles relax more easily in them. Men, you need to be on your toes and listen to your partner. Follow their cues without question. If you don’t listen, you risk hurting them and causing real damage to their body. So be extra aware of everything that you’re doing!

6) It WILL be uncomfortable at first, though the pain should not be overwhelming. If it is, stop, and keep using foreplay until you’re ready to try again. Real pain, pinching, intense discomfort, are all signs that you haven’t fully prepared your anus for penetration so you need to keep working on it. Don’t hold your breath when you feel the discomfort – breathe through it. Men, you can help to remind your partners by gently encouraging her to breathe. Whisper it in her ear, be reassuring, touch her, talk to her – just stay in constant communication so she doesn’t feel like she’s in this place of discomfort alone and you’re just there to fuck her ass.

7) Be safe! Shower before and after, taking extra care to clean down there. Do not go from ass to pussy, it can lead to infection or complications. Always use a condom! (That’s not even just about safety, it’s provides extra lubrication and it’s easier to slide in and out…) If you try anal and want to switch to pussy again, discard that condom and put on a new one to minimize the risk of infection.

8) Stimulating both your ass and your pussy will maximize your pleasure. Either have him finger your pussy or maybe even bring a vibrator in and use that while he’s playing with your ass. It feels great for BOTH partners! It’s important not to forget your clit and your pussy in general just because you’re focusing on anal sex. It all works together! Most women can’t climax just from anal so that’s why you need both.

9) For those receiving, it’s ideal to make sure you use the bathroom to empty all contents before starting. It’s rare, but it happens, so try to avoid any messy situation with a quick trip to the bathroom.

Okay, so some particular advice for guys…

– Don’t do what you’ve seen in porn. NEVER. I beg of you. Porn is the worst model you can use for sex. In most porn, you see a guy just ram it home in one shot. NEVER DO THIS. It will not only hurt your partner, but it’s also a mood killer and major turn off. You need to gently ease into her. If she tells you it’s too much, either stop where you are or pull out completely (depending on what she’s asking).

– When it comes to anal, you’ll be pushing in a little, then stopping, pulling out, try some fingering again, then go back and ease in a little more. It can be frustrating for you, I know, but you will hurt your partner if you do anything overzealous in the beginning. You can cause tearing and bleeding and your partner will NOT want to try it ever again. So patience is your best friend. Think of this as fun, not as some frustrating thing where you can’t just get into her already! Play around with it, enjoy the new sensations, listen to your partner, and you’ll be making both of your experiences very enjoyable!

– The best way for women to enjoy anal is to orgasm at least once before trying it. So try getting her off with oral sex (you can also start slipping your digits up the other way to begin preparing her – massage her anus first and then gently insert a finger). Women also prefer having regular intercourse before switching to anal. So have sex, make sure she orgasms, and then for the next round, that’s the best time to try anal. She’ll be aroused, ready, and relaxed – which is key! Jumping straight to anal without anything else is a bad idea and you’ll likely be rejected.

– I can’t stress this enough, listen to your partner. Do what they ask you to do. If you get too eager and go too fast before they’re ready, you’ll hurt them and the chances of them wanting to try anal sex again are slim to none. So do what you have to do to mentally prepare yourself to be patient and understanding. If your partner doesn’t enjoy it after the first time, then you need to respect that. Anal sex isn’t for everyone. Some people love it, others do not. Never pressure your partner into doing it again if they don’t want to or make them feel guilty for not wanting it. Respect their wishes. There are many…many…many different ways to explore and have fun with sex that doesn’t involve anal. So don’t be so disappointed! You’ve got plenty more to try!

Before anal what should i do to get all the waste out of my ass? Also will i bleed?

Try to make sure you go to the bathroom at least an hour before having sex. Shower and soap up everything really well. If you are able to go, then don’t worry about ‘cleaning out’. Just clean your asshole in the shower! 🙂

If you can’t go, then maybe you can use an enema at least a few hours prior to having intercourse. If you do it right before you have sex, it dries you out and you’ll be more prone to rips or tears. You can buy a disposable enema kit at your local drugstore. It’s not healthy to do an enema very often so practice sparingly. There have also been studies done where it shows that enemas or any other kind of “waste cleansing” measures taken can cause more problems than they solve and have been implicated in the increased transmission of STI’s (including HIV).

Just be aware that it’s not necessary to “anal douche” before having anal intercourse. If you’re regular and not constipated, you’ll likely be clean inside already. The waste isn’t stored there. You’re also going to be using a condom (RIGHT?) and that’s the safest, cleanest way to have anal sex.

You should not bleed if you do it properly. You need to go really slowly, prepare your body for it (anal stimulation like rimming, slowly working lubed up fingers in, stretching your asshole by spreading out your buttcheeks, etc.), and use PLENTY OF LUBE. Seriously, there is no such thing as too much lube during anal.

If you bleed afterwards, that means rectal tissue got torn or damaged during sex (which should not happen!). You need to have your muscles be relaxed and open and your partner can’t be too rough with you. Rough anal will cause bleeding.

I’m sure I don’t have to say this, but I will anyway. WEAR A CONDOM. It’s not just for safety – it will allow him to move in and out of you more easily and prevent anal fissures (tearing).

i want to try anal. i’ve gotten fingered in the ass before and loved it. its my first time and the person who is up for it is sorta on the larger side. i already know the basics of how to do it and be safe and what not but, is there any way for me to loosen it up a bit before. like masturbating it or something?

How to loosen up on your own?

butt plug

With your partner?

LOT’S AND LOT’S OF FOREPLAY. THIS IS CRUCIAL.

You have to take it really slow and work your way up to it. Rushing is the absolute worst thing you could do. Rimming, stretching your asshole, lubed up fingers, even slapping your ass, all of that will help your sphincter relax and prepare itself. You, yourself, also need to be relaxed otherwise it’s just not good. So try having your partner eat you out while playing with your ass, that way the combined pleasure and stretching/finger play will open you up and relax the muscles there.

KEY PHRASE: If it hurts, don’t force it.

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