Although 99% of the time it’s over when the man cums. Not fair at all.

To be clear, I was speaking specifically about a relationship between two women. It’s a whole different ball game when it comes to lack of orgasm in a heterosexual relationship. Because men will (almost) always achieve orgasm whereas a staggeringly small percentage of straight women do.

Recent studies show…

96% of straight men regularly achieve orgasm during sex.

89% of lesbians regularly achieve orgasm during sex.

88% of bi/gay men regularly achieve orgasm during sex.

64% of heterosexual women regularly achieve orgasm during sex.

That’s downright horrifying. So, yes, it is an entirely different discussion when it comes to orgasms and heterosexual relationships. (And, yes, you’re right – it’s largely due to the act of sex being viewed as complete when the man finishes.)

So, there’s times I’m playing with my girlfriend and after a while I’m no longer interested in coming but I did enjoy the experience. Is this normal? I’d like to think it’s possible to enjoy sex without release. (I’m a woman, by the way.)

ABSO-FUCKING-LUTELY!

Orgasm is not the be all, end all. It’s an enjoyable release, but sometimes it requires too much energy to expend, energy that you just might not have at that moment, but it doesn’t mean you don’t want to still experience pleasure.

Sex is about pleasure – not an orgasm. It’s a way to release energy (varying levels of it) and share intimacy. It’s a chance to play and experiment, and there’s the opportunity to GIVE pleasure as well – which is gratifying in a different way.

Now, of course, this is different for everyone. Some women don’t mind not always having an orgasm – they’re happy to please their partners, enjoy the intimacy, experience the pleasure of touch, oral, etc. But there are others who would be extremely frustrated by the lack of an orgasm – craving it far more. Everyone’s different!

If you are not left feeling discontent, unsatisfied, or frustrated, then it is absolutely okay to not orgasm sometimes or not even desire it. You’re enjoying being with your girlfriend. You’re enjoying that intimacy and pleasure of touch. It doesn’t have to result in an orgasm if you just don’t want to push yourself to the limit that day. Totally normal.

This does not mean you should never want an orgasm. If your sex drive is more subdued than past experience, then you might want to consider factors in your life that are contributing to that. But if there’s occasions where you have that body wracking, toe curling orgasm and then occasions where you’re enjoying just being in the moment while not reaching climax – I’d say you have a pretty darn healthy and fulfilling sex life.

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Back when I was younger and more ignorant and misinformed than I am now, one of my exes literally made me feel guilty sometimes when he got a boner and I didn’t want to “take care of him”. He claimed that it caused him a lot of pain and he said that his doctor had actually said he couldn’t leave himself in that state or else he could damage himself…. So made me feel like I HAD to give him relief even when I really did not desire to. And that sucked.

Wait… it DOESN’T hurt them?

Boys get boners all the time for no reason. No, it doesn’t hurt them. If any boy tries to tell you otherwise, run away as fast as you can because he’s lying to you for the sake of his penis.

No penis is more important than you because you are a whole person and a penis is just a spongy flab o’ flesh. 

Hahaha deff not I get boners constantly.
Math
Driving
Light
Anything causes them

Favorite answer so far.

Math.

Dicks can seriously be ridiculous at times

Hell sometimes a brisk breeze can set them off

Reblogging this for all of the girls and guys that DO NOT KNOW THIS INFORMATION.  Because this is extremely important.

HEY!!! 

HEYYYYYY!!!!

The term ‘blue balls’ isn’t actually a fucking thing. 

It was created by giant flopping douche canoes to con girls into rubbing their little dingadongs. 

I literally get 10 boners a day and never get blue balls. 

Next time someone tries to shame you into a handy, kick them in the balls and tell them “NOW YOU HAVE BLUE BALLS”

Thiiiiiiiis is what I’m talking about

The comedian is Iliza Schlesinger and she is hilarious

This blog is fucking hot and sexy as hell!!!!!!! Do you get turned on making these gifs? You gotta, right!?!?!!!?? Because dayum, I do!! Found this blog by accident and I keep coming back! If you’re single, just saying I am too ;) You gotta be one fun, naughty, dirtyminded person and I like that! xo Nony

Im a girl, and I’m bisexual, and I’ve only ever gotten with girls. This guy and I have been kind of a thing for a while, and it’s to the point where we will end up doing stuff, but I’ve never done anything with a guy, so I’m not sure what i’m supposed to do. I guess my question is what’s some advice you can give me about what i should do when we’re making out to advance it

Put your hand down his pants.

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some of the most sensitive areas of the female body

look at all the regions that are not titties and vagina guys

porn has lied to you. there are other places you can touch that sensitive and pleasurable. 

Oh yeah because I’m just gonna rub her eyes until a she’s horny

Kiss her there you walnut! Use tenderness! Hold her face gently and stroke her eyelids with your thumb and then kiss them! Run your hands down to her neck when you do! THINK!!! Lordie, you have a lot to learn that TOUCH gives more than making her “horny” you’ll drive her nuts doing gentle stuff! It’s trust! It’s care! It’s sensitivity! *smacks your forehead* You want her to be numb in complete ecstasy! I know this shit and I’m ASEXUAL! 

Reblogging purely for the beautiful use of the word “walnut” as an insult.

Save a life. Reblog.

reblogging for all you walnuts out there

hi! i’m a girl & have been dating my gf for couple months(we’re in our 20s). i’m experienced but she was a virgin before we met. we had sex on our 4th date but since then she’s been wanting to take things slow. she told me that she will eventually be ok with sex but idk how long i’m supposed to wait. sex is really important to me; i also don’t want to break up with her over this bc i really do like her a lot and i don’t want to open up the relationship. how should i talk to her about it? help!

I know this is super obvious, but you just have to talk to her. She’s not going to swear off sex forever. Maybe something happened during the first time that has her worried or feeling tentative about it. Maybe she felt like it was overwhelming? Maybe she didn’t enjoy herself as much as she wanted to…

It could be any number of things. Don’t jump to drastic conclusions. If you really do care about her and you want this to work out, give it time and that means as long as it takes. Of course you don’t want to be celibate, but you have to be willing to compromise here an give her time. There’s something holding her back and you have to find out what that is.

I would just dive into it. Tell her how much you want her and how beautiful and sexy and amazing she is. How much it’s killing you to not be able to touch her.
Ask her exactly why she wants to take it slower.

See what she says. If she still can’t really find the words, then ask her if there was something that happened that first (and only) time. Did you make a mistake? Was it too fast?
Did it feel overwhelming or out of control?

Was it not good for her?

(Follow that up immediately with reassurance that it’s okay if she didn’t because it’s a work in progress and you want to do whatever you can to learn about her and make it the best experience possible.) Be completely honest and humble.

Express how much you want sex to be good for her, for it to be something you guys share, and if something got messed up the first time, wires crossed, whatever it is, let her know that she can tell you about it and you’ll understand. You’ll do whatever she needs. Don’t accuse her of anything, just entreat her to talk to you about it and show that you won’t judge or get defensive or fly off the handle if she says something you might not like. (Not only do you show that, but you also need to DO it.)

Show her that you care about her, explain that you’ll go at her pace no matter what but you just need to understand more about what’s happening inside that head of hers. Be open, listen, and be a safe place for her. You both have to establish a base of trust and honesty with each other. Everything else will fall into place after that.

DEAR TEENAGERS AND YOUNG ADULTS BECOMING SEXUALLY ACTIVE FOR THE FIRST TIME:

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1. DEMAND condom use
2. Hold your partners accountable for what happens in the bedroom. None of this “baby I can’t control myself around you” or “I just wanted you so bad” bullshit.
3. Coercion is real and it’s very scary and hard to identify in the moment. Establish a dialogue with your partner. Be clear on what you both want. Be clear on what you don’t want. Your boundaries should ALWAYS be respected.
4. Sex can be really emotionally and physically over-stimulating the first few times; don’t be afraid or ashamed to ask your partner to slow down, take a break, or even stop.
5. Focus less on pleasing your partner and more on exploring your partner. Everyone’s body is different and there are no “tricks” to better sex. Chances are, if you psych yourself out worrying over how well you’re “performing” then nobody’s going to have a good time.
6. Ask questions, offer suggestions. Despite what porn has probably taught you, talking during sex isn’t weird or taboo. Your partner isn’t a mind reader. They don’t know what feels good to you. [Pro-tip, a looot of people without clitorises aren’t fully aware of just HOW sensitive a clitoris is. They can be a little rough with them. Tell them to chill!!!!]
7. Your sex life is YOUR business. Don’t ever feel ashamed of how many or how few sexual partners/experiences you’re having. Do what you want, touch the people who want to touch you back, forget the rest.
8. DON’T FAKE YOUR ORGASMS!! Don’t fake your orgasms!! DON’TFAKEYOURORGAMS!! If your partner isn’t getting you there, let them know! Tell them how!!
9. There is more to sex than orgasms. Sex is a really cool way to establish intimacy and trust, to have a fun time, to relieve stress, to explore a person’s body and bring them pleasure. Don’t get me wrong, orgasms are really cool and good, but your sex life is going to be a lot better if it doesn’t revolve around them.
10. LEARN ABOUT YOUR BODY!! This goes for everyone, but ESPECIALLY if you are a person in possession of a vulva, you have been discouraged and even actively kept from vital knowledge about your anatomy! Do some google searches, buy a human sexuality textbook, masturbate.
11. Virginity is a useless concept. It’s completely okay if your virginity is something important to you and I’m not trying to belittle that idea. Just, for the record, in the grand scheme of things it’s not a big deal. Literally nothing about you changes just because you bumped uglies with someone else.

This has been a public service announcement from your friendly internet poet.