rnaiamitch said: I disagree that someone can’t be biromantic, I mean, I can have strong feelings for someone and want to kiss them, and do things people would do in a relationship— but not want to have sex. That’s like saying asexuals don’t exist.

I didn’t say they couldn’t be biromantic. I said that I don’t like labels. It’s too specific and unnecessary. What applies for one person does not always apply to another. That’s why I think it’s unreasonable to have them. I mean it feels like one day it’s gonna be “Hi! I’m a homosexual bi-romantic, occasionally pansexual, but slightly asexual, previously thought to be cis but now soon to be trans female! How about you?”

Enoughhhhhhhhhh.

Your bi anon that doesn’t like dicks could be homosexual biromantic

I really don’t like labels. You can’t put everything into a box. You can be attracted to guys without wanting to have sex with them. There’s such a broad and intricate spectrum of sexuality that it’s ludicrous to think that you can identify and label each person’s individual sexual desires.

And I especially don’t like the label “homosexual biromantic” because it’s just another way of saying you have strong feelings for someone that aren’t sexual. Gee. What’s another word for that? FRIENDS! Enough with the labels, just feel what you want to feel, have sex with who you want to have sex with, and be with who you want to be with.

It’s making us 10000x more neurotic as a society to hurriedly try and slap a label on everyone and put them in a box to categorize us by sexuality and that’s absurd. You can’t sort the entire human race like we’re a box of chocolates.

STOP TRYING TO DEFINE YOUR SEXUALITY. IT’S NOT IMPORTANT. THE PEOPLE YOU LOVE, WHOEVER AND WHATEVER GENDER THEY ARE, ARE THE IMPORTANT ONES. OKAY!?

I’m a bisexual girl but for some reason dicks just gross me out. Like I know I’m attracted to both guys and girls but dicks are just… weird. when my bf asked for a hand job I couldn’t do it cuz I was just too grossed out. Is this normal?

I think you’re more gay than you think you are…

Hi! I am a lesbian and when me and my girlfriend have sex I almost always go down on her but she rarely does to me. I am the first person she’s ever been with and at first I thought it was because she just wasn’t confident having sex but now I don’t know. I don’t want to ask her up front to do it more because I want to respect her if she does feel uncomfortable or something. Any advice on how to either make her want to do it more or what i should do? thank you!

Respect comes from being upfront and honest. Respect her enough to be honest with her about what you want. It’s how you handle it AFTERWARDS that is the biggest thing.

Ask her to go down on you or ask her why she doesn’t seem to want to go down on you. Direct it on yourself, “I feel” “it makes me feel” “I could be totally wrong…” etc. Just don’t accuse her of something. Tell her how you’re perceiving the situation, which is that you think she’s uncomfortable with it.

Then you’re going to have a conversation about it. If she feels uncomfortable, respect that, and try to get her to explain why, and you guys can try to work on it. Maybe she doesn’t even realize that you feel like you’re not getting enough of it in return! Maybe you’ve been so obliging in the beginning because she was a virgin that she now thinks you DON’T want it as much as she does. We don’t know what goes on in other people’s heads! We can guess all we want, but the best chance we have is to just ASK THEM. Hopefully they’ll be honest with you in return.

It’s a conversation you need to have. You can’t try subliminal messaging to make her want to lick your pussy or bend over in front of her face and wag your ass to say “EAT IT!”.  It’s the equivalent of a guy trying to push a girl’s head down to suck his dick. It’s insulting and not at all subtle.

Just talk it out.

Is it normal for me to think about sex alot of the time and im a girl because sometimes I think if people new they’d think I’m weird or something

I’m a girl. I run a sex blog. I think about sex all day. Trust me, you’re not alone. I’m horny all the time.

Girls are just better at hiding it than guys… 😉

i have anorexia and bulimia and i have a really sensitive gag reflex now cause of the bulimia and when my boyfriend made me deepthroat i had to stop cause it hurt so bad and he actually laughed and said i was stupid because i couldn’t do it and he knows everything about my eating disorders its really hurt me tbh. any advice?

Dump that douchebag. IMMEDIATELY.

Anyone who treats you like that and talks to you like that, doesn’t even deserve to kiss the ground you walk on. Tell him to fuck off and find someone who’s actually deserving of you.

Ok so I’m a girl and I am 100% positive that I’m attracted to guys but for some reason dicks just terrify me. Like I just think they’re weird and aggressive and scary and the thought of like touching one or having one in my mouth or whatever freaks me out so much. When my friends tell me about the handjobs/ blowjobs they’ve given I literally cringe and I don’t know why or what to do. I don’t even know what I’m asking I guess just is this normal/ what do you think?

The penis…is angry.

This is a pretty intimate question… But when me and my boyfriend do stuff it feels different to when I masturbate by myself. Like, if feels loads better when he does things to me but my orgasms feel different and I wondered if it’s normal? Because when I masturbate I only focus on my clit but when he fingers me it feels amazing but different? I’m worried I’m not normal because the orgasms feel lots different??

Orgasms are like snowflakes. No one orgasm is the exact replica of another. They’re all unique; each and every one. So, yes, it’s absolutely normal. Different ways of getting there, different experiences, different orgasms.