So I thought I was asexual… But I sometimes get turned on my thinking about this guy I’m in love with (it’s long distance too) just full on fucking me till I see stars and dirty talking to me… Is that like really weird?

caersidydd:

sumptuousdaydreams:

Nope! Just sounds like your sexual needs aren’t that easily defined. Having sexual desires for someone you love is perfectly normal. I wouldn’t worry so much about putting yourself in a box and instead just be open to the experience.

Just a passerby to add further thoughts on this matter. There are plenty of variances from individual to individual within asexuality. One thing I’ve learned personally being asexual is that the idea of sex in its sort of remote non physical perfection can be a stimulating turn on and it doesn’t make you any less asexual to be turned on by the idea. Actual real sex is worlds apart from an idea, and even if it played out exactly the same way as in your fantasy, it really might not work for you in reality…because you’re asexual.

That said, sexuality is fluid. We shouldn’t be so quick to slap permanent labels on ourselves. What you like today won’t necessarily be what you like next week. And as cliche as it sounds sometimes you really do meet one person that makes you feel entirely different from everything you’ve ever thought you knew and understood about yourself. We’re constantly changing and growing, and shouldn’t place ourselves in boxes that stunt that growth.

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I’m a girl and I’m 17 and I’ve never cummed before.. And everytime I’m with my bf and we’re doing things to get me going my legs start shaking and I don’t know why should I let him continue ?

Okay, well, good news! It seems you have a problem easily solved. Legs shaking is exactly what is supposed to happen because that’s when the awesome stuff starts so yes you need to let him keep going… That’s how you orgasm… You keep going.

I’m a 15 year old girl and fantasise about having sex with a girl and when I masturbate I often think about girls. Does this mean I’m bisexual? I find males attractive but when I think of having sex with a girl I get excited. I have never had a girlfriend and I have never even kissed a girl before, so is there any chance I could be bisexual? Is this normal?

Sounds like you’re leaning more towards lesbian than bi at this point. But who knows? Who cares? Whoever you’re attracted to, go for it.

If you find someone you really like and you’re sexually attracted to them – GO FOR IT.

Worrying about what to label yourself is a waste of time and effort, creating needless anxiety when all you have to worry about really is just finding those amazing people you want to spend time with.

So I thought I was asexual… But I sometimes get turned on my thinking about this guy I’m in love with (it’s long distance too) just full on fucking me till I see stars and dirty talking to me… Is that like really weird?

Nope! Just sounds like your sexual needs aren’t that easily defined. Having sexual desires for someone you love is perfectly normal. I wouldn’t worry so much about putting yourself in a box and instead just be open to the experience.

hey! what do you think about seeing a gynaecologist? I’m kind of scared of them…I didn’t have a really good experience with one last year but I feel I’d like to talk with a professional

It’s always going to be a little weird, awkward, uncomfortable. Of course it is! You’re in a scratchy gown, sitting on paper, with your feet in stirrups and your vagina wide open – feeling the breeze – lol. But you get used to it and it is really important to have regular check ups with your gynecologist.

The thing you have to remember is that it’s weird for YOU, but to your doctor, it’s just another day. Another vagina out of the THOUSANDS that they’ve seen over the years. It’s like seeing an arm at that point, it’s so NORMAL to them.

Ask your friends or your mom or your general practitioner to recommend a gynecologist for you. It’s always better to go off a recommendation to find someone.

Find someone you like, someone you feel confident that they know what they’re doing, find someone you trust, and stick with them. It’s the same thing as finding a regular doctor, you have to try a few to eventually find someone who clicks with you.

It’s something really important so you can’t ignore it.

What’s the youngest age do you think is acceptable to watch porn?

That’s not for me to decide. But I think anyone 16 & under really shouldn’t be watching porn. Especially not hardcore. At least start off with softcore!

Regular TV shows offer PLENTY of explicit sex scenes without anyone needing to resort to porn to see sex. Teenagers are exposed to sex far too much already.

I know it’s hypocritical since my blog is a porn blog…but porn warps reality and sets unrealistic expectations of men and women. Sex should be discovered more naturally than going through hours and hours of fake sex and “learning” from that. If you’re older and you understand that sex is not THAT then it’s not damaging to watch. If you’re too young to know better…think about how screwed up your expectations and knowledge of sex will be.

Guess who’s no longer a virgin?!? ~victory dance~ And thanks to this blog’s great advice and great ideas, it wasn’t nearly as awkward or confusing as I thought it would be! YEAH! A MILLION THUMBS UP FOR YOU!!!

Hey, I love the blog! I also have a suggestion, do you think you could also tag your advice as “gay, lesbian, straight” so I can find the correct tab for advice for me? Again, not telling you how to run your blog, just a helpful suggestion! Keep on doing what you do, you’re great! :)

Categories of “gay, lesbian, and straight” have no place on my blog. I can’t tell you how many messages I get on a daily basis about people worried about how to define their sexuality. The simple answer is: don’t.

Besides, lesbians can learn from the tips I give to guys about what to do with girls. And straight girls can learn more about themselves from tips I give to lesbians. And guys can learn from any one of those posts about what to do with a girl or a guy. Bisexuals reap the most benefit, lol.

You can learn a lot if you don’t turn your mind off to something that’s not specifically labeled to how you define your sexuality. In fact, you’d be surprised by how much you miss out on by doing that.

Just as straight girls can enjoy lesbian porn, can lesbians enjoy straight porn? This is probably a dumb bigotted question but it isn’t intended as homophobic and I mean it out of pure curiosity. I’m trying to work some shit out.

My answer is always the same. Hot sex is hot. It doesn’t matter if it’s f/f, m/m, or m/f. It’s still hot sex and that’s always a turn on.

Okay I have a huge question hope you can help, so I’m going on a date to watch the stars, and he wants to finger me in his car and wants me to make the first move. I have never go fingered before How would I do that and turn him on we will be in the back seat of his car any advice you can give would help a lot ~b

You’ve done a lot of planning for this date, lol! Talking is good! It’s really not as complicated as you think. If he wants you to make the first move you can take his hand (when you’re wet and ready after you’ve been making out for a while) and put it between your legs. Boom! First move made and he can take it from there.

I’m sure you already know how to turn him on. Kiss a lot. A LOT. Use your hands, let them roam. Grab his hair, clutch at his back and his arms, touch his neck, straddle his thigh. To turn him on even more, you can squeeze the inside of his thigh or even massage his crotch through his pants. Whatever you feel comfortable with. He’ll love any kind of intimate touch from you.

It’s not like it’s going to be a surprise for him, you guys have talked about it. No need to worry about reactions or rejection. You’re on the same page! Enjoy your date under the stars!