Hey, for your asexual anon earlier: there’s a part of the ace spectrum called demisexual and another called gray-asexual. I urge you to read about them.

That’s true. I really loathe labels, I don’t see why we have to categorize our sexual feelings down to every minute detail, but if it makes you feel better to do that, then okay.

I actually did think of demisexual when that question was asked, but…like I said…it’s not what I really agree with.

Remember guys, you’re getting my OPINION here…not hardcore facts. Well, not always, but you know what I mean. I’m answering from a biased perspective.

Love the advices you give! Here’s a question : I’m only 16 (virgin girl) , but i feel so ready to have sex with my bf. We’ve been dating for almost 2 month, but I’ve like him for 2 years now and so does he. I don’t know how to tell him, that i want to have sex. (I once gave him a bj and he tried to lick my pussy, but i didn’t receive an orgasm and he did) Any advice how to say that i want to have sex?

“I want to have sex.”

My boyfriend doesn’t want sex with me. He says he loves me. He’s sexually attracted to some friends and he says he misses sex with men but wouldn’t cheat. I feel like my existence is getting in the way + i feel inadequate i dont know what to do.

Your boyfriend is gay and you need to break up with him so that you can find someone else that has the same sexual interests and needs as you that can be fulfilled.

Stay friends if you can!

He’s not what you want or need for a romantic relationship. It may take some time to move on and accept that, but it’s what you have to do. And you’re gonna find someone else that’s AMAZING and you’ll realize how much you were missing by wasting your time with this “confusion” bullshit.

Just end it. It’s messy and stupid to try to have a relationship with someone who a) makes you feel inadequate b) is not sexually attracted to your gender c) is being a SELFISH JACKASS by stringing you along like this.

Break up with him. By this time next year, he’ll be your gay husband and you’ll laugh about the time you tried to be together.

OMG! You need to watch Will & Grace…

Me and this guy have been dating for a while now and we’ve done pretty much everything but sex. My question is about blowjobs. I get him to moan and he seems to enjoy it but he always ends up taking over to finish him self off. Does that mean I’m bad at it or something? Any tips.

No, not at all! Just that practice makes perfect.

He’s used to his own way of masturbating so he’s probably used to a hard and fast jerk off to the finish line (he should take it easy with that!).

So maybe you just haven’t been able to get the pace he needs at the end. Ask him! Try speeding up, sucking harder, etc. See what works. You can’t do the same thing every time and expect different results. Think of it as a fun experiment, not something to stress and worry about. It’s all about getting to know each other and what each of you like!

It’s helpful to combine your hands and your mouth when giving a bj. The two different tactile sensations are awesome! (Ie. one hand on the base of his shaft, jerking him off, covering whatever you can’t fit in your mouth.)

is it possible that i dont have a clitoris. I looked in the mirror and pulled up my clitoral hood and didnt see a button-like piece of skin. and if i touch it I dont feel any pleasure.

I’m sure anything is possible? But it’s really…really…really…REALLY unlikely that you have a massive birth defect like that. You would have had surgeries and been told…etc.

Point is, the clitoris is not an instant pleasure button that you can poke once and orgasm because of it. (Hell, our lives would be so fucking nice if that was true…) It doesn’t really look like a “button” – it’s a pinkish/reddish nubbin?

Try getting in the mood and when you’re wet/aroused/super turned on  – try playing with your clit (or where you think it should be). Try touching it lightly in circles, see what happens! Also, it swells when you’re sexually aroused so it becomes more prominent and you’ll be able to see it more easily then.

Another picture to help you out…