ok so i’m a girl and i have a boyfriend and i’ve had sex with a guy, but not a girl. i get super horny watching lesbian porn and masturbate to it cause i can’t get turned on by straight porn. idk what to do cause is having lesbian sex as great as it looks?

Yes it is and you should try it.

Should I give in? I really love sex, I even pleasure myself like every damn day. But I do not want to do it casually. I want to have sex with burning passion and love. I feel so pressured to do it because my friends were hooking up casually. Should I take the plunge too?

I think you should do whatever is going to make you feel good, happy,
and proud of yourself. If you want to have sex just to have sex, do it.
There’s absolutely nothing wrong with that. But if you know that you
might regret doing it, then don’t. Just wait.

Three months from now: will you be happy about it?

1 year from now: will you feel a little bummed that you didn’t wait?

4
years from now: will you think: “wow, I was such an idiot for needing
to be just like my friends and hooked up with that loser that one time”?

You
said yourself that you didn’t want it to be casual. If that’s really
what you want then stand by it and the time will come when you meet
someone you want to take the plunge with. Wait for someone good. 🙂
That’s my advice. They won’t be the love of your life. You don’t even
need it to be a long term relationship. Just make sure it’s someone good.

Hello, perhaps you could help me to figure some things out. How does a lesbian sex, or rather a lack of heterosexual intercourse, affect woman’s health? I mean hormones level and such. Thank you in advance and sorry if this seem like a stupid question.

Lesbians are way healthier.

They have more orgasms.

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Not having a dick in you has absolutely no bearing on your hormone levels or your health. Not even in the same realm of science.

I’m completely in love with my best friend and she has a boyfriend. I thought she was straight so I figured I had no chance (I’m also a girl), but she came onto me when she stayed over the other night. She took her shirt off and had her hand between my legs, but I stopped it before it went to far. She later told me her sexuality is fluid. The whole thing messed with my head, and I have no idea what to do.

You are experiencing what is known as a lesbian miracle.

Or the plot of MTV’s Faking It…

ANYWAY.

You didn’t stop it before it went too far. You are soooooo very past that point. The moment her lips came near you and her hand went between your legs ended any chance of your “just friends” status. The only thing to do now is to take it and go with it. She’s your best friend. You love her. She’s reciprocated. Time to find out what’s there beyond friendship.

(She needs to cut the bf loose before you do anything else though. Starting it off with dishonesty and you feeling like a dirty secret will only serve to hurt you both.)

Whenever I get horny and turned on, before anyone even touches me, I get these deep aching pains in my vagina. Is this normal? Because it didn’t always used to happen until somewhat recently

No, that is not normal and usually indicative of a problem going on. I would make an appointment with your gynecologist and have it checked out. It could be nothing or it could be a symptom of something real happening (ie. ovarian cysts, inflammatory pelvic disease, something with your uterus, etc.) Get it checked out. Better to know than to be in pain and speculating.

Even if I’m really wet, it still hurts when he puts it in sometimes. What helps with this? If it’s arrousal, I don’t really know anything about what arrousal. I’m really tight like It hurts just puting a finger in me. I guess lots of advice with penetration would help

Is he going slow or rushing? You need to have a lot of foreplay, a lot of fooling around and kissing and touching before trying it. And even then, you have to go slow, ease in, let your body adjust to it. The more often you do it, the easier it gets, but you have to let your body adjust – he can’t just ram into you before you’re ready especially when your body is very new to this.

Are you sure you’re wet enough? Try using a water based lube and see if that makes a difference. Also, if you’re worried or nervous about the penetration – that works against you. It’ll make you tighter and dry. Try to relax, lie down comfortably, kiss and touch and have him rub circles around your clit for a little until you’re soaking wet and then he can slowly push a finger in and test it out. He shouldn’t be jamming them in and immediately trying to fuck you.

There was a post on tumblr I saw recently that said girls enjoy fingering when “you know the difference between summoning a genie and stuffing a chicken”. So accurate.

Your body needs to relax in order to open up more to the intrusion. Have you tried oral sex? Having him go down on you? That’s one of the best things to make penetration more pleasurable for you – if he can get you to orgasm BEFORE penetration, the contractions from your orgasm will naturally open your channel and you’ll be well aroused and ready for him. Even if you don’t orgasm through oral, the oral still helps a lot because that pleasure will help your body relax, open, lubricate itself with your arousal, and make you ready for penetration. Send him down there and let it happen! Oral is gold.

If none of this works then I would say it’s time to see a doctor because it’s possible there may be some health issue going on or an obstruction that’s causing you pain. (If you can use a tampon without pain, then there’s no obstruction.)

The point is, sex should not hurt. So keep asking why and don’t ever just accept things the way they are. You will figure it out and you will experience pleasure, just keep looking for different answers/ways because sex does not and should not hurt (unless you want it to, but that’s a whole ‘nother thing).

Does it take longer for women to cum? My boyfriend does a good job when we’re doing it, but I don’t really cum as often as he does. He always tries his best

For most women, it does take more time (and more effort) to reach orgasm. But it’s not IMPOSSIBLE or excruciatingly difficult. You just have to experiment to find out what specifically does it for you.

Work together to make sure you orgasm more often, don’t leave it all on his shoulders. He needs you to guide him and then he’ll start figuring out even more on his own. 🙂