Author: sumptuousdaydreams

This is a response to your advice from that one girl who’s falling for another girl bound for arranged marriage. I just want to thank you for giving me the most helpful yet realistic advice:) you are indeed right, and taking matters slow is the best way to go if I ever pursue her. Before I asked you that question, I have dropped some hints (but not blatantly expressing my feelings) and her response were both + and -. Now, it’s a matter of deciding if her gesture towards me were special or not.

You’re welcome! I think the best thing you can do is make the choice that you won’t regret. Would you regret never knowing the truth – never knowing that she might feel the same? Or would you regret pursuing her and (possibly) be turned down? Which one is worse?

There’s three ways it can turn out: 1) You get hurt and you lose a friend. 2) You find out that your feelings are returned and she likes you too. 3) You get hurt but she wants to still be your friend.

What decision will be the best one you can live with?

I wish you all the best! 🙂

Hello, I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost a year now and I want to give him a lap dance. I suggested the idea to him and he thinks it sounds great, I’m scared I’m going to end up laughing though or I’m not going to be very good at it. Any tips?

Try to relax and have fun with it. It’s a very “movie” thing that says you’re not allowed to laugh. You’re allowed! Laughing is sexy too. You can find a balance. A giggle breaking out is not going to ruin the lapdance. The more comfortable and confident you are, the hotter it is. Set up some music (nothing cheesy!), put on something you feel good in, and show him what you got. If you laugh, that’s okay, it’ll actually release some tension for you. Once you get into it, the nerves will fade, and laughing won’t be on your mind anymore.

The more comfortable you are, the better you’ll look, and the better the dance will be. Watch some videos to get pointers if you’re feeling a little lost for inspiration on the technicalities… 😉 Sexy, intimate, tease and tease, then tease some more with a whole lotta grinding.

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What would you recommend for preventing and getting rid of bumps from shaving the bikini area?

Oh, the joys of being a woman… Fuck that shit.

Razor bumps are the devil.

To prevent:

-Use warm water

-New blade (ALWAYS!)

-Lubricate well

-Trim before shaving

-Shave in the same direction of hair growth instead of against it (you lessen irritation that way). So generally that means shave in a downward direction.

-Treat the area immediately after you shave with a product that contains glycolic acid or salicylic acid to prevent ingrown hairs and/or inflamed follicles (that’s what those bumps are). Bikini Zone is popular and cheap, but I would ask around to see if other people have their personal favorites.

If you still get the bumps…

-Treat with a topical hydrocortisone cream until they go away (try twice a day). If you have itching, it helps with that too. Tend Skin
is more expensive than the cream, but it is effective in getting rid of the bumps. (Tend Skin is also useful for helping with bumps you get after waxing!)

-GENTLY exfoliate the area. Try massaging it using a loofah or washcloth, etc. Nothing too harsh though! It’ll get rid of the dead skin.

-Wear loose underwear (or no underwear) and loose clothing while you’re treating it. Tight clothes cause friction and irritation which will make it take longer to heal.

Did I mention that razor bumps are the devil?

imagethetvgivethandthetvtakethaway replied to your post: about 3 or 4 weeks ago my boyfriend at the time…

do you ever just wanna say “fuck this shit, im out”, damn people are clueless, it freaks me out. Dont people learn anything in bio class, at least.

Actually, no, it doesn’t. I don’t mind (though it does worry me sometimes…). Some people are really young and inexperienced. Besides, did any of us ACTUALLY pay attention in sex ed or biology in high school? I don’t remember anything beyond some weird old cartoons that everyone laughed at… We usually learn all this elsewhere, ie. our parents. (I did pay attention to bio in college though!) Some people don’t have those same opportunities for information so they go online. If being reassured is what they need or if they’re looking for some advice, I’m all too happy to help to the best of my knowledge. *shrug*

That said…

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1) Sperm is not an almighty god that can make its way through two solid layers of clothing, bypassing your tampon/pad, swim up your vaginal channel, your cervix, into your uterus, through the fallopian tubes, and impregnate a new egg while your uterine lining is in the process of shedding an old one. Guys might like to think of their ‘little soldiers’ as the mega dudes of their manhood who make miracles happen, but it’s just not gonna happen like that.

2) You will not get pregnant from a handjob unless the “handjob” actually means a penis ejaculates into your vagina. Or if semen is ejaculated onto your exposed vagina. Or you use a turkey baster to collect the semen ejaculated after the handjob and then insert it into your vagina… Okay, I think you get where I’m going with this.

3) It is HIGHLY UNLIKELY that you could even get pregnant while you have your period to begin with. Even if you did have unprotected vaginal intercourse, there is an very, very small chance that you would get pregnant. I wouldn’t take any chances though. Always be safe. Shit happens.

Any questions? Thoughts? Ask box is open!

about 3 or 4 weeks ago my boyfriend at the time and i were fooling around and he ejaculated on my hand. i made sure to wash my hand thoroughly but there is a possibility that some precum got on my stomach. i was wearing jeans and underwear because at the time i was on my period. i was just wondering what you thought my chances of pregnancy were (as i’m a worrier and have gone as far as to look up abortion clinics) =/

You’re not pregnant.

I’m a girl (I’ve never had a girlfriend) and I like this girl who happens to be very inexperienced with relationships because she doesn’t address the existence of romantic love, and is bound to be arranged-married and whole-heartedly accepts it (for cultural purposes). Now here’s the case, we are really good friends. i’ve only known her for less than a year. Should I take a shot at it? or should I just let it go?

An arranged marriage? Wow. I have to say that is woefully out of my range of experience…

But it all comes down to this: how strongly do you feel about her? If you didn’t take the risk, would you regret it? That’s what it always comes down to, no matter what the details are.

Do you feel like she might be open to you if you tried? Because I’ll be honest, it is a real risk. You might lose your friendship with her, but then again…you might not.

How much do you want it? How much do you want her? That’s what you need to ask yourself. If she’s set on an arranged marriage and doesn’t give you any sign of being interested in you, I’m sorry to say you might be setting yourself up for failure. But if it’s worth it, if it’s worth taking the chance, then take it.

If you do decide to try, my advice would be to take it slow. Don’t rush into declaring your feelings all at once. Drop some hints, give her some signs, test the waters, and see what happens, how she responds. You can go from there. 🙂