Author: sumptuousdaydreams

so i’ve been seeing this guy for a while and i want to get more intimate with him. my concern is, being my first time, i’ll be too nervous or self-conscious and make a mess of things, even though i have a very clear idea of how to go down etc. any tips for a beginner?

The first thing you need to accept is that there are going to be clumsy and awkward moments. Just know that. It’s normal. Everyone has that happen to them every time they start out with someone new. It will NOT be like it is in the movies.

Once you accept that there’s going to be missteps and awkward silliness, the better it will be. Because then when those moments happen, you have to be able to laugh them off together (and you will). There’s no need to freak out or freeze up just because of some minor misstep. Laugh about it. Accept it. And keep going! He’s going to be nervous too. So you’re not alone.

Relax, don’t overthink, and even if you have to pretend to be more confident than you really are, do it, because it will actually help you towards being more confident in a backhand sort of way. Does that make sense at all?

Don’t worry so much about him, he’s going to enjoy being with you no matter what. Remember, you’re not there just for HIM. You’re there together, as partners, to share and give each other pleasure. So that means you need to rely on him to work with you. You’re not alone on an island, okay? He’s there. Ask him questions if you’re unsure. Take it as slow as you’d like. Talk. Kiss endlessly. Do what makes you feel good and what you feel comfortable with.

If he’s not someone you feel like you can trust and talk to about this, then maybe you’re not ready for this step. You want to be with someone you trust. Okay? 🙂

The rest is going to come naturally.

I’m the bisexual girl anon from about a week ago. Today i tried the advice you gave me. She agreed to it, told me shes been wanting to do it again, then kissed me. She carried me to her bed and we made out for a while then we had sex. It was amazing and I squirted. Thanks for the advice.

Well, we all love a happy ending! Congrats!

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Hi I was wondering if you could help me. Whenever my girlfriend has fingered me, I’ve bled. This has never happened to me before. I don’t know why it is now.

That’s definitely not supposed to happen, but there’s a few possible explanations that I know of. Even with these possibilities, I still strongly suggest you visit your doctor to be sure. Don’t take any chances.

1) I’m assuming since you said it’s happened more than once, that it’s not your period that has anything to do with it.

2) Were you a virgin? If you’re still really tight down there, it could be a possible cause for bleeding if the hymen isn’t properly broken.

2) Does your girlfriend have long nails? Or is she rough with you? She could have accidentally nicked you and without allowing time for it to heal enough, the cut could be reopened every time she fingers you.

3) Are you lubricated enough when she fingers you? If you’re not properly lubricated then that can cause irritation and bleeding.

4) Chlamydia and gonorrhea can cause bleeding during sexual activity. You might want to get yourself tested.

5) Vaginal yeast infections and/or bacterial infections can also cause this kind of bleeding.

So my final advice to you? Make an appointment with your regular doctor or a gynecologist.

Want to give my first blowjob. What do i do with my tongue and the head of his penis? He gives really good oral i want to return the favor, what will drive him crazy?

All right, tips you asked for, tips you get!

  • Warm the head of his penis with your breath. This is a sensual way of saying “hello.” Use your tongue then for long licks along the underside of the penis.
  • Spend extra time licking and pressing your tongue into the area right underneath the head (there’s a little V there).
  • Remember that the head is more sensitive than the shaft. Take it in your mouth and swirl your tongue around the rim.
  • Don’t try to deep throat, especially not on your first try. It’s not gonna work and most women can’t ever learn to do it. You can try to work up to it over time, but just forget about it for now.
  • Do not suck hard. Some suction is good, but to “suck a guy off” is more a figure of speech than a guaranteed technique.
  • Keep a lot of saliva in your mouth. Guys love those wet slippery cavities. (As do we all…)
  • After playing briefly with the head, slide your mouth down the shaft. Use your hand at the base of the penis to cover what you can’t get in your mouth. Let your saliva lubricate your manual stroking.
  • Be fairly light as you go down, firmer as you come up. Then switch it up! Firm going down, lighter coming up. Variety is nice, so swirl, swish, lap and lick. Vary speed and firmness. Find a rhythm, but don’t keep doing exactly the same thing.
  • With your fingertips, tickle behind the his testicles…also it’s a good area to lick.
  • I’ve said this before, but ENTHUSIASM is the best thing you can do to make it special for a guy. Be noisy (but don’t overdo it – you’re not in a porno!). Let the sounds you make show him how much you’re enjoying it. When your mouth is not full, ask him for suggestions. Guys love giving directions when it comes to their cock.
  • If you want to swallow, you can, but it’s COMPLETELY OKAY not to. It’s your choice. Since it’s your first BJ, my advice would be to have him ejaculate somewhere else. It’s a bit overwhelming for a first time so don’t put that pressure on yourself.

Have a good one! 😉