Author: sumptuousdaydreams

Masturbating is the best way to help prepare yourself for your first time. And don’t be scared. It really doesn’t hurt that badly. It’s not great, but it’s not like you’re gonna scream in agony or anything! So calm down. The amount of discomfort you experience is determined by whether or not your hymen has been torn or stretched enough. It probably already is (especially if you’ve gone horseback riding, play active sports, hell – even riding a bicycle can cause it to tear). If your hymen is already torn, it won’t hurt much at all. It just takes a few moments of being uncomfortable before your body naturally adjusts to fit him. Slowly work your way up to using your fingers while masturbating, that will help your body with its first steps to the “invasion” ;). If you want to use a dildo to masturbate, that will help a lot too. It’s all up to you and on your terms – remember that.

As for your first time, the BEST way to make it the least painful and most enjoyable experience possible is to take it slow. LOTS AND LOTS of foreplay. Be SOAKING wet and horny as hell. Take your time! If he wants to rush things along, you tell that boy to slow the fuck down or it’s not happening. Set aside a lot of time for you to be together and not have to worry about being rushed. Make out, touch each other, just go slow. The act itself is NOT going to take this long (lol), but make sure you have like a 3-4 hour block of time where you know you’re not going to be interrupted or have to be anywhere. Having that security of time will help you have patience and be able to live in the moment more so you’re not just “skipping right to it”.

Have him go down on you, or do some heavy petting, anything, so that you have an orgasm before any actual penetration occurs. The more aroused your body is, the more prepared it is. After an orgasm, the vaginal channel is wider so you won’t be as tight. Having an orgasm before you actually have intercourse is going to change the experience for you so much (for the better, obviously).

Use lube. Of course, you’ll be using a condom (SAFE SEX!), but use lube in ADDITION to the condom. Not only does lube actually help prevent the condom from tearing, but it will also give your body some additional help on top of your natural wetness so things move in and out niceeeeee and easy! 😉 Have you ever gone on a slip n’ slide that didn’t have enough water on it? …exactly. Ow. So, the more lubrication you have, the better! Since it’s your first time, your nerves and fears will affect how wet you get, that’s completely normal, so lube will help make up for that!

No girl’s first time is perfectly amazing. It will hurt a little bit and be uncomfortable (at first), you’re not going to have an orgasm from intercourse (another reason to have one before!), and you’ll be sore for at least a day after. Also, it’ll take a few times before your body gets used to having sex and you start experiencing real pleasure.

What will make the first time you have sex special is who you have it with and the intimacy that comes with sharing this experience with him. So make it count, take your time, don’t worry about it hurting, just appreciate every moment, and don’t expect magical orgasms coming out in waves. The real sexual pleasure will come later with practice.

You’re going to be just fine! 🙂