Author: sumptuousdaydreams

I’m so confused, I have only liked a boy in all my life. I’ve never had a boyfriend or a girlfriend. Girls and boys turn me on both. I masturbate to all, gay, lesbian and straight porn. But when it comes to been in love I’ve only really liked a boy, but I was like 13 years old, since him I haven’t like anyone. I don’t even have a clue on what my sexuality is. Am I weird?

You might be weird…but it wouldn’t have anything to do with this.

You’ll figure it out in time. You’ll eventually meet someone else that you’re drawn to and it could be a boy or a girl. It doesn’t really matter. If people ask, just pull a South of Nowhere and say “I’m not into labels”. Or answer however you feel comfortable. It doesn’t matter what you say to them because it’s not their business anyway.

Don’t worry about defining your sexuality. Greet everyone you meet with the same openness and see the opportunity. Why limit yourself by trying to figure out your “sexuality”? That’s going to develop on its own when you meet more people and start dating. Until then, no labels, and discover what it is you like on your own time and on your own terms. This is not some case where there’s a predetermined set “date” where suddenly time’s up and everyone yells at you to sign up for one of the clubs or you’re a freak of nature. Don’t let anyone dictate this for you because it’s not about them! Who gives a fuck about them? This is about you and only you!

I’m not sure if I’m bisexual or not. My friends get grossed out by girl on girl action but I think it’s attractive to watch and I do watch lesbian porn Ive had sex with a girl once when I was very drunk. But touching a girl sober doesn’t interest me?

I don’t know what the hell is wrong with your friends. How do you get grossed out by g/g??? They’re either freaks or liars. I’m guessing liars cause people who “protest” like that are really trying to cover up something they’re not comfortable with… And in this case, it could very well be that g/g does turn them on and they don’t know how to deal with that so they shut it down.

I think you’re a 2 on the Kinsey scale: “predominantly heterosexual, but more than incidentally homosexual”. Which breaks down to, you’re a straight girl, but women can be sexually attractive to you. You’re what I like to call a “drunk lesbian”. Believe me, there are many…many…MANY girls out there that do exactly the same thing. Changing it up a bit is a turn on for you. That’s all it means.

I think everyone (male and female) is between a 1 and 5 on the Kinsey scale, which basically rates HOW bisexual you are and what gender you lean towards MORE. I think everyone has the potential for attraction to the same sex as well as the opposite sex. Some people just lean one way more than the other and some people are more in the middle. I’ve said this a million times, but I will say it a million times more: sexuality is fluid. Stop worrying about trying to define it and just do what feels right.

Enjoy the porn, appreciate the attractiveness of the female gender, and if you ever feel in the mood to have sex with another girl again, go for it!

I’m a 19 year old boyish lesbian. I have had sex with girls but I have never made a girl a cum and I have never used sex toys. I am the dominating one in most cases and I prefer giving sex than receiving. I would like to know what would be the best way of making a girl cum. How can I make her have an orgasm. It will be really helpful if you could answer to these questions. I want to give her the best pleasure that I can. Thanks

Okay, first, have you ever had an orgasm? Whether from masturbating or with someone else? Because if you haven’t, that’s the first thing you need to do. In order to be able to understand the pleasure you’re trying to give another person, you need to experience it for yourself. That is, first and foremost, the best way to comprehend what it is you need to do, how to connect with what your partner is feeling, and to be able to give them the best experience possible.

You don’t need sex toys to make a girl orgasm (but it always helps, definitely not a bad thing). Oral is the easiest way to make a girl cum. Master that first and the rest of it you’ll learn with time.

The way you phrased it really makes me think that you take all of the pressure of sex on yourself and that you view it as your job to please the other person and know exactly how. That’s not how sex works. Sex is a physical and emotional connection between two people. It’s something you do TOGETHER, with give and take, not just one person doing all the work and the other getting all the pleasure.

You have to understand, being able to receive is GREAT, but a lot of people really enjoy giving as well (as you do!). Giving can grant just as much satisfaction as receiving, it’s just in a different way. It’s all part of the experience. You like being able to make someone feel good and that makes you feel good in turn, right? Well, remember that you’re not the only one who feels that way! Other people want to give too. They want the chance to be the one to make you cum and know what that feels like as well. So less dominating and more teamwork! You need to be able to listen to your partner and work in tandem to make this happen. It’s not a one-woman show! Talk to her, ask her questions, listen to her, watch her responses, a moan, a lip bite, a sigh, her stomach muscles contracting, etc. All of that will help you become more in tune with what she needs.

For a step-by-step process to lay it all out for you, read this:

Back to Basics

I know it’s not your first time, which is what the article is aimed towards, but it’s really specific in each step that you should think about and take into consideration. So I would definitely give the whole thing a read from beginning to end!

Hi I need some help. I’m bi and i’m 18 and me and my girlfriend are kinda bored of our 69 position and just fingering each other/kissing. We want to have sex in a more interesting way what should we try doing?

Sex in new places is always helpful and changes things up! Showers, other bedrooms, hot tub, kitchen, couch, chairs, on a washing machine going through the spin cycle…etc. And that’s only places restricted to the house! lol. Look for opportunities when you have a little bit of privacy, but also the risk of getting caught. Always a turn on! 😉 It’ll get you guys out of the rut.

I also recommend a trip to a high end sex shop! Browse through it together for new things that stand out to you both. New toys to play with is always awesome, but even just going through the store (without buying a ton of stuff!) and seeing what they have, is inspirational. It’ll give you new things to think about and be interested to try in your own way.

I must say, a necessary staple in your collection of sex toys is a strap on. You both get to take turns with it and it opens up many more positions for you to try! It should be a joint decision because you both obviously have a personal preference. If you don’t agree on one, then invest in two! WORTH. IT.

Download a .PDF file that has 101 Lesbian Lovemaking Positions here!