You’re going to have to define what you mean by “touching”. There’s lots of different kinds of touching…

You’re going to have to define what you mean by “touching”. There’s lots of different kinds of touching…

Experiment with the water pressure – obviously the stronger it is, the more intense the sensation. So turn down the water pressure in your case.
Also experiment with the temperature – lukewarm or even cool is ideal. Some people like to change it up from cool to warmer once they get closer to climaxing! Or the reverse.
Move your hips so that the stream is not always directly on your clit. You want a slow, easy build up so back off when it gets to be too much and let the water hit a less sensitive area and then move back in again. Do this over and over again until you orgasm!
You have to play around with it to find what works best for you. Everyone’s different, but yes, waterplay is fantastic once you hit it right! 😉
It’s an intense feeling so I get why you would be hesitant, but there’s nothing else I can say except you have to find a way to relax and let it happen. It’s a little scary, but it’s going to feel incredible! It’s all in your head right now. Once you make up your mind to let it happen, that’s what will change it for you. Nothing BAD is going to happen if you keep going with it. Try to approach it logically. You prepare yourself by being aware that it’s going to feel overwhelming, but you also know it’s OKAY for it to feel like that.
Let ‘er rip! (Or squirt…)
First, think about what you like and what you would want done to you. That’s your starting point. If you’ve had someone eat you out before, pick through the good points and the bad points and apply it here.
I answered a guy about this with some tips a while ago and even though it’s for a slightly more specific situation, it still applies for you as well. So read here.
– The biggest mistake you can make is letting it be all about the clit. The clit is super important, yes!, but it’s not the only thing down there! Use your mouth and tongue to explore EVERYTHING.
– Tease a little bit before you dive right in. Lick up her thighs, kiss your way up her thighs, and kiss the outside of her lips before spreading her open. Feeling your breath on her there or close to there will drive her wild.
– Use your tongue. Your whole tongue. Flatten it out. Use just the tip. Lick her like an ice cream cone. Flick it. Use gentle strokes. As her excitement builds, add more pressure. Focus more on the area around her clit instead of the clit directly.
– You can take her clit in your mouth. Suck gently. Release. Gentle flicking can send her over the edge.
– Use your hands. Place your hands under her butt and gently lift her towards your mouth. Reach up and stroke her nipples. Slip a finger in, then two, or three, depending on how tight she is. Start slow, work your way up to a steady, faster pace. To stimulate her G-Spot, have your palm facing up and hook your fingers towards the top of her channel, massaging the spongy-like spot there (it’s about 3cm in). Remember, what your fingers are doing need to be done in tune with what your tongue is doing. Both together will send her flying.
– Circles. Do you know what I mean by circles? You should know.
– Rhythm is be all end all. You want to ALWAYS have a rhythm going. Be it the motion of your fingers in time with the flicks of your tongue or the way you lap at her, anything! Everything needs to be done at a steady and increasing or decreasing pace. Work her up, let her down, bring her back up again, (and shake it all about?).
– Pay attention to how she reacts. If she raises her hips to meet your lips, GOOD. She should be getting wet and her pussy lips should swell a bit with arousal. If she starts moaning and trembling, keep doing what you’re doing. Rapid breathing and writhing around are good things. Duhhhh. If she grabs your hair and pushes you in for more, things are definitely going well. Listen to her breathing, watch her muscle contractions, take note of what her hands and her body is doing.
– If you feel a bit lost or unsure, talk to her, ask her to direct you to where she wants you to be. Ask her what she wants, what she likes. Or maybe you just want a verbal confirmation that you’re on the right track. That’s fine! Communication is key. You just want to be able to utilize both verbal and non-verbal forms of communication. All women are different and ultimately complex. Some women love having their clits stroked, others are too sensitive. What turned her on one day, may not work the next. Some want penetration, some don’t! So talk, be in tune with her responses, and have fun with it. Don’t psych yourself out. This is something enjoyable and something for you to play with, not to freak out over with every excruciating detail.
Go forth and eat pussy!
ALL RIGHT! ALL RIGHT!

Happy now??
Sure! Coming right up!
(Pun intended…)
Just note that it’s not the same every time. It depends on the guy, how long it’s been since he last ejaculated, what he’s been eating, if he’s dehydrated, etc. Sometimes it’ll shoot out, sometimes it’ll be more of a dribble. Sometimes it’ll be thicker and lots of it, sometimes it’ll be really watery and not much at all. Just how it goes! *shrug*
Wrap your lips over your teeth and make sure your lips are wet so it slides in and out easily. The wetter the better when it comes to BJs.
Darling, it’s better down where it’s wetter, take it from me!
Sorry. I digress…
It’s like a popsicle – you use your lips and your tongue to control it, suck on it, lick it, etc. Basically, use your lips as a shield to prevent your teeth from grazing him.
You’re not going to hurt him, I promise. He’ll love whatever you do! (You already know not to let your teeth touch him and that’s one the most common mistakes women make when first starting to give BJs!)
It’s different for everyone! But here are some popular ones. (Psst…I’m assuming this is hetero, but if I’m wrong, I’ll post again for lesbians. I just assume hetero because straight women have a much more difficult time climaxing…)
1) Missionary / with a pillow under her ass
Why? Deeper penetration, easier thrusting, his pubic bone will hit her clit, and the higher the pillows/angle of penetration will increase stimulation of the G-spot.

2) Doggie style / on her stomach
Why? Increased friction as he moves in and out and she can grind her clitoral area against the bed. CLIT ACTION IS NECESSARY!

3) Crisscross / facing each other
Why? If she takes a long time to orgasm, this one is good because you don’t tire out as easily in this position. It’s more relaxed. Woman on her back. Man on his side and turned towards her. Woman should have both her legs over the man’s hips and thighs, making a bridge. Thrust easily until climax!

4) Reverse Cowgirl / WOMAN ON TOP IS BEST (so any position with her on top really)
Why? Ugh. So many reasons… The woman gets to dictate the pace and the depth of thrusting. There’s easy access to the clit. She can touch it, he can touch it, or his pubic bone will rub against it. With Reverse Cowgirl, the woman should put her legs together instead of full on straddling. The tighter the fit, the more intense the sensation. Also, there’s increased G-Spot stimulation, so that combined with the clit action makes a very happy lady!

5) Spooning / side by side
Why? Intimate. Creates a tighter fit. Allows the man to explore more with his hands, including stimulating the clit, breasts, etc. It’s less moving in and out and more staying inside her with shallow thrusts. Cuddly. G-Spot stimulation. Need I go on?

6) Butterfly / Counter Top / Modified Missionary (so many names for one damn thing)
Why? Visual stimulation for both. The angle is great for deep penetration. If you do it on a counter top or a desk, the change of pace from the usual bedroom is exciting. There’s G-Spot stimulation. This can also be done on the edge of the bed with the man standing. He can lift the woman’s ass and drive into her at a great angle that she’ll love!

Most guys are into having their hair played with, tugged on, head scratched, etc! Depending on the circumstances it can be a turn on or something relaxing/soothing.
Honestly, both men and woman love having their hair played with. You can’t go wrong.
(Unless you’re messing up someone’s hair that they just spent 30 minutes trying to perfect…)