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any way to tell if a guy is a virgin? i asked him and he completely dodged the question and brought it back to me and asked if i was

He’s a virgin.

hey! i slept the first time with my boyfriend and it was the first time for him too. he could not cum and he said he could not really feel anything, is it because he was masturbating so much (i’ve read your post about that)? maybe you could help me because i don’t know what to do :$ thank you :)

It’s very possible that too much aggressive masturbation could be the cause, but I’m a little worried because that excuse sounds a lot like a guy trying to make up some bullshit reason as to why he “can’t” wear a condom – because he can’t “feel” as much… If that’s the case, tell him to fuck off. You don’t need that kind of assholery in your life.

Now, I could be completely wrong about that! I have no idea what your situation is. So if it’s not that or an issue of masturbating, then it could possibly be a physical problem, or perhaps drug-related, prescription or non-prescription. It may be because of strong religious injunctions and/or guilt; the idea of not wanting to surrender to a woman; or, even fear of pregnancy! There’s a lot that goes into a guy’s state of mind when he’s not able to ejaculate. Either it’s a real physical problem or there’s something going on in his mind that’s stressing him out too much.

It was your first time! Keep trying. Make sure your movements have enough friction happening. If all you were doing was grinding, that could be the problem right then and there! If the same thing happens every time, then he should see his doctor about it. Remember though, this has NOTHING to do with you. His inability to orgasm is not your fault by any means so do not put that on yourself!

To be safe, tell him to keep his hands off his dick for a few weeks, try to have sex a few more times, and see what happens!

Hey my religion allows polygamy. But says no to 3somes. In your opinion do you think “fuck it” n go for it anyways? Just wondering.

My boyfriend wants to eat me out but ive never done it before&He knows that. Hes so sweet but im so incredibly nervous What if i smell? What if i taste bad? What if he doesnt like what he sees or just doesnt like me down there at all? Agdjdndnc

Look, your boyfriend wants to go down on you…SO LET HIM! Do you know how many girls have to push and needle their boyfriends into giving them head? Guys are selfish assholes. Your boyfriends WANTS to give you extra attention!

I know it’s nerve wracking the first time and you feel really vulnerable in that position, but it’s all going to be just fine! Whatever nerves you have, just laugh them off, be playful and silly, enjoy yourself. Don’t take it so seriously. The only way you’re going to enjoy it is if you relax.

Trust me, if you smell bad or taste bad, you would know about it. Just shower before you do anything and you’ll feel more confident about the whole cleanliness issue. It’s not a matter of whether or not he’s going to like it down there, it’s a matter of whether or not he’s going to be any good at it! Honestly, he has ten thousand more reasons to be nervous and worried about this than you do – he’s the one who has to perform! 😉

Approach it with a sense of humor and be confident. Your job is to help him go to all the right places and enjoy what he’s doing to you, nothing more. He’s asking you for this, not the other way around, so let him make you feel good. That’s going to be the biggest turn on/pay off for him. 🙂

friends with benefits? pros and cons? please help me out

Pros: If you’re both coming from the same emotional place of ‘I like you and I need to fuck somebody but I definitely never want to date you’ and you’re both good at fucking…it’s a good time! Friends lending each other a helping hand!

Cons: One friend either has more feelings than the other or develops more feelings and then when someone else comes into the picture, everything goes straight to hell. Unfortunately, this is what usually happens to FWB…

Tread with caution! How much do you value your friendship? Is it worth the risk?

Hey, I’m the anon who asked you about heing on top of a man a few days ago. I just wanted to thank you for your answer, I’m definitely going to try that out :)

I hope it helped! 🙂

more lesbian strap-on action, s’il vous plait…

We’ll see…

KEEPING IT UP

When in intercourse, my dick sometimes start unhardening so theres much less pleasure for both of us. Any thoughts on why that happens? Is it because I have more pleasure when I masturbate?

There’s several different factors that are a possibility as to why you might go soft during sex.

1) You’ve been drinking.

2) You’re stressed out and your mind is on other things. If it’s money or sports or family, etc. If you’re not in the moment, that could very well be the cause – especially if you don’t have a problem while masturbating.

3) Depending on your age, it could possibly be the beginning of ED (Erectile Dysfunction), in which case you would want to talk to your doctor about it. I doubt that’s it though.

4) You’re masturbating way too much and you need to cut back. Think of it like this: if you’ve been stranded in a desert for six days without water and you finally stumble across a spring, wouldn’t that be the absolute greatest drink of water you’ve ever had? Now imagine you haven’t masturbated or had sex for six days, and suddenly your girlfriend bends over and begs you to fuck her, don’t you think that you’ll experience one of the most mind-boggling orgasms of your life?

It’s about sensory deprivation for pleasure and you’re engaging in sensory overload which decreases your pleasure. If you’re jacking off every day or more than once a day, then sex isn’t going to have that much enjoyment for you because you’re all juiced out. Masturbation is great, yes, but fucking your girlfriend is better!

Also, when you masturbate really roughly with a hard grip and squeezing the head of your dick, it takes away from the sensation of entering something softer like the vagina. You’ve grown too accustomed to the pressure of your hand and pussy isn’t as forceful so you lose the sensation. CUT BACK ON JACKING OFF! And go easier on your dick. Masturbating should be about training your dick for sex, not ruining it. Stroke it gently, not aggressively. You want to increase your endurance and allow for pleasure, not completely ruin it for yourself.

Would you fuck a big black girl with a booty with a strap on

Dude, you forgot to be anon.

But I think the better question is, would YOU like to fuck a big black girl?

WOMAN ON TOP

Anonymous: Hey, this is kind of awkward but I’ve seen that you give good advice so I hope that you can help me. The thing is that I would like to be on top but every time I do it just doesn’t feel good. It just doesn’t give me any pleasure but I would really like it to. So I guess that I just do something wrong… Any advice on how to do it better?

Pleasure from being on top, for women, begins with confidence above all. Riding a guy requires a level of self assurance and comfortableness with your sexual nature. You feel exposed up there and if you don’t let go of your inhibitions and allow the selfish desires of taking your pleasure exactly as you want, then it won’t work. Does that make sense?

It also takes practice. You learn something more about what you like and how moving this way with that angle feels better than going that way with the other angle, and so on. So you need to ride and ride and ride and ride him some more until you get it just right!

I’ve said this so many times, but I’ll say it yet again, being on top means YOU are in charge and it’s about YOUR pleasure. If you are feeling good, then he’s going to feel good! He’ll love seeing your reactions and watch as you ride his cock.

Get out of your head and be more in tune with your body. Focus on what feels good. Forget what you think you’re “supposed to do” when you’re on top, if it’s not working, then try something else, don’t linger. It’s all about you and finding out what you like when you’re up there. Not some misdirected idea of what he thinks is sexy or what you’ve seen in porn.

The most basic position for riding goes like this: Get on top of him, knees on either side, lean forward with your hands on his chest for leverage (it gives you more control over how deep you want to thrust as well), reach behind you to grab his cock and ease yourself down on him by sitting back a little bit, then rock back and forth on your knees in whatever way comes naturally to you. You can sit upright or hunch over him or lean all the way back on your hands and thrust away. You can face him or reverse it so he’s seeing your back. It takes practice to find a rhythm and prevent him from slipping all the way out of you. Completely normal. If you get tired, you can have him flip you over and keep going until you get your wind back and want to go again! It’s FUN!

Grinding when you’re on top is more likely to be pleasing for you. Try the ‘bump and grind’ which is basically thrusting your pelvis back and forth around in a circle (think 80’s rockstar?). This works for a lot of woman more than just up and down.

Grind back and forth / bounce up and down – that’s basically what it comes down to. This is YOUR time and YOU are in charge. He’s just there to watch at this point. Find your pleasure. Find what feels good. Don’t feel embarrassed about having to explore more to figure out what it is you like. Take your time. Move different ways. Encourage him to play with your breasts or rub your clit.

The best thing you can do is to be honest with your partner. Tell him you want to practice riding him! Seriously! Do it all night long! However long it takes to find out what you like. Once you figure it out, then he can come into the picture. Grinding is most likely going to be the best for you, but guys don’t get as much from it as we do because there’s not enough friction from grinding for them, so you’ll find a compromise. For now, just focus on you and what works for you then you can worry about him! 😉 Trust me, he’ll be MORE than okay with that!

Under the read more are some images of what different positions you can try on top to figure out what you like the best! Sometimes the visual helps more than an explanation. Once you see it, your imagination takes you to where you need to go. 😉