Author: sumptuousdaydreams

Im really embarrassed and self conscious of my nipples… One of them is like inverted… Is that bad?

NO! It’s not bad! Not at all! At least 10-20% of ALL women have inverted or flat nipples. It’s normal, in the same way that the color and size of areola differ from woman to woman. It’s nothing more than just a little quirk that makes your breasts YOURS. I can’t even begin to explain to you how many different kinds of breasts there are. Actually! I take that back.

How many women are there in the world? Let’s round up and say 4 billion, okay? That’s how many different kinds of breasts there are in the world. 4 BILLION. (Even the surgically enhanced women do not have identical breasts.)

Every single woman has something unique about their breasts that makes them different from the woman standing next to them. Are inverted nipples as common as some other things? No. But what difference does it make? Your partner will not care about one nipple being hidden. They want to play with your boobs. The want to squeeze and grope and lick and suck. If they can do that, they will be happy as can be!

The embarrassment stems from you and how you’re perceiving yourself, not (potential) sex partners judging you. You’re only getting in the way of yourself by making it into something shameful and weird. Nipples aren’t going to make or break the deal. It’s really not the big deal you’re making it out to be in your head.

So do what you need to do to feel better about it and take ownership of it. Don’t let it be some giant pink elephant in the room where they see you naked and you let your imagination run wild with all the things that you think they’re judging you on. Confront it! Tell them you have an inverted nipple and you’re shy about it. Show them. Let them convince you how much of a big deal it’s NOT. Honesty and openness will make any sexual experience you have so much better. They’re not going to be “turned off” or “weirded out” by it, I can absolutely promise you that.

You are normal.

There is nothing wrong with you or your nipples. Got it?

I really like rough sex. Like, choking, slapping, name calling, scratching. It gets to the point where I feel weird and dirty. Like there’s something wrong with me when my girlfriend (i’m a lesbian btw!) pulls my hair and calls me a cunt. Am I crazy?

Yes, you could be crazy. Hell, you might need to be institutionalized for all I know! That’s your life.

However…you’re not crazy because you like it rough.

EVERYONE has their thing. Everyone has something they like that’s different from someone else. Some people want to be fucked in the ass. Some people would knock your teeth down your throat if you tried to fuck them in the ass. Some people like their hair pulled and biting. Some people want to be called ‘Daddy’. Some people like being tied down. Some people like vanilla sex. Some people like threesomes. Some people like it with the lights on. Some people like voyeurism. Some people like feet. Some people like it outside.

I could go on for a very, very, very long time here, but I think I’ve made my point.

Everyone has their little kinks that they like and that’s what turns them on. It’s nothing to be ashamed of. If that’s what you WANT (key word: want) then embrace it! Enjoy and explore your sexuality. Don’t let the fear of something being “weird” or “dirty” or “wrong” turn you away from doing things that excite you (as long as you’re being safe, of course).

Dirty talk and rough sex is hardly a novel concept. There’s an element of danger, adrenaline, that’s exciting. There’s an illicit thrill in being called names that you would never accept outside of ‘play’ because it’s like being in a fantasy. Sex needs to be reinvented all the time. New ideas. New ways to take you out of your “real” world and let you experience different kinds of pleasure and ecstasy.

Pain and pleasure are only separated by a very thin veil. Both stimulate the same nerves, both release endorphins, both heighten sensitivity, etc. There’s a stigma surrounding rough sex that basically says it’s BDSM or it’s women being degraded. Bullshit. Between two consenting partners, whatever you two agree on, goes. And it’s OKAY!

Does it make you feel weird and dirty doing these things because of what others might think? What “society” thinks? Or does it make you feel that way because you feel like you’re letting yourself be taken advantage of, degraded, and you don’t like being treated that way? That’s the question you need to ask yourself. If it’s okay with YOU (and your partner) then it’s okay! There’s no need to feel weird or dirty for liking it. More people are into it than you would think!

Read the article below and see if it helps you feel a little better about yourself and understand why it is you like it. It also gives tips! 😉

SEXY ROUGH SEX

I’d love to ride my man more often, but I get so self conscious when I do. I’m not the skinniest girl and am quite chubby, and I’m so nervous about things like bouncy up and down and everything. I know it’s a great way to give guys pleasure, but I don’t get pleasure from it because I’m so nervous :/. Please help!

I completely understand. Being on top exposes all of those little areas of our bodies that we’re insecure about. The first thing to remember is that your man LOVES it when you ride him. He does! He’s not seeing or focusing on this “bulge” or that “jiggle”, he’s seeing you riding his cock and it’s the hottest thing ever to him.

However! It’s not all about the guy. YOU have to feel good about it first. And I’m going to correct you about something – it’s not just a great way to pleasure a guy; being on top is the BEST position for WOMEN!

Women are the ones who get the most out of being on top. And that’s why you should want to do this, not just cause your guy will be into it. DO THIS FOR YOU!

So…take baby steps. Work your way up to feeling better and more confident about being on top. You can’t let your insecurities about your body get in the way of YOUR pleasure. After trying this position a few times, you’ll soon realize that all those other little things that you were worried about don’t mean jack squat when you’re squeezing his dick inside of you and riding him like a fucking bronco!

The more you realize how GOOD it feels and that he’s enjoying it just as much, then the more relaxed you’ll be and the more secure you’ll feel even with the being “exposed” part.

How to take baby steps? You can make sure the room is dark. No visual stimulation, it’s just all about the sensation. Now, this would be for you, primarily. He’ll like it more when he gets to see you, but like I said, baby steps first! You can work up to it! (And he’s going to love whatever you do, really.)

You can also try reverse cowgirl. That way he’s just seeing your back and ass, there’s less exposure there for you, so you get to feel more secure and he will get an awesome view of his cock going in and out which will drive him crazy.

Basically, try to create situations where you feel comfortable being on top, however you need to do it. Think about what the things are that bother you and then think about what would make you feel more comfortable when you’re on top. Once you start feeling sexier up there (and you will because having control is hot and gives you so many more options), you’ll slowly begin to loosen the reins on your limitations and just ride the fuck out of your guy without a care in the world but getting your damn orgasm!

GO FOR IT! OWN YOUR BODY! OWN YOUR PLEASURE! YOU’RE SEXY AND YOU FUCKING KNOW IT!

im a girl,how to stop squirting when having an orgasm? is it embarassing? it lookslike pee.

Wow. I have to say that’s an unusual request, lol. Most women are trying to figure how to make it happen once! 😉 Just to make sure that you ARE indeed ejaculating and not peeing: female ejaculation would not smell like pee and it would be a clear fluid. Now that we’ve established that…

You shouldn’t feel embarrassed about it! NOT AT ALL! Sex partners usually find it really hot because to them it’s like a testament of their sex-tastic abilities. (Even if that’s not accurate, haha.) It’s one of the most elusive types of orgasms! Honestly, you should submit some tips to this blog about what you do that gets you to squirt all the time. There are TONS of women who would love to know!

Squirting is usually linked to G-Spot orgasms. So to try to avoid it, I would suggest focusing on clitoral stimulation, gentler intercourse (not as frenetic and not with high intensity), and different positions that are NOT angled in a way to stimulate the g-spot.

Unfortunately, that’s only an educated guess. I really can’t tell you how to “stop”. I don’t think there is a way to stop altogether other than just not having an orgasm. Your body climaxes in a natural way and if ejaculating is what it wants to do, then that’s the way your body is!

Personally, I don’t think you should try to stop. It’s just going to make you afraid to orgasm, which is NOT something you want to do! Just put some towels down and gush away! There is nothing to be ashamed of and you’re actually lucky that you get to experience squirting at all! At least 75% of women have never even been able to experience it once…

Can I just say you give some of the best advice and sound so intelligent? This is one of the, if not the best, sex blogs on here. Just wanted to let you know. Thanks! <33

No, really, thank you. I’m happy you’re enjoying it! I’m having fun running this blog and if I’m able to help a few people along the way, that makes it all the more worthwhile. 🙂

Okay so I’m a 15 year old girl and i have these like inner lips or what ever they are called in my vag that are long and ugly but idk if they will naturally just go away or if they will stay, idk but they make me really self conscious about my vagina. Idk if you can help or what but i need some reassurance. Please!

First off, the correct terminology for your “inner lips” is the “inner labia” or “labia minora”, but I think the second one sounds stupid – like it’s a moon in another galaxy or something… Sheesh. There’s also the “outer labia”.

Second, your vagina is not ugly. Unless you can somehow bounce a ball on your labia like a trampoline, then there is no problem and you are perfectly normal!

We are trained to believe that there is one NORMAL type of V and that’s the one we see in porn. SO FALSE! Women in porn are, for the most part, very similar when it comes to their bodies. As are men. That’s why they were hired. They fit someone’s standard of “most appealing” and made sure everyone became a carbon copy. It sucks, it’s misleading, and it trains its viewers to like one thing and one thing only – everything else is “wrong” or “weird”. WE MUST CHANGE THIS!

There are, arguably, 30 different types of vaginas, with different shapes, sizes, and colors.

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Labia come in all shapes and sizes. Most women aren’t symmetrical down there, and it’s incredibly common for a woman’s inner labia to protrude beyond the outer labia. So believe me when I tell you that your pussy is fabulous and just as it should be.

And you wanna hear something even better? YOU’RE LUCKY. You’ve seen how many women come onto this blog and ask me about how to orgasm, right? Orgasms don’t come easily for most. Well, you’re going to find out something different.

The type of labia you have, with longer inner lips, actually makes sex better! The inner labia are chock-full of nerve endings, and they encase the clitoral head, which means that during sex, there’s a whole lot more friction going on. Friction = stimulation = BIG O’s. When you’re ready to have sex someday, you’re going to be very pleased to discover just how nice that feels… (Don’t you dare have sex yet! You’re only 15! Waiting will not kill you and I promise, sex will be so much better if you wait a few years.)

Love the V. Worship the V. Accept the V!

Being self conscious over something that is REALLY not a big deal to others isn’t worth your time. You have a normal vagina that holds many pleasures so please go explore it and find out all about it until someday (in the distant future) when you’re ready for someone else to go spelunking down there for you. 😉