ALL RIGHT.
I will consider it. If I have time (though time is growing sparse for me), I will go back through the tags and organize it more specifically. I never intended for this blog to be viewed through “archives”, just a “see it/love it/reblog it/gone” kind of thing…
I don’t do labels.
Like a FULL ON one? Cause I’ve posted plenty where there’s varying amounts of hair down there…
The whole area is a spongy tissue like spot about the size of a quarter. It feels rougher to the touch than the surrounding tissue. The G-spot is composed of erectile tissue, which means it swells up when blood rushes to it…which is what happens when a woman is aroused. The more aroused she is, the more likely you are to find it and be able to use it!
It is located about one to two inches back from the vaginal opening inside the front vaginal wall. The “front” wall is the wall of the vagina on the same side as the belly button.
(And in case you were wondering where the male G-Spot is…)
YOU ARE NOT OBLIGATED TO CONTINUE DATING THE PERSON THAT YOU ARE DATING
THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS A “BAD REASON” TO BREAK UP WITH SOMEONE
DATING IS A TRIAL PERIOD
IT IS A TASTE TESTER
IT IS NOT MARRIAGE. YOU ARE FREE TO LEAVE A RELATIONSHIP AT ANY TIME WHETHER IT BE BECAUSE YOU WERE CHEATED ON OR EVEN BECAUSE YOU JUST DON’T CLICK ANYMORE
IF SOMEONE BREAKS UP WITH YOU DO!! NOT!! HARASS THEM AND SEND PEOPLE TO TALK TO THEM!!
RESPECT THEIR RIGHT TO NOT DATE YOU!
It’s actually really common these days for your hymen to “break” (incorrect description, but we’ll get to that) as early as childhood due to exercise, sports, gymnastics, tampons, horseback riding, even bike riding. That kind of excessive pressure on your pelvic area naturally stretches the hymen on its own. It’s a myth that penetration is the only way to “break” your hymen!
In fact, the “pop your cherry” expression is ridiculously inaccurate! You can’t “break” or “pop” your hymen. Watch this video where it explains exactly what your hymen is, looks like, and how it works.
Your hymen stretches and that’s what usually causes the bleeding, but nowadays with tampons and masturbating, women are inadvertently preparing their first time experience to be a lot more pleasurable.
NOT ALL WOMEN BLEED WHEN THEY HAVE SEX FOR THE FIRST TIME.
The thing you have to understand for yourself is that bleeding is NOT an indicator of whether or not a woman is a virgin! Some girls bleed their first time and some DON’T! Some bleed even after they’ve had sex once or twice before. It all depends on how much tissue there is in the hymen and that varies depending on the individual. Some have more than others so those with more will experience a little bit more pain and bleeding. Others experience almost no pain and maybe just a spot of blood! Like a speck! Or nothing at all!
I understand that in certain cultures, blood is the “official” confirmation of virginity, but it’s so inaccurate! The only thing that determines whether or not you’re a virgin is whether or not you’ve ever had sex.
The problem with this antiquated thinking is that it was based on a time where women were less physically active. Women didn’t play sports. Women didn’t exercise (rigorously). Women didn’t use tampons. Women weren’t engaging in physical activities that would stretch the hymen. So it was far more common for them to experience pain and bleeding after their first time. So men just took that idea and made it practically a law without understanding it in the slightest. I know it’s tradition, but it’s tradition based on woeful ignorance of the female anatomy.
Today, it is becoming increasingly common for girls not to bleed at all when having sex for the first time simply based on their physical activities or masturbating or tampons. You’ll still be tight and it will uncomfortable your first time because you’ve never had sex before, but it’s very possible that you won’t bleed and it might not even be because you masturbated! It could just have happened due to your active lifestyle (not sexually active!).
I can’t tell you what to do or how to handle the situation if it arrives because it’s not my culture and I would be an idiot if I tried to advise you on yours, something of which I know nothing about. The only thing I can do is make sure that YOU understand the actual medical reasoning behind this so that you can arm yourself with that knowledge and be able to educate anyone who would question you or doubt you.
Guys and girls think it’s sexy as hell. It’s a total turn-on. For them, it’s like “Yes! I fucking made it happen! I’m awesome!” haha.
However, not everyone KNOWS about squirting so if the guy/girl is inexperienced, they might be taken aback by it. Not ‘grossed out’ but more like ‘what just happened and was that good or bad or what did I just do!?’.
So the best way to avoid that confusion is to talk to your partner before you do something like that. You’re likely not going to just jump into having sex first, you’ll work your way up to it so there will be some fooling around. You can use those opportunities to bring it up and tell them that you squirt sometimes. They’ll either ask you what that is or say that’s hot and want to get right to it to see if they can make you orgasm like that. 😉
Count yourself as one of the lucky ones!
Well, it’s like I said before, try avoiding G-Spot stimulation or anything that involves pressure on your urethra. Feeling the need to pee when encroaching orgasm is common. You can’t let it freak you out otherwise you’ll never climax! Focus on your clit and maybe try not using penetration, just to see if it makes a difference.
The absolute best thing you can do in this situation? Ask him. Talk to him about it. See what HE likes. Every guy is different.
However, yes, they get super sensitive after ejaculating, but you can gently continue for about 15 seconds after, licking his shaft and/or holding the base of his cock, just as a nice way to bring him down. Avoid the head/tip! That’s the most sensitive area and it’ll be way too sensitive for you to go near.
Some guys like it when you show a little love after they orgasm and some want you off their cock ASAP cause it’s too much. All based on personal preference! That’s why you should ask. 🙂
As for you though…I know how sensitive the clit is after orgasm, BUT women have the capacity for multiple orgasms and men do not! We were built for rapid-fire orgasms! Men need time to recover in order to work their way up again, but after a woman orgasms, she’s still aroused and can climax two or three more times much more easily and quickly after the first.
So instead of stopping altogether right after you climax, have him kiss you, play with your nipples, rub your thighs, and then after a couple minutes, go back down and continue giving you oral! He should avoid the clit when starting again, have him focus on other areas and stimulating the G-Spot with his fingers, then eventually come back to the clit. It’ll feel like it’s almost too much for you but then you’re going to EXPLODE. It’s fabulous.
Women are unfortunately far too neglected when it comes to sex, whether it’s because of lack of knowledge and education about our bodies or because of selfish partners. So you should take advantage of what we truly have to offer ourselves!
The key to multiple orgasms for women is to continue stimulation after the first climax. Kissing, rubbing, touching, grinding, humping, etc. All until you’re revved up and ready to go full speed again, which will happen within a few minutes! You need to keep your body cresting somewhere at the peak of arousal and you will have orgasms galore. He can eat you out, orgasm 1, then finger you and eat you out, orgasm 2, put his cock inside you at a particular position that stimulates the G-spot and the clit, orgasm 3 – lather rinse repeat! You can do this all night!
Men…however…you have to find a guy who can keep up 😉 Guys love to claim they have the stamina for all nighters, but when push comes to shove, they typically fall short of the finish line. It’s okay though! It’s not a test of natural sexual prowess (like guys think), but just something that comes with experience. Stamina is about endurance and the only way to build up endurance is through training. The more you do it, the more you push yourself a little more each time, the more endurance you’ll have!
Men, on average (it varies for each man, especially with age!), need a refractory period of 15-20 minutes before they can even think about going again. Women do not! In fact, that 15-20 min period will lessen our chances for a second or third orgasm. Good news is, men don’t have to use their cocks to please you so if your man is eager and willing, you can have plenty of fun without having to wait.
So your homework for tonight is to talk to your boyfriend, experiment with what he’d like after a BJ, and get cracking on some multiple orgasms for yourself! Report back and I’ll give you your grade. Don’t worry, I give points for effort. 😉
Fool around a lot before you go anywhere below the waist. Make sure you’re really wet (use lube if you want!).
Have him cut his nails BEFORE anything happens. Seriously.
It will be uncomfortable at first and he needs to do it gently. Your body needs time to adjust to the intrusion. So ask him to go slow, only ONE finger, and take it from there. If it hurts too much, stop and keep kissing, try again later, but he should gently ease into you when you’re really wet and slowly work up the pace.
Only do what you’re comfortable with. If you don’t like it, either stop him altogether or just ask him to do it differently. (Ie, slower, easier, whatever you need.) Don’t be nervous. You’re in control of the situation. You dictate the terms.
You will be sore after the first time, but you’re not going to experience PAIN. If it’s really hurting, then there’s something wrong with what he’s doing or you’re so nervous, you’re not letting your body relax and open up to him. Arousal is a huge factor here! The more aroused you are, the better it will feel.
So fool around, get comfortable, and let him touch you! 🙂
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