Author: sumptuousdaydreams

i’m 17 and live with my mom I’m too afraid to look up on google homemade like dildos and whatnot. do you know of anything I can use at home besides a shower head and fingers

There’s this cool thing called “delete browser history”! You should try it. Keeps that nosy Mom out of your business. 😉

But since you asked, a cucumber is generally the go-to item for those times where your fingers are just not enough and a trip to the sex shop (whether in person or virtual) is out of the question. Other veggies with similar shape will do as well.

Use lube and wash the cucumber before you use it (and after?) lol.

Anyone else wanna chime in with your fav every day go-to item? So many possibilities, so little time…

ive never given head before.. but my boyfriend and i are planning on having a sleepover this weekend, and im sure sex will happen.. but what do i do when it comes to giving head? pls help.

I’ve answered this question several times before! Please check the sex advice tag in the future before asking any questions. There’s a strong chance the answer is already in there! 🙂

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I’ve been dating this guy for almost a year now and we said from the beginning we would take our time and work up to things like kissing, making out, sex, etc. Problem is, we had sex a few times and I stopped it. IT FEELS AWKWARD. Almost like “I made a mistake” awkward… and I was wondering, can LACK OF SEXUAL ATTRACTION really be a good reason to loose feelings for someone in a relationship? He’s sweet and caring but I dunno if dating feels right… Am I being SHALLOW? INCONSIDERATE?

NO.

Lack of sexual attraction is one of the biggest and most simple reasons to break up with someone. You have every right to end it because the feelings just aren’t there. It happens!

It’s OKAY.

You’re not obligated to date him just because he’s a nice guy. Sometimes the chemistry just isn’t there. That doesn’t make you a bad person! Lack of sexual chemistry is ABSOLUTELY a reason to break up with someone. It’s obviously not the only reason why you date a person, but it’s a huge part of it, and without it, your relationship is actually called “being friends”.

Don’t beat yourself up about it! You’re not to blame nor is he. You’re just not that into him. That’s all. That’s life. Try to make a clean break and move on. It doesn’t do either of you any good to force something like chemistry which is something that you simply either have or you don’t have. You can’t MAKE chemistry happen.

You’re not being shallow or inconsiderate. You’re being honest. Love doesn’t work the way we want it to work. We don’t get to make the rules. We don’t get to dictate the terms. Love does its own thing and we go along with it.

my boyfriend gave me oral for the first time ever tonight and he tried so hard to get me off and it felt so good but i felt like uit was taking me so long to even get close. and once i got close i never really got close and i just started losing it and he felt like he was a failure cos he couldnt get me to come. ive never orgasmed before and i just feel bad cos everything he did felt amazing but i just didnt come and i think hes even more disappointed than i am :/

Aw, that’s so sweet! It’s common not to orgasm the first time someone goes down on you (especially if the person giving it is inexperienced). I’m sure he was disappointed because no guy wants to let you down! He wanted to please you! Just reassure him that you did enjoy yourself and tell him that you really want to try it again (and again…and again…and again…).

The key to oral is rhythm and never BREAKING that rhythm. So my advice is that when he hits a good spot or does something that you really like, make sure he KEEPS doing that and don’t fucking let him stop! It’s about working you up, finding that pace, and then keeping a steady/increasing rhythm until you break!

Try to help him more next time, give him guidance, lead him where you want him, and if he does something really good, physically hold him there and tell him to keep going just like that!

He’s not a failure – I know you know that – but guys shoulder a lot of the burden and the ones who care about your pleasure really take it hard when it seems like they’re unable to give you what you need. Again, reassure him that you enjoyed yourself and you really want him to do it again. (Don’t overcompensate by drawing attention to your lack of orgasm, that makes it worse, just continue to show sexual interest in him and an eagerness for more.)

Sex is all about experimenting. The more you experiment, the more you learn, the better you get. So…tell him to get back down there and try again! The sooner the better! And make sure you relax! You guys will find a way to make it happen.

Anonymous asked sumptuousdaydreams:

ok,so my bf&i were having a bit of fun&i got him to cum. i licked up most of it,but some was still on his pelvis like,just under his tummy&just above his penis-after some time i sat on his tummy&we were making out,naked&i was just absolutely terrifying myself that i was going to somehow get his cum in me. do you think i mightve? i mean, i think it was dried before i did that, it was 2 or 3 minutes after he came that i climbed onto him. do you think something could happen or am i just paranoid?

i was sitting like at or just below his belly button but i was worried otherwise. idk if it dried and im freaking out. im a virgin and absolutely terrified i dont know i just gfbdgbiladfgb please help?

It’s highly unlikely that you’re pregnant, but I have to admit that it is possible…however small the chance. If his sperm came into contact with your vagina then you were exposed. If you are really that concerned then take Plan B. Again, the chances of you being pregnant are EXTREMELY low, but stranger things have happened so I can’t tell you for certain.

Sperm in semen can survive for hours after ejaculation (longer if in a hot/wet environment – like a bathtub) and if semen is ejaculated into the vagina, sperm can survive for 3-5 days inside a woman.

Be smarter and don’t mess around like that again unless you’re using a condom or you’re on birth control.

why is it that when my boyfriend tries having sex with me in certain positions i feel pressure and it starts to hurt? Especially when im bent over for example

There’s a number of different reasons why it could hurt. Many of them have to do with medical issues so the next time you see your gynecologist or internist, I STRONGLY advise that you discuss it with them. (STD’s are a possibility…)

However, a common reason why certain positions hurt is because he’s penetrating you more deeply and possibly hitting your cervix. If your cervix is closer than average or tilted, he could be banging against it. PAINFUL! It’s another reason to talk to your doctor because they can examine you and tell you if that’s the problem.

Sex should not hurt (if you’re not a virgin). So this is definitely a problem you need to address with your doctor ASAP so that you can find out why this is happening. Avoid those positions that hurt until you get to the bottom of this.

Also, try using lube! You might not be aroused enough sometimes and if he’s pumping away, that’s extremely unpleasant.

And tell him to take it easy and be more gentle. He might be going too hard and being too rough with you, especially in those positions where he has the opportunity to penetrate you more deeply.