Author: sumptuousdaydreams

i was wondering if sex is different with a guy uncircumcised? Does it feel differently?

Honestly, you really can’t tell the difference when he’s in you. It’s a centimeter of extra skin. That’s it! The only time you’re really going to notice it is when you’re sucking/jerking him off and that’s because you’re up close and personal. The foreskin actually gets pulled back when he has an erection anyway so it’s not until you’re finished that it really becomes noticeable.

As for the difference in sex…it depends on the GUY! Not his dick. If the guy is terrible in bed then it doesn’t matter whether or not he’s circumcised! It makes no difference. Circumcised/uncircumcised, it’s still about his knowledge of the female body and experience with sex. That’s what will make it feel differently.

As a side note, uncircumcised men are actually more sensitive down there! They have more nerves and derive more pleasure from little things that circumcised men wouldn’t even feel. Fun!

There have actually been studies done that show that uncircumcised men make better lovers. The theory is that because their penis is more sensitive (the head), they are actually able to be more in tune with what women like. It’s a theory! It’s not proven. Just throwing it out there for you. I personally don’t believe it. I’ve heard too many different accounts of experiences with uncircumcised men (good/bad) that make me believe it really does come down to the guy and what he does with it.

Hey so this is kinda embarrassing but when I finger myself I cannot male it feel good and I dont like it is there something wrong with me??

There’s nothing wrong with you! Focus on your clit and other erogenous areas rather than pumping your fingers in and out of you. Many women don’t even find enjoyment in penetration while masturbating. You have to experiment to find what works for you so don’t give up!

Timing is everything. You should be really wet and aroused before your fingers even think about going inside. You can’t just start off with penetration! You have to work up to it. And if it doesn’t feel good, don’t do it! Find out what YOU like instead of what you think you’re supposed to like.

Which orgasm is more intense? clitoral or vaginal

They’re two very different types of orgasms. Clitoral orgasms are generally considered more intense and even preferred by a lot of women. It’s more like a man’s orgasm – powerful, quick release, enjoyable.

Vaginal orgasms are more wavelike and last longer. You also can have multiple vaginal orgasms (one after the other) whereas you can really only have one or two clitoral orgasms before your clit gets too sensitive to keep going. Vaginal orgasms are deeper and more intense emotionally (if that makes any sense). You’ll find yourself needing time to recover after a vaginal orgasm.

It’s all about personal preference! Ideally what you want is to have the “full body” orgasm, which occurs with simultaneous clitoral and vaginal stimulation! Those are the ones that blow your mind and render you incapable of speech or movement for a period of time. 😉

I am a lesbian and a virgin and I don’t shave ‘down there.’ will this be a problem when I do have sex? Also when I’ve tried to shave it just itches.

I suggest you wax. If shaving is annoying for you, (well, shaving is annoying for everyone) then make an appointment to get waxed. You don’t need to be BALD down there. That’s a matter of personal preference, of course, but you do need to be well groomed.

It’s necessary, whether male or female, for you to maintain what’s happening down there. (Boys: trimming is an absolute requirement – don’t be lazy, it’s gross and annoys your partners!) If you want a full bush, that’s great, but it still means shaping and trimming to a certain extent. Even with a full bush, it doesn’t mean you can let everything grow totally wild.

I’m going to be totally honest with you, it IS a turn off when everything is just a wild mess down there. Keep it neat. Waxing is the best option. Shaving is second best (see here for tips on shaving). There’s always going to be a little bit of itching when it grows back, but the more you do it, the less it affects you.

My advice is that you definitely need to do some form of maintenance down there before you have sex. It’s just polite, really. What exactly you want to do and how much, is entirely up to you!

so ive been going out with my girlfriend for about 3 months and never have trouble getting hard whenever were just fooling around but anytime i think were going to have sex (when i bring a condom) i cant get it up and get really frustrated and upset. the only time we’ve been able to do it is when she surprised me with a condom. any advice? this is really confusing and frustrating and just destroying my sex drive

I hate it when people say this, but in your case, it seems to be the exact problem… It’s all in your head.

You seem to be getting really anxious or nervous about having sex, which is why when you know it’s going to happen and you prepare for it, you essentially psych yourself out. You bringing the condom is also you knowing that you’re going to have sex and stressing out about it. Stress and anxiety are some of the most common factors involved in not being able to induce or maintain an erection.

Am I wrong to assume that when you don’t start getting hard at first, you get even more frustrated and stressed out? Well, that’s exactly what’s causing it! It’s a vicious cycle. You’re stressed out and anxious about sex which makes it harder for your body to relax and react in a natural way and when it doesn’t happen you get even more worked up which virtually ruins your chances of getting it up at all!

The fact that you have no problem when she surprises you, or when you’re fooling around, eliminates any physical problems that might have been a possibility. You are physically capable, it’s your mental state that’s causing it.

You have to talk to your girlfriend about how you’re feeling, whatever stress may be on your mind, let her know that you’re frustrated about this. She would want you to be able to talk to her about this! It makes things less awkward when you’re open and honest about what’s going on. Never let something like this be the pink elephant in the room!

Since it seems to be a detriment for you to “prepare” for sex (it gives you too much time to think about it) ask your girlfriend if she wouldn’t mind being the condom carrier for a while. 😉

It shouldn’t always be on her to bring protection, of course, but since it’s causing you to be more worried about sex (and then leading to no sex), ask her to help you by taking that responsibility off the table for a while.

You need to think about why you’re stressed about this. Are you worried about your performance? Worried about pleasing her? Worried about getting her pregnant? All of the above? None of the above? You have to try to pinpoint the source so that it can be resolved!

In the meantime, if your girlfriend makes sure you’re always prepared for sex, then you don’t have time to psych yourself out about it. Don’t make plans for sex. Let it happen when it happens so it’s always a surprise of some kind. (ALWAYS USE PROTECTION! That’s why I said ask your girlfriend to bring condoms. Just because you’re not planning to have sex at a specific time doesn’t mean you can’t always be prepared for it.)

After a few times of this happening without incident, you should eventually be able to fall into a good routine and feel more confident about your sex life. Then it won’t matter who brings the condoms – you’ll be ready to go and feeling good about it no matter what!

Another good thing to try is that if you’re not getting hard when you’re fooling around: take the pressure off of you (and your dick) by focusing on her and eat her out, finger her, just focus on getting her off by other means. Don’t let yourself get upset and frustrated – it’ll only make things worse. So when you know its not happening right then, switch gears, and turn it onto her without thinking too much about it. Relax and make a clear decision to take care of your girlfriend, forgetting about what’s going on with you. By focusing on something other than your lack of erection and putting all your energy into making her feel good and seeing how she reacts, it might actually help you calm down mentally and allow your body to physically get excited the way it wants to!

My girlfriend was actually willing to have sex with me while i was on my period (We’re in a distance rel. and i was leaving in a few days) only we did it in the shower, but the fact I was so paranoid about it being gross kinda made it hard, but once you get past that it’s actually quite good ~

Exactly. The only thing that was holding you back was your fear of your partner being squicked out! When, in fact, you both were okay with it and you enjoyed yourself once you let yourself relax.

Shower sex when on your period is ideal because it’s far less messy and no worries about cleaning up after!

how is it like to have sex if i’m on my period? is it disgusting for boys?

I can’t speak for boys. It’s really a personal thing. I know some guys are okay with it and others are totally grossed out by it. Also, a lot of girls don’t even want to consider it because when you’re on your period you feel gross anyway and the messy factor is just not appealing. Although! There are also a lot of girls who would love to have sex even when on their period, but they worry about their partners being turned off or grossed out and even think them weird for wanting it. So a lot of girls don’t even try asking because they’re embarrassed.

Lesson to learn here? Everyone has their own personal preferences, you’ll never know what your partner is or isn’t okay with unless you ask, and judging someone’s sexual interests will NEVER do you or them any good. Be open!