Author: sumptuousdaydreams

LABIA

Anonymous asked sumptuousdaydreams:

Absolutely nothing wrong with a large labia 🙂

Anonymous asked sumptuousdaydreams:

To the labia anon; it’s really a turn on to me. It just makes things easier to work with. You have something to suck on, you can use it to tease. Without it is great too, but it’s harder not to have labia. I used to be so insecure but I faced my fear now Im not embarrassed at all! Trust me, a lot of people have it. 🙂

Anonymous asked sumptuousdaydreams:

I love me some big labia! Labia in all shapes & sizes! Honestly, no one is going to judge.

Anonymous asked sumptuousdaydreams:

Doesn’t bother me.

Anonymous asked sumptuousdaydreams:

Don’t really have a preference, but I see large labia being more fun to play around with 🙂

soyjix said:

they’re great ^^ there’s plenty of tumblogs dedicated to the love of them – look it up! it helped me a great deal, although part of it will come with loving yourself

Is it normal to actually be really petrified of having sex because of crippling inadequacy issues? I’m only 5.5 inches long and past partners have said I’m too small, so now whenever I have sex I spend most of the time worrying about whether she’s actually enjoying it or not. I know about using my hands and mouth, I love doing that, but once we actually have sex I just get really self-conscious and worried and my own inadequacy issues really start playing up on me. : /

Is it easier for guys with a larger penis to give women pleasure during intercourse simply because of their size/girth? Yes.

Are guys who are smaller/average incapable of giving a woman the same amount of pleasure as a more endowed guy during intercourse? NO.

First off, you’re not inadequate. You’re not unusually small. You’re perfectly average! The only thing that makes it different is that you have to work a little harder and think a little more about using your cock right to make a woman feel it in all the right places. Should that make you freak out? NOOOOOO!

It’s just about being a conscientious lover. Talk to her. Ask her what feels good. Try different things. WORK. YOUR. HIPS. Try different positions. (I suggested a few below that are geared towards allowing for deeper penetration.) Open and honest communication with your partner is guaranteed to improve your sex life and make you the best lover she’s ever had. Size doesn’t do that. Love, intimacy, openness, communication, eagerness – all of those things are what makes sex as amazing as possible.

You just have to own it. Own your cock. Fuck your girl. Have the hottest sex ever. Don’t let something like size get in your way. Besides, it’s not even length that really means anything, it’s width/girth that makes the difference.

Confidence in bed is one of the best things you can have. I guarantee you that she’s not thinking “he’s too small”, instead she’s probably wondering why you’ve suddenly gotten really shy and you’re not as enthusiastic as you were when you were eating her out 5 mins ago. That will be the part that frustrates her. Not the fact that you’re 5 1/2 inches because I’m telling you – that’s the average size of men across the world!

It would also help to change your mindset about foreplay. Don’t just consider it “all that stuff I have to do before sex actually happens” – foreplay is a PART of sex. It’s all tied together. You’re not just going through the motions before you get to the “good part” where you get to stick it in her. That kind of thinking is going to be a major downfall for you. Kissing, petting, fingering, oral – all of it is part of having sex, not just a prelude. And foreplay is ESSENTIAL. The more foreplay, the better the sex.

Any past partner that told you that you’re too small is an asshole and she should go fuck herself. Don’t listen to that bullshit. When did she say that? ‘Cause that sounds like something a pissed off ex would say to screw with your head. Don’t let bitches like that affect your self-confidence. The best thing you can do is keep learning new things, listen to your partner, experiment, and you’ll be a better lover for it.

Plus side to being 5.5? You’re gonna get many more partners willing to deepthroat which will feel awesome for you and you can hold that over other guys who can’t get it. There are benefits and downfalls to both, no one has it all!

Tips:

– Get her to orgasm at least once before penetration. Knowing that she’s already climaxed will make you feel more confident and help you with any performance anxiety. Oral or fingers or both, doesn’t matter, just get her off.

– Try different positions. It’s all about the angle. If you hit the right angle, it makes all the difference in the world.

– Doggy style:

1) Her ass should be in the air with her head and shoulders comfortably relaxed on a pillow. So not on all fours, okay? Face should be on the bed! For the most effective angle, have her arch her back and her thighs should be together. It’s easy, simple, and feels really good. Also, lean forward during, maintain as much physical contact as you can comfortably manage. Constant contact and physical stimulation of the rest of her body makes makes it more intimate and does wonders for a woman’s sexual pleasure.

2) Both of you kneeling on the floor, leaning over your couch or something of the same. Open her legs from behind and enter. This position is fun because her hands are free to touch herself if she wants. Fucking from behind is a bit of a power trip so, if you want to spice it up and try some things, maybe do some light spanking or role-play. (Always clear it with her before anything happens!)

– Missionary: Put a pillow under her ass and have her feet rest on your chest or shoulders. Deep penetration and great G-Spot stimulation. It’s hard for women to keep that position when things start to get crazy so try using your own arms to hold her knees in place; one arm in the crook of her knee before you brace your hand on the bed.

– Snake: Flip it around. Have her lie flat on her belly with her legs closed. Put a pillow under her hips so her ass is raised. Bend your knees, straddle her hips while staying upright. Spread her thighs just enough to allow penetration and slide on in! Don’t put your weight on her during, if you feel like you need to brace yourself against something, bend forward until you’re able to touch the bed, but don’t fall on her. A tight fit feels great for both so hold her thighs together while you’re fucking.

Keep experimenting! Encourage your partner to tell you what she likes the best and you can keep working off that. The more you know about what works, the better the sex will be.

The size of your penis does not dictate whether or not you’re good in bed. Cross my heart! So no more of that inadequacy bullshit. You have some new things to try. So go get it done! 😉

This isn’t really a question or confession or anything. I’m just wanting to know from your followers who finds large labia attractive or are unbothered by it. It’s kind of to help me with my self esteem. Is that okay?

Followers…answer away!

Does waxing the bikini area hurt? I’ve been considering it for a while I’m just really scared I wont be able to handle it.

Yes, it hurts.

No, it won’t kill you.

You grow accustomed to it after a while. It’s not as bad as people like to make it seem. It’s not pleasant and it hurts like a bitch, but it’s definitely worth it. You’re going to walk out thinking, “Damn, that sucked, but it wasn’t nearly as bad as I thought it would be.”

Is there a female version of whiskey dick? I was getting frisky with a guy when I was at a party a couple weeks ago (It was my first time doing anything remotely sexual with another person) and I used to have a huge crush on him so attraction wasn’t the problem but I just really couldn’t get aroused. I actually had to tell him I wanted to go to bed and that he should probably remove his hand from my pants. Like, I was that disinterested. Is that a thing that happens? I’m sort of worried.

I don’t think it had anything to do with the alcohol. Alcohol for women is more likely to increase your desire for sex.

I think the key word here is that you “used to” have a crush on him. Past tense. You just weren’t into it. Thinking a person’s good looking is VERY different than being attracted to them and/or having chemistry with them. Maybe you just realized you weren’t that into him after all. There’s nothing wrong with that.

It sounds like he just wasn’t doing anything for you. Also, because you’re not that experienced with sex, it’s likely that not only were you not feeling anything for him, but you were also apprehensive about the whole situation and you didn’t feel like you were ready for something like that to happen. You tend to get your guard up that way and that puts an immediate stop to sexual arousal.

Either you didn’t want something to happen (weren’t ready for it) or you just didn’t want it to happen with him. I really don’t believe that alcohol had anything to do with it.

I’ve been w/ my bf for 1.5yrs. In the beginning I found out about his past of cybering with girls he meets online & porn addiction. It’s been a yr since I found out & its hard to trust him still. I know he still watches a fair amount of porn, he tries to hide it from me tho. I dont like porn, so I wanted to introduce sextoys in the bedroom, I thought maybe if I spiced it up more, he wouldnt need porn. Well he refused my idea. I feel so insecure about it, and it doesn’t seem fair to me. Help?

Being addicted to porn is actually something very serious, like any addiction would be. So, if this is still continuing, I think you might need to encourage him to get help (therapy) for it.

The fact that he hides it, makes it 10x more serious. That means that he knows what he’s doing is wrong, he feels ashamed, pathetic, he probably feels guilty as well, and all those reasons go into him hiding it from you. It’s a classic sign of addiction.

I just want to make it very clear that YOU are not the problem. It’s not something you did or something that you’re not doing that makes him revert to this. It’s actually a psychological compulsion that needs to be treated. If he physically cannot stop using porn and sexting with strangers online, then he really has a problem and he needs to get help for it.

Porn addicts become extremely dependent on porn to meet their sexual needs and then they start to become desensitized so the type of porn that arouses them has to be more and more extreme all the time. He started this habit BEFORE he met you, so he was obviously heavily invested in his porn habits and even introducing you into his sex life still couldn’t change the psychological compulsion he’s developed to rely on pornography to satisfy him. This all started before you and it’s not because of you. He’s essentially trained himself to sexually excited/aroused by porn and only porn. It’s ingrained in his every day thoughts! This type of addiction can get out of control so be wary of that.

I can’t tell you what you want to do in regards to your relationship, but if you feel like you’re not getting what you need out of it, (not just sexually, but the emotional support as well, or if you’re feeling neglected) then you might want to tell him what the problem is and end it. However, if you think it’s worth trying to salvage your relationship, you can ask him to get help for himself or stop on his own. If he doesn’t do that or refuses, then you can rethink your choice. If he does agree, then maybe it’s worth staying with him to work through it. It’s all up to you. Do not feel guilty for either choice that you make. You have to do what’s right for you. The best thing you can do for him is tell him exactly why you’re unhappy and exactly what concerns you. It’s only fair to give him a chance to change it (if you feel it’s worth another chance). If he chooses not to take it, then why are you with him?

Either way, never stay in a relationship where you feel cheated, neglected, insecure, and lied to. It’s not fair and you deserve much more than that. You have the power to change things for yourself and what happens in your relationship. So accept that power and do something about it. It’s your life.

The Society for the Advancement of Sexual Health (SASH) www.sash.net

Sex Addicts Anonymous (SAA) www.saa-recovery.org

Sexaholics Anonymous (SA) www.sa.org

Sexual Compulsives Anonymous (SCA) www.sca-recovery.org

Sexual Recovery Anonymous (SRA) www.sexualrecovery.org 

S-Anon International Family Groups www.sanon.org

Codependents of Sexual Adictions www.cosa-recovery.org

So. I think I squirted. For the first time ever. But. I don’t know. It was like tinted because I think I was doing it too hard so I was bleeding but like once I cleaned up the tinted part some ran down my leg and it was clear and odorless like its supposed to so did I squirt?

You were being so aggressive that you made yourself bleed? Ow! I don’t advise you do that again… And I can’t say for sure, but yeah, I guess you could have ejaculated. Did you feel it being different?

Anonimo

Hola.. es que tengo un novio.. y me gustarĂ­a hacer al amor con el .. pero con ropa.. y siin penetraciĂłn .. como le hago.?

Yo no hablo español. Lo siento
 Can someone translate for me?

Any tips on how to last a bit longer in bed with my girlfriend? Thanks!

Few ways!

– Stop-Start: Get used to building your arousal to where you’re almost on the verge of climaxing. Get yourself worked up, but as soon as you feel you’re going too far, back off for a moment (5-10 seconds) and let yourself come down a little bit. Do this a few times and then you can ejaculate. It builds up your tolerance and teaches your body self control.

– Condoms: Wear a desensitizing condom (they sell them in any drugstore). These particular condoms have a lubricant inside them that buy you some more time in bed. Make sure you don’t put the condom on inside out, otherwise the desensitizing lubricant will end up inside her and that’s basically the opposite of what you’re looking to achieve
 Try Trojan Extended Pleasure or Durex Performax. Durex is said to be the best one though!

– Squeeze: When you feel yourself about to blow, stop whatever you’re doing (pull out) and squeeze the head of your dick for about 5 seconds with your forefinger and thumb, wait for the sensation to subside. Once you’ve calmed down enough, get right back to it!

– Kegel Exercises for Men: What? You thought that was just for girls? NOPE! You get to try it too! 🙂 Read here. It builds up your endurance (just like exercising any other way would) AND it’s been said to produce more intense orgasms for men. So give it a shot!

– MORE FOREPLAY: You would think that more foreplay would decrease your staying power, right? Not true.

1) It actually lowers your sexual excitement. (This is for men, here.) Without foreplay, the idea of you getting to fuck someone and be inside them is wayyyy too exciting and overloads your brain. Which means you blow your wad too soon. The more time you spend on foreplay, the less likely you are to get too excited too quickly! It’s actually a distraction of a kind
 You’re focusing on all the stuff before intercourse and not intercourse itself. Make sense?

2) Besides, the more time you spend on getting her wet and aroused, the better it is for you both! Bring her to orgasm during foreplay so that way if you don’t have the best staying power that night, she won’t mind as much because she’ll have already climaxed once. Besides, most women can’t orgasm from penetration alone, we NEED foreplay, so you’re just being a better lover, really.