Author: sumptuousdaydreams

I just recently discovered that I am turned on by watch het porn with the women in “doggy” position. Now, I can only masturbate in that same position. Is that weird?

It’s a phase. We all go through sexual phases. We find one thing we like, do it as much and often as we can until we find something else that sparks our interest. Nothing weird about it at all!

The mindset that we have where we worry that the things that arouse us or get us off are “weird” or “not normal” has got to stop. Unless you’re doing something illegal or hurting someone, there is nothing wrong with fulfilling your sexual needs in whatever capacity you want. Everyone is different and everyone has their own things that they like. We’re all unique beings!

Enjoy yourself! Stop worrying. 🙂

My boyfriend and I have been trying to have sex for a long time but we can’t because the condoms won’t fit? Don’t get me wrong, is not as if he has an extremelly big or gigantic penis, it’s actually pretty normal, but the condom won’t come down and he says it is just so tight it hurts. Maybe he has a fat penis or I don’t know. lol. We know the right side to put it and the way it should go, we just want to be confortable and find a condom that will make him feel good and will make me feel safe.

Condoms are not one size fits all. It’s really common for guys to have trouble finding the right fit. Have you been experimenting with different condoms to find a better fit?

Here’s a size chart that should help you get a better idea of what you need.

Another common mistake is that you THINK you know how to put it on correctly, but you don’t. There are some really basic mistakes that everyone makes so don’t be embarrassed about that. Read this to double check and make sure you are doing everything correctly.

So I have a boyfriend.. But lesbian porn turns me on so much. I want to try kissing a girl and “stuff” but I don’t want to loose my boyfriend. I have a couple lesbian friend and I want to ask them if I could try with them but I don’t how to. And I don’t know if its right. Should I go ahead behind my boyfriends back or is that cheating?!

Kissing someone else when you’re in an exclusive, monogamous, relationship is generally considered cheating unless you have different parameters in your relationship. If he made out with another girl, would you consider that him cheating on you?

If yes, then yes, messing around with other girls behind his back is cheating.

If you want it badly enough, talk to him about it. Ask him if he would be comfortable having an open relationship. You can set rules for it. Honestly, that rarely ever works out, but you can always try.

I, personally, would break up with him and explore my other needs. You’re young, you’re not married, there is no real commitment here. The fact that you’re on this blog asking me about it shows how much you really want to try something different. It also shows how things are just not really working in your current relationship. It doesn’t mean your boyfriend is a bad guy, a bad boyfriend, or that you don’t really care about him. It’s just not the right relationship for you if you’re seriously contemplating messing around with other people.

It’s scary to leave someone when you feel comfortable with them and you care about them. It’s scary risking being alone for a while. For most, it’s easier to be with someone than it is to be alone, even if it’s not exactly what you want in a relationship. That’s normal and completely understandable. However, when it comes down to it, you’re settling for less by staying with him. And you’re not doing him any favors by staying with him while thinking about other people.

Would you want him to stay with you if he was thinking about other girls and wanting to have sex with other people? No. Why would you want to be with someone unless they want you and only you? That’s the whole point of being together.

Gender is irrelevant. It’s the act itself that defines cheating.

My personal advice? End it on the best terms possible and do what you need to do for yourself. Do not mess around behind his back. Either break up or give him full disclosure on what you want. Because if you start doing stuff behind his back, lying to him, it’s a betrayal no matter what. And you can’t have a healthy relationship that way.

So here’s my situation. Me and my bf have been dating for 2.5 years and we are really craving for sex. We are both virgins and when I say ‘craving for sex’ I mean we are craving to make love, WE LOVE EACH OTHER, we’r both 18 but our time together and because of our strict families we don’t get a chance to make it, it makes me sick, I want him so much and we do play with oral or our hands with our limited time together but now we both want to make it, any advice for this sexual repression?

Lie to your parents, set up a time and place, and just enjoy yourselves. You’re 18. They can’t legally forbid you from having sex. You’re an adult in the eyes of the law. I get that you still want to be respectful of their wishes, but there comes a time in your life where you have to start making decisions for yourself. This is one of them.

If you want your boyfriend, have him. Make it happen. Don’t let your parents stop you. There’s always a way. It’s not about what THEY want, it’s about what YOU want, and you have every right to make this decision for yourself.

I wanna start making porn gifs, but I tried once and the gifs went unseen. What are the best things to tag lesbian gifs with so they don’t get lost in the tags with all the stolen graphics and stuff? Or is there a place to advertise a new porn gif blog?

Sorry. I just tag randomly with whatever is relevant to the post. (It’s making a mess of my blog though so if I ever have the time, I’ll have to go back through it and tag everything more clearly.)

Find popular porn blogs and ask them to check out your gifs. The best way to get recognized is to have the popular blogs reblogging you. I never did that, but I’ve had people ask me to look at their blogs…

If you make good gifs, they will come (and cum). 😉

So I have a boyfriend. But I REALLY want to try sex with a woman. Don’t get me wrong, I love him. He’s respectful and kind and he loves me back. It’s just that sometimes I BADLY want to hook up with a woman. Do you have tips for overcoming this?

Overcoming it? No. Sorry.

With desires like these, I tend to encourage them. This isn’t a matter of your boyfriend being a bad boyfriend. This is about you and you exploring more about yourself. I think you need to take that opportunity. Don’t suppress it. That only makes things worse.

You can either try to make an agreement with your guy that allows you to explore women while still seeing him or you can end it with him and pursue what it is you want. If you want to try being with a woman, the only thing that’s going to solidify your feelings about it one way or the other is actually doing it. Maybe you won’t be that into it, maybe you’ll discover a whole new, untapped passion about yourself that you didnt know existed.

Point is…you have to try. Give yourself the chance to know for sure. It’s not his fault and it’s not yours. That’s just the way life is. “Overcoming” it is not the answer. That’s another way of saying denial. So really think about what it is you want and then go after it.