Author: sumptuousdaydreams

There hasn’t been much testing done on the liquid that women ejaculate, so there’s no definitive answer from the scientific community yet.

However, they have determined that it’s definitely NOT urine and it actually shares some similarities with the fluid produced by the male prostate.

Female ejaculate is clear colored, doesn’t stain the bed yellow, doesn’t have an odor, and it’s slightly sweet when you taste it.

So if anyone’s wondering what the difference is between urine and ejaculate, ^those are the signs!

Your gender puts you at an advantage here…

What do YOU like? What turns YOU on? Just apply it to your girlfriend and then start experimenting/tweaking it based on the way she responds. Not everyone likes the same things, of course, but it’s a good starting point!

Kiss her, touch her, grind with her, squeeze her ass, spank her, bite her, pull her hair, play with her breasts (lick, suck, nibble, whatever!), find the spots that make her moan, explore her body and watch/listen to how she reacts. Anything! Just experiment. This is supposed to be fun! Learning is fun! 😉

Explore and pay attention. That’s the best advice I can give you.

If you’re uncomfortable with your age difference then that’s your answer right there.

16 and 19 is a big gap maturity wise. It’s not the same as someone who’s 25 having sex with someone who’s 28. The older you get, the less the age difference matters. But you’re at the crucial stage of your life where even just one year makes a big difference. You’re at completely different places in your life and you’re at very different stages of emotional maturity.

As far as the legality of it goes, I’m not really concerned about that. It’s about what you want and what you feel comfortable with. If it’s too intimidating or you don’t feel right about it, then don’t do it. Wait until you’re completely confident and self assured about your decision. Don’t go into having sex with doubts. You’re guaranteeing bad sex that way.

There’s nothing wrong with waiting another year or even just 6 months. You’re here telling me you’re concerned. That itself shows me that you’re not fully ready for this yet and that’s good! It’s fantastic that you’re actually listening to your instincts. They will only serve you well in life.

Just wait until you’re completely ready and a little older. There’s no reason to rush. Having sex without being fully confident that it’s what you want, and it’s who you want to be with, is just going to make you regret pushing yourself into it. You won’t be happy with your choice. You have all the time you need. It’s your decision and your say-so. It’s your life! Don’t let anyone else dictate it for you.

so i’m 21 going on 22 and i’m still a virgin, i barely had my first kiss a few weeks ago (i wish i could take it back) but i’m attracted to guys and sometimes girls. i’ve known my best friend for over 6 yrs now and we’re very close, we see each other weekly, we’re like sisters basically but over the years i’ve been having strong feelings for her and i’ve come to realize i’m in love with her. she comes to mind from the moment i wake up to the moment i fall asleep. when she calls me i get butterflies in my stomach, when i’m going to see her my heart races and again with the butterflies in my stomach. sometimes i masturbate to her and when i see her all i want to do is kiss her and have her in my arms. i know i really should tell her but i don’t know what her reaction will be. i would be so devastated if she didn’t want to speak to me anymore or if things changed between us. my question to you is if theres anything you suggest or something i should do. thanks! 🙂

Okay, first, please don’t refer to her as your sister AND someone you’re in love with. Just really bad connotations there! lol.

It’s hard falling for your best friend. You never know what the fall out will be. Once you tell them the truth about your feelings, no matter what happens, things between you will be forever changed. Now, it could be a good change! Or it could be a bad change. You risk a friendship that way.

Here’s what could happen: 1) She shares your feelings and you guys start dating! Yay! Happy ending. 2) She doesn’t share your feelings but still wants to be your best friend and things are awkward for a while, but you eventually move past it. It won’t always be the same, but you will still be best friends. 3) She doesn’t share your feelings and the tension between you two becomes so awkward you end up growing distant and your friendship falls apart.

Sorry. Life isn’t all that much fun sometimes.

So what can you do? Well, first I think you need to do some real soul searching. Really think about this and decide if your feelings for her are strong, strong enough that they’re worth risking your friendship for, then that’s the choice you make. You need to go into it armed with the knowledge of what could happen and be prepared for it to happen either way.

If you decide this is important enough for you to go ahead with, then I would start dropping some hints to see if she’s interested. First, start with testing the waters about how she feels about being with girls in general, ask if she’s ever thought about it, maybe reveal that you like girls if you haven’t told her that already, etc. See where she stands on that.

If she responds well to it or gives you an indication that she wouldn’t rule it out, then keep going. Try getting a little more touchy-feely with her. Nothing overt. Just casual touches that are a bit more than the norm. See how she reacts to that.

If all of these things are received positively then it’s time to bite the bullet and tell her the truth. You can’t know what’s going to happen until it happens.

If she doesn’t even give you an indication that she’d be open to being with a girl, then you have to really consider whether or not it’s worth telling her about how you feel. At that point, you know it won’t ever happen, but if it’s hurting you too much to keep it from her, then maybe you need to be honest just for your own sake.

It’s a hard place you’re in and there’s no answer I can give you that will magically make what you want to happen, happen. Think long and hard, then make your decision and stick by it. The best way to consider choices like these is to ask yourself: “What will I regret?” – If you tell her and lose her, will you regret that more than keeping it a secret from her for the next 10 years or however long you’re friends for? Would you rather be honest and risk it or stay quiet and never have her know how you really feel? You guys share everything, but you’ll be keeping this from her. That’s a lot of hiding to do from your best friend. Think: 5 years from now, when you look back, what will you wish you had done?

You. Are. A. Child.

Now, take all the offense to that as you want, but you know I’m right. I tell 16 year old’s to wait because I think that’s still too young. What do you think I’m going to say to you?

It is way too early. Way too soon. I promise you, whatever it is you hear people your age doing, they’re not enjoying it the way it’s supposed to be enjoyed. They’re doing it because they’re bored, or they’re curious, or they think it makes them cool. NO. Sex doesn’t actually start to be good until you’re much older, when people actually know what they’re doing. I guarantee you, none of the people you’ve heard about have the slightest clue what they’re doing.

You’re naturally curious about it. That’s normal! You want to know what the big deal is. But thinking about it and actually doing it are, obviously, two very different things. You don’t need to have sex yet. And if you try right now, it’s only going to be a let down. I promise, all you’ll think is “that’s it?” and instantly be disappointed. You’ll also regret it. Sex is not all it’s cracked up to be. You want to wait until you’re older, in a relationship, and you’ve already tried everything else that leads up to having sex with that person. That’s what makes it good: being in the right stage of your life and being with the right person.

Having sex just because you want to try it never works and always ends up being a huge disappointment. Ignore the gossip, focus on yourself. If you’re horny, masturbate! Get to know your body, learn all your turn-on’s – what works and what doesn’t. That’s the first step towards embracing your sexual desires.

I promise you, you do not want to have sex right now. It will suck. It will be absolutely awful. You’ll wonder why the hell you ever wanted to try this and what the big deal is about it because it was just weird and lasted for all of 8.6 seconds. What’s so great about that?

Please trust me on this. Put off considering having sex for a few more years and just focus on more important things in your life: friends, family, school, etc. That’s all that you need to think about. Sex will happen later and, if you wait, you’ll be doing yourself a huge favor that the people you’ve heard about will envy you for. You waited, and when you eventually have sex, with someone you care about, it’s going to be so much better than anything they ever experienced.

Be smart. Think for yourself. Don’t compare yourself to what others are doing and think you have to do it too just to keep up.

This is cliche, but it’s still oh-so-true: if everyone is jumping off a bridge, does that mean you’re going to jump off too?

He was your first, there’s always going to be something special about that, something that sets it apart from the rest. Not that it was necessarily good, but because that was your first and you always remember that. It’s one of those moments in life you never forget. It’s not attachment or any of those misogynistic theories that a girl will become obsessed with a guy she loses her virginity with. It’s bullshit. It was one of those moments that’s going to stand out to you when you look back at your past, but it doesn’t mean you’ve freaking imprinted on the guy or anything.

That said, he cheated on you. He lied to you. He betrayed you. So it makes it a 1,000x worse that he was your first because you now have what was something special to you, tainted with that kind of hurt. It’s often the case that when someone wants to have sex again with their ex that cheated…it’s usually revenge sex. I don’t know if that’s what you were thinking, but it is common. Maybe you’re thinking, you fuck him, show him what he lost out on, and then leave him in the dust. He hurt you so why not hurt him? He deserves it, right?

Or maybe that’s not it at all! Maybe you’re ready to have sex again, but since he was your only experience, your thoughts revert back to him. Also, you know he can’t hurt you anymore than he already has so he’s a safe bet. It’s easier to go back to someone you know than risk your feelings again by starting with someone new.

You’re not attached to your ex. The whole “theory” of girls getting too attached and obsessed with their first is a myth. Some girls value it more than others, that’s true, but don’t try to fit yourself into the box because you’ve “heard” that’s what happens. It’s just not true.

I don’t advise having sex with your ex. It never works out like you think it will. It always ends up messy and bad. Plus, this guy is an asshole who cheated so all the more reason to just focus on what’s ahead. Open yourself to meeting someone new. If it’s sex you want, there’s PLENTY of guys out there that would be an eager and willing partner for you.

Don’t go back to the ex just because it’s familiar and safe and the only thing you know. Take chances. Move on. Have new experiences. Then you won’t be thinking of him as your only option anymore.

It’s possible you were feeling tense and nervous in the beginning and when she eventually started fingering you, you had finally relaxed enough to enjoy it. You were already aroused and wet enough to start really feeling pleasure.

It’s also possible that she just wasn’t getting a good enough rhythm set with her tongue or doing everything she needed to, but she turned out to be better with her fingers.

My personal opinion is that your girlfriend just needs more practice and you need to help her out by giving more specific instructions as to what you want and what you like. Work together! Because, seriously, you do not want to miss out on how awesome getting your pussy eaten out is when it’s done right. Seriously.

Practice makes perfect! Try having her do it for a little while, then come back up and you guys can kiss, touch, whatever, then have her go back down again. Just change it up, experiment, and the key is to NOT be self-conscious or nervous. If you’re too tightly wound and feeling awkward about having someone using their mouth on you like that, then you’re definitely not going to feel anything.

It’s a mole. Everyone knows what a mole is. Pretty much everyone has a mole somewhere. I have one on my inner thigh and I used to be self conscious about it, but then I realized…IT’S. A. MOLE.

They’re down there to eat your pussy and fuck you senseless. Something as common and ordinary and nothingggggg as a mole is not going to turn off any guy who wants to have sex with you. He will not care. He wants to have sex with you. Having the sex is what he cares about. lol.

Accept your body as it is and love it because I guarantee that there are many, many people out there that will love your body even more than you do. Once you realize that, the self doubt will start to go away.

IT’S JUST A MOLE! NO ONE CARES!

(Unless it’s cancerous, so please have a yearly body check with a dermatologist to ensure that everything is on the up and up! Be smart and stay out of the sun people!)

I think one of the biggest misconceptions in relationships is that you have to stop caring about a person (or even hate them) in order to break up with them. That’s simply not true. You can still love someone and not want to be with them because they’re just not “that person” for you. You care for them, you love them, they’re one of your closest friends, but you’re not in love with them.

Why am I telling you this? Because, in my opinion, I don’t think you’re in love with your girlfriend. I’ll hazard a guess and say that you started experimenting because you both were getting bored and in order to help your relationship, you started doing more experimental things to change it up and see if it would rekindle the flame that feels like it’s dying out.

Is that the reason why all couples start experimenting sexually? NOT AT ALL! I only think that’s the reason in your particular case because you mentioned thinking about other girls, you’ve considered breaking up with her on more than one occasion just because you want to sleep with someone else, you’ve even thought about cheating on her.

Those are the biggest signs that you have a big problem in your relationship. Do not cheat on your girlfriend. Respect her. Be loyal to her. Be honest with her. The only way you can hurt her more than by breaking up with her, is by betraying her. Cheating is NEVER an option. You say you love her, prove it, and stay faithful. Someone you love deserves that respect.

If you want to sleep with other people, that’s okay. That doesn’t make you a bad person. But it does mean that you need to do the right thing and end your relationship before you make a mistake that you will regret for the rest of your life.

You don’t want to lose her because she’s a huge part of your life. She’s one of your best friends. Unfortunately, that’s not a reason to keep going the way you are. If you love her, break up with her and pursue who you want to pursue. You will lose her for a little while, but if your relationship is strong enough, there’s a chance you can come back as friends. If you continue on this path, you will likely end up cheating on her and ending any possibility to have her as a part of your future.

That’s my suggestion. I’m sorry if it’s not what you were looking for.