It sounds like you have a bacterial infection that you should see a doctor about for treatment and it sounds like you gave your boyfriend oral herpes which he should see a doctor for as well.
Author: sumptuousdaydreams
Your help would be fab, whenever I masturbate I don’t get any real pleasure from fingering myself, whether as when I’m with my boyfriend, it feels better than clitoris stimulation does… is that weird? Is there anyway to change that? How can I make it feel as good as when he does it?
The good news is that you already know what you SHOULD be feeling and you’re not getting.
It’s absolutely normal that it feels better with your boyfriend. A sexual partner, with the intimacy and surprise that comes with another person feels amazing and it’s why people like having sex instead of just staying home by themselves… If masturbating was an adequate substitution for sex, there would be a MUCH happier world out there…
BUT! The fact that you struggle to find any pleasure at all is not something that should happen. Masturbating, while certainly not better than (GOOD) sex, is a pleasurable activity that teaches us a lot about ourselves and what we enjoy.
My suggestion is to try doing different things than what your boyfriend does to you. Experiment. Instead of trying to replicate his actions, find your own. It may be penetration, it may be clitoral stimulation, it may be both! But I think you need to try a new path instead of trying to recreate what you do with him. You can’t do what he does to you because he’s not there! That doesn’t mean that there aren’t OTHER ways to make yourself feel good.
Try a vibrator. Go slower when working yourself up. Make sure you’re really horny and wet before touching yourself. Relax. Close your eyes. FEEL what your body responds to and act accordingly.
The biggest and most common mistake I hear from girls when they have trouble with masturbation, is that they’re doing what they think they’re “supposed” to do to masturbate instead of giving their body what it’s asking for. Ie. Fingering. You should NOT jump into that first thing. You need to work yourself up, get your arousal to its peak before even considering it. Some girls don’t even want penetration at all.
Stop thinking about what masturbating is “supposed” to be and what it is you do with your boyfriend. Pay attention to your body and find out what it is you like. You have to listen closely and take your time. Once you figure it out, it’s going to make your sex life 1000x better! 😉
You’re gorgeous
Mainstream porn is pretty indoctrinating. I agree that it paints a pretty unrealistic picture as to what constitutes good sex. With this in mind, I’m often concerned with the size of my penis. Now I’ve heard that performance and presence of mind are everything. But a number of random girls have told me that size does matter a little. Your thoughts?
Regardless of the size of your cock all guys need to learn how to satisfy a lady with their mouth and hands. Mainly because most girls need more than just penetration to be pleasured, and also because if you can give your girl an orgasm before you even take your pants off you’ll feel much less pressure about your performance and size.
Filme romantico lesbico, indica algum?
Romantic lesbian movies? Regular ones? As in “not porn”? I’ll point out a few that I’ve seen or heard of. To be fair, I don’t watch a lot of movies. I’m more of a TV person.
Imagine Me & You (LOVE this adorable movie)
I Can’t Think Straight (Haven’t seen yet, but heard it was good.)
Saving Face (Haven’t seen yet, but heard it was good, and it’s won some big independent movie awards!)
Bound (I didn’t really like it, wasn’t for me, but it could definitely be someone else’s style?)
Lost & Delirious (Piper Perabo again! But much younger. Not the lighthearted feel that is Imagine Me & You. It’s not my favorite, but it’s still Piper Perabo so…)
Kiss Me (Haven’t seen.)
Elena Undone (Haven’t seen, but apparently they have the longest on screen kiss ever filmed at 3 mins and 14 seconds…)
But I’m A Cheerleader (Natasha Lyonne..’nuff said)
Loving Annabelle (Haven’t seen.)
Show Me Love (Haven’t seen.)
Gia (Angelina Jolie before she was famous and Elizabeth Mitchell…)
D.E.B.S. (Totally hokey but entertaining?)
If These Walls Could Talk 2 (Haven’t seen.)
How can you just assume all lesbians have short nails? Like I’m sure it can be an indication, but it’s not a sure fire way to find out if a girls into chicks.
I was actually joking when I said that. There’s a 😉 after it to indicate that I was teasing.
Obviously not all lesbians have short nails, but MANY do and for a very specific reason. Duh! You’re more likely to see a lesbian with short nails than a lesbian with the claws that some women sport… But, as I said in the other post, there’s no one mold, only stereotypes.
The only way to know a person’s sexuality for certain is from the person themselves!
How can I ask a girl if she is into girls? Or how I could know without asking?
Check the nails.
If they’re reasonably short, go ahead to the second step. 😉
Talk about past relationships! Work it into the conversation. If you’ve dated a girl, mention that and see what her response is. If she’s into girls, you need to provide an opening for her to say “oh yeah I dated this girl once…” or “I would so sleep with her” etc.
If you admit to your sexual interests, it opens it up for her to reciprocate by admitting her own. Just bring it up in a casual dialogue and see what response you get.
You’d be surprised how easily that works. People are much more open about their sexuality now. Not everyone is, of course, but the number of people being open and comfortable with their sexuality grows every day. 🙂
If you’re friends with any of her friends or people she knows, ASK THEM! I’ve done it a thousand times. I meet someone that I’m curious about, but I don’t want to be forward, I talk to her friends. I’m usually pretty blunt with them (because I already know them) and I get my answers that way. Then I feel confident enough to approach!
So many girls are not what you would not expect because they’re not “stereotypical gay”. Many are actually quite open to being with other women. I’ve discovered many a bisexual just by asking her friends, lol.
Sorry, but even if you have the best “gaydar” in the world, there’s still no way to tell if someone is a lesbian or not. Lesbians don’t fit into one mold. There’s a certain “type” of course, which is usually the short hair and butch clothes/attitude, but that’s not always accurate. And there are many “femme” lesbians. Then there’s the girls that are bi and that’s just a crapshoot. So unless someone out there creates a device that you can point and scan people to determine their sexuality, we’re left with only one option: hearing it from that person (or one of their friends).
My boyfriend wants to see me with another girl and he wants to join with us. Im not sure how to go about finding another girl. I want to be with another girl for him. I’ve always been curious about being with a girl.
Do you have a friend who knows a friend? That’s usually the safest way to go about it. I don’t really like the whole idea of “picking up a stranger in a bar” for a threesome.
Are there any girls that you’re acquainted with (not REAL friends) that you’re attracted to? Who stands out to you? You said you’re curious about being with another girl so what girl are you most attracted to? Someone will come along. Not gonna lie, it’s tricky when you’re not already in the same circle of friends, but you can make it happen.
It’s a matter of finding someone you like (both of you), someone you feel comfortable with, and then that person needs to have a certain mindset that would indicate that they’re open to it.
Oh, and drinking helps…a lot. 😉
Can you catch a cold sore from giving oral sex?
Okay, let’s start off by clarifying that cold sores are a form of Herpes Simplex – Oral Herpes (HSV-1).
When someone has an outbreak, which is when they have a cold sore or a fever blister (whatever you want to call it), that’s when HSV-1 is the most contagious. When the symptoms/blisters are present, when they’re actually on your mouth, that’s when you can easily give it to someone else. Sharing a cup, sharing a towel, and yes, oral sex. If you have an outbreak and you perform oral sex on someone, you are opening them to a high risk of infection.
Oral herpes is transmitted through direct contact between the contagious area and broken skin (a cut or break) and mucous membrane tissue (such as the mouth or genitals). Herpes can also be transmitted when there are no symptoms present. There are several days throughout the year when the virus reactivates yet causes no symptoms (called asymptomatic shedding, viral shedding, or asymptomatic reactivation).
So if you have an outbreak, refrain from kissing on the mouth and performing oral sex until the sore heals and the skin goes back to normal. However, a large majority of the adult population already has HSV-1 and it’s asymptomatic for many.
There’s also a reverse! By performing oral sex on someone who has genital herpes, it would be possible to contract oral herpes – but that’s rare. Most cases of genital herpes are caused by HSV-2, which rarely affects the mouth or face.
However, you will likely contract HSV-2, genital herpes, if you perform oral sex on someone who has it, especially if they have any open sores around that area. I don’t want to freak people out, but yes, you can contract genital herpes EVEN WHEN THERE ARE NO VISIBLE SORES.
So oral herpes is a very mild disease, there’s no cure, but the biggest issue is largely cosmetic. Genital herpes, with the HSV-2 virus, however, is more painful, and can be worse if you have a suppressed immune system. The sores are easily transferred to other parts of the body so you have to be particularly careful. Wash your hands immediately if you touch a sore.
Oral and genital herpes are manageable conditions so don’t panic. Yes, you should take all the precautions you can, but if you do contract the virus, it’s not the end of the world.
Talk to your doctor!
Not really a questionm just feeling lonely and wanting to share. I have a huge crush on my neighbour, whos also my classmate in graduate school and friends with my ex-almost-girlfriend. And I know shes up there right now with her girlfriend (yeah I get, it its… complex), she even asked me if I wanted to go grab a burger with the two of them, but I just had 0 interest in being 3rd wheel today, and in getting to know her GF. So I just go on tumblr and see all stuff you posted… sigh
Wait it out. Be her friend. Get closer to her. You never know what might happen in the future so don’t hide from her.
Obviously, you don’t want to hang with the gf too much because that’s just unnecessary, but make an effort to get alone time with her. Maybe the more time you spend together, your crush will start to dissipate. Or maybe something else will happen… Either way, you like her. So work on your friendship. If it’s meant to happen, it will. 🙂
And try not to get too down on yourself. It’s a sucky place to be in, but you’re not going to be there forever… I can promise you that.
In the meantime, imagination is a girl’s best friend! 😉 (A vibrator helps too…)
Sumptuous Daydreams 