Author: sumptuousdaydreams

Hey! I’m a teenage girl who wants to lose her virginity with her boyfriend. My family is strictly Catholic and believe in no sex before marriage. I’m atheist though and I’ve been dating this guy for almost eight months. He’s got condoms, but should I be on a pill or something? We’re both virgins and neither of us have any venereal diseases. My main concern is pregnancy. My parents will not tolerate any kind of sex, so no help there. It’s too long to explain but my doc can’t help me out. Advice?

Condoms are only about 80% effective. Accidents happen with condoms – they can break or slip off or something could wrong. So, ideally, you want to be on birth control AND use a condom to be as safe as you possibly can.

If your doctor isn’t someone you trust to keep your confidence then I suggest you google free clinics in your area (such as Planned Parenthood). They will be able to help you with all your questions about safe sex, testing, and birth control needs. And, no, they will not contact your parents. They are required by law to keep your records confidential.

Would you say its polite to give oral after you have received?

Personally, I would say that giving oral is always polite. It’s something that most people enjoy, and a really fun experience to share together.

Some people are not quite as into oral sex, but that’s something that can always be discussed with your partner. Communication, as always, is the key.

As a quick side note, some people are pretty expectant of receiving oral once they’ve given it, and while I’m not down with all that selfish behavior, I think it’s something to consider. If someone goes down on you, they’re probably going to want something in return. But, as far as it being polite, well, absolutely. Everyone loves an orgasm.

-teagan.

What are the chances of me and my girlfriend getting an STD if we both perform oral sex on each other, with no protection (we’re both girls)? We’re both virgins, and plan on not having sex with anyone else.

Slim to none.

So my boyfriend can’t get off unless he does it Like no matter how long we do it and he says it’s been that way forever, he has only came during sex twice. Is there anything I can even do?

First, it’s not you. It has nothing to do with you. Just so that’s clear…

I’ve discussed this issue before. I think the likely problem here is that he masturbates too roughly. He’s gotten too accustomed to the grip of his own hand, that entering something softer, like pussy, ends up not being enough for him. He’s basically ruining sex for himself that way. He’s trained his cock to work with his own hand and nothing else!

There’s nothing YOU can do in this situation because it’s a problem he’s created for himself. What he needs to do is masturbate less and when he does masturbate, he needs to lighten his grip (a lot!). By jerking off so aggressively, he’s desensitized himself. Now he needs to find a way train his cock so that it reacts easily to stimulation again instead of needing that fierce grip of his own hand. So, ask him to cut back on masturbating and to take it easier on himself when he does (sparingly). By doing both of those things, he’s using sensory deprivation for future pleasure and allowing his cock to regain its natural sensitivity.

Be sure to tell him that it’s going to seriously improve your sex life! Check out the masturbating tag where I talked about this issue before.

This isn’t really about sex but yeah…I’m 16, complete virgin(not even kissed or anything)and I’ve only ever been to a girls school, I’m doing a duologue with this guy a year older than me and we have to kiss and spoon and stuff, and I’m not sure like how to get comfortable with it and make it less awkward I kinda feel sorry that he’s stuck with me for this because I’m really not pretty or attractive and I wanna make him, we’ll not enjoy it, but not hate it Urg, sorry if that doesn’t make sense

Get to know him. If you’re not into him, then treat him like you would any friend. The friendlier you are and the more open you are, the easier any exchange between you will be – even kissing and spooning. It’s about establishing a level of trust. Just relax and talk to him about other things besides what your project is, that will help you feel more comfortable, more trusting, and more confident in anything you do with him.

I know you feel weird being around him when you haven’t had much experience and it’s a lot of pressure when two people are partnered together like that, just total strangers who have to work together, but he’s lucky to have gotten someone like you. You actually care about making it work. You want it to be good. You want to make sure things go well for you both. That’s the best thing anyone could ask for in a partner. It would be a thousand times worse if you didn’t give a shit how it looked and he would be forced to do all the work. Think about that!

I’m SURE it’s not nearly as awkward or terrible as you think it is. We all have a way of making things seem so much worse than they really are. Human beings have a TERRIBLE sense of self perception, we are just ridiculously obtuse about how we perceive ourselves as opposed to how others see us. You are pretty. You are attractive. Just be friendly and get to know him. Everything else will work out. Have faith in yourself. If you keep beating yourself up for all the things you think you’re not, THAT is what will make it awkward and uncomfortable. If you have to fake confidence for a while, that’s okay. By faking confidence, you actually give yourself a little bit of confidence in return. Odd, I know, but it works!

Is it possible to be emotionally a lesbian but sexually straight? I’ve never had an emotional connection to guys like I have with women. Although I’m more attracted to a girls body and would rather be intimate with them, I can’t seem to hit the big O when I have sex with a girl. I have to think about guys to orgasm.

Anything is possible?

Honestly, I think you’re gay. lol. You’re a lesbian. It’s okay! haha.

I don’t think you picture guys during sex because you want to have sex with guys. The image of men, the stigma attached, especially sex with men, represents a more aggressive and dominating type of sex. That might be what you’re missing in your sex life, what you need to be able to orgasm.

Maybe you want that kind of forcefulness that you envision comes with a “dominating male” and you’re not getting that from your partners. Maybe you want a strap on used on you more often if penetration is what you’re looking for. Maybe it’s not the physical acts, but just the energy you need; you’re looking for a more “masculine” energy from your partner during sex. Maybe you need the sex to be rougher and and ramp up the intensity level. Maybe you’re not choosing the right girls to be with…

That’s a lot of maybe’s, I know! haha. Sorry. I can’t give you a definitive answer because I don’t know your particular reasons. Only you know the answer. I just tried to give you a few ideas and hopefully that will spark something for you and help you put together the pieces yourself.

Don’t be afraid to go after what you want/need when it comes to sex. It all starts with finding the right partner. 🙂

And if you truly think that you want to have sex with a guy, then by all means, try it out! What better way to know for sure then to actually experience it? After you have sex with a guy, you won’t doubt yourself anymore. Maybe it’ll turn out that you like both men and women! Maybe it’ll just reaffirm that you’re a lesbian. Maybe it’ll show that you do indeed enjoy sex more with men than women. Who knows? If you feel that strongly about it, then the only way to know is to test it out for yourself.

hi :) i really love your blog, one of my favourites. Can you check mine and give some advice to make it better. Thanks^^

Thank you!

You should open up your ask box to anonymous messages if you want people to message you. In this forum, anonymity helps people feel safer about asking the real questions they need to ask.

Also, you should message other sex blogs and let them know that you just started a blog. If you don’t make gifs or take your own pictures, then you need other blogs to be aware of you so that they’ll follow and reblog. You’re not a new content blog, you’re a source blog (which is equally as good!). I follow a lot of source blogs because they’re concentrated on all the things I like from various different places. You get a lot of variety from source blogs without having to follow a bunch of different people. That’s your goal: variety. Not just the content of what you post, but all the places you get your posts from. So you should think of yourself as a hub for all the great pics/gifs out there. You need to find them and have them collected on your blog so that other people don’t need to go looking anywhere else but just to you! Make sense?

Keep reblogging what you like and talk to other sex/porn blogs! Good luck! 🙂

I have never fingered myself befor but i want to, but im to sceard my hole will be to small?

Okay, if it’s your first time you’re going to want to go slowly but I can assure you that you won’t have any problems with being too small — especially for your own fingers. 

The trick is to make sure that you’re aroused, so you can fully enjoy what you’re doing.  So, take your time. Watch some porn, lay in bed and tease yourself — your breasts, your clit, whatever works.  You don’t have to rush yourself along and just shove your fingers inside yourself.  That isn’t really pleasant for anyone.

So, once you’re feeling nice and relaxed and probably very wet from all the teasing you’ve been doing, then start fingering yourself.  You can start with one finger and go slowly, building up from there.  Just explore yourself a bit and really enjoy what you’re doing.  If you’re wet, you shouldn’t have any problems with putting your fingers inside of yourself.  (Hell, if you’re too nervous to get wet on your own, use some lube which you can buy from basically anywhere to help get you into the mood).

See what works for you, though.  One finger. Two fingers. Whatever.  Switch up the angles, or the speed, and see what really turns you on.  In no time, you should be able to find out what really turns you on and build on it from there.  There’s plenty of time to explore what feels good, and there is literally no right way to masturbate, so have fun with it!

-teagan.

So I’m straight–but recently I’ve really reallly been entertaining the thought of eating another girl out. I want to so badly! Any ideas on how one would initiate this?

Well, firstly, I’ve always thought sexuality is a fluid thing so even if you currently identify as straight, there’s nothing wrong with pursuing the same sex if you’re curious.  In fact, congrats on being open minded and wanting to see what else is out there in the world.

That being said, I would try to find someone that you have a bit of chemistry with.  Explain the situation and let them know that you’re curious, and looking to experiment a bit.  Be up front with them, if that’s all you’re looking for.  You don’t want to drag someone along and hurt their feelings because they think you’re looking for more than something physical.

I’m sure that you know some girls that might be into it already, hell, maybe some of your own “straight” friends are feeling the same way and you can help each other out.  I can say from experience that I’ve had more than a few sexual encounters with friends of mine who didn’t think they were into girls.  Just go with the flow and see where things take you.  There’s no real rush, and hopefully you’ll find someone that you click well with and you have a lot of fun.

Of course, I have to remind you that safe sex is the best sex and if you’re planning on going out and picking up a random instead of someone you’re associated with, then make sure that you’re safe.  Simple things like if you use sex toys, use condoms with them to keep everyone involved healthy and happy.

-teagan.