Author: sumptuousdaydreams

I’ve hooked up a guy I like about five times,we’ve been talking for about a month. I enjoy our time together when we are intimate but sometimes I find I get a little bored. He doesn’t seem to have the same reaction just by how he acts during. It feels too repetitive even though we haven’t been hooking up for that long. Any tips? I’ve given him head multiple times but he won’t go down on me. I asked and he said he doesn’t do that. Any tips to get to him to be more open to it? Thanks!

If you’re bored, end it. I could give you a ton of sex tips, but honestly, you shouldn’t have to try that hard in the beginning (ESPECIALLY in the beginning!).

If it’s not there for you, it’s just not there. There’s nothing wrong with that. And if you give him head, but he won’t reciprocate…what the fuck are you even bothering with him for? He doesn’t do that? Tell him to go fuck himself then because you’re not going to anymore. A guy who’s not willing to reciprocate, needs to get the fuck over himself, and he’s certainly not worth your time. He’s already a shitty lay!

Cut your losses now and go find someone else. There are plenty of other guys out there that are going to have more sexual chemistry with you AND they will be more than delighted to go down on you. 🙂

So I have been daiting my boyfriend for well over 6 months and I want to have sex with him (I’m a very sexual person) but he’s a virgin. Would it be weird if I took control of him and showed him how to do certain things??

Not at all! If he’s ready to have sex, by all means, take the reins. He’ll be grateful to you for it! If he’s not ready, then that’s another story, and you need to take it slow. Wait until he says or shows that he’s ready to take the next step. Don’t push.

But if you both agree that you’re ready to have sex, then go ahead! If you show him what to do, he’ll feel a lot more at ease and more confident.

my girlfriend wants me to have sex with her, but we’re both under 16 and im terrified of sex lmao. ive made it clear i wont do it, and i know she wouldnt rape me, but she keeps pushing me. help?

Okay, well, one: why are you terrified of sex?

Two: Tell your girlfriend, with all honesty – no jokes, no room for misinterpretation – that you are NOT READY. Tell her that you need her to respect that and then draw a line. Tell her what you feel comfortable doing and where the line is for what you’re not ready to do. (Ie. Anything below the waist.)

If she doesn’t respect that, then you have a much bigger problem than a horny girlfriend and you might want to consider breaking up with her. Don’t ever let someone push you into doing something you don’t feel comfortable with. They don’t have that right. Girl or boy, it doesn’t matter.

You are both way too young. So tell her to slow down, that YOU need her to slow down, and see what happens. Sex will be there when you’re ready for it. There’s no rush. Seriously, it’s not a race! There’s no house on fire! If she’s horny, she can handle it herself. She’s not going to die if she doesn’t have sex.

Just make your boundaries clear and if she keeps pushing them, then you need to push back and show her just how serious you are. This isn’t a joke, this isn’t something she can seduce you into doing. Tell her to stop when she goes too far and if she doesn’t, end it with her. Because no one ever gets to do that to you. They’re not respecting your wishes and they’re not respecting YOU. No healthy relationship can work that way. It’s a fundamental issue of respect. If she shows none for you, then how can you be with her? Just draw the line.

Okay so i’m 16 and a complete virgin and i’m dating a 19 year old whose very experienced. I was recently fingered for the first time by him and it felt amazing. Now he wants to go down on me really badly and I want to do it too, but my friend said that’s going too fast for someone like me who hasn’t done really much with guys and i don’t masturbate. But i was fine and loved it when he fingered me, am I allowed to let him go down on me?

The biggest problem you’re having right here is the fact that you’re letting your friend dictate what you’re “allowed” to do. That’s ridiculous. It’s their opinion, but you don’t have to agree with it. You do what feels right for YOU.

If you feel comfortable and you want to progress with your relationship, then that’s YOUR right! No one gets to tell you what you are or are not ready for. Are you young? Yes. But honestly, you’re not TOO young. If this is really what you want, not something you feel pressured into, then it’s okay. You’re exploring, experimenting, etc. Just don’t rush into anything. That’s all. And don’t do anything that makes you feel like you’re getting ahead of yourself. You have all the time in the world so don’t go running into the fray when you can just ease yourself into it. It doesn’t have to be a frantic, jumbled, rush. Take your time.

I do think it’s a good idea that you try masturbating! It will help you get to know your body instead of relying on your boyfriend to figure it out for you. Trust me when I say that will NOT go as planned. The more you know about what you like, the more you can help him, the better EVERYTHING will be.

Of course you’re allowed to let him go down on you if you want it! It’s YOUR body! YOUR relationship! People can weigh in with their opinions, but it’s always up to you in the end. If you want it, go for it! Don’t let anyone make you feel like you’re wrong for wanting sex. There are no rules when it comes to being ready, it’s differerent for everyone. Some people are ready earlier in life, others feel better waiting.

There’s always one person that likes to take the plunge into a cold pool, all at once, and then there’s the other person that likes to slowly climb down the ladder into the water, inch by inch. Neither of them are wrong. It’s just a personal preference and what they feel comfortable in doing.

What’s the best position to eat a girl out

Ones where the girl feels the most comfortable. The more comfortable, confident, relaxed she is, the better it will feel. So all those crazy standing positions, or like hanging onto a rope while being eaten out in midair, are just overrated. They can be fun, but they’re not the most conducive for the BEST of the BEST.

Try having her on her back with pillows under her ass and her legs draped over your shoulders.The higher she is, the more you can reach and the angle is better. But if her back is arching too much, that can be uncomfortable. So watch out for that.

Also try it sideways. Both of you on your sides, your head between her legs, and go to town. There’s a lot of access that way, it’s really comfortable, and it’s different than the norm so it feels great. You can have fun doing a 69 that way too, instead of being on top of each other, try just being side by side.

I want to say thank you for your response to my dilemma post. You definitely provided me solid points for me to reflect on this issue. With those points taken, I think it goes beyond that. I believe gender is an illusion created in order to label and systemize our world, similarly to labeling containers of clothes for each season, etc. thus making it easier for us to make inferences because of our narrow-minded, religiously based institution, we are taught a dichotomized view of gender identity.

You probably already know this; so there’s a beautiful spectrum of gender identity/roles. I fall in btwn somewhere along the spectrum. And I guess why I’m drawn to lesbians is because of their beautiful bond towards each other; this bond of sensuality and feminine spirit, that depth of connection they feel. Maybe I’m a girl who finds an affinity to the feminine spirit but am trapped in a physical male body. Anyways, thanks for reading and for any future responses. Keep rocking on with this blog! 🙂

If you’re saying that you identify as a male lesbian, I’m sorry to say that particular topic is woefully out of my spectrum of experience so I really can’t be of any assistance to you there.

Thanks for reading and hope you continue to enjoy the blog!

Thank you for responding straight-to-the-point with the “I’m a guy who likes lesbians” post. As a lesbian, I was getting ready to cringe with some sort of “Everybody’s different and you’re fine the way you are” answer. I find the /idea/ of 2 guys together sexy, but I understand the boundaries. Guys saying, “You’re a lesbian, so I want to sleep you” makes me so uncomfortable. You don’t need to reply to this. Thanks xoxo