Author: sumptuousdaydreams

Is it possible (as a girl) to get cut if you shave with an electric razor? Also can you recommend a good razor?

There’s always a chance of getting nicked if you use a razor. If you use an electric one, make sure it’s one specifically desigened for removing pubic hair.

I don’t shave, I wax. But for a regular razor I always use Venus Embrace (the green one).

So, I am a virgin. And I was talking to my mom and her friends about oral sex and I mentioned that you should always use protection if you are unsure 100% if they are clean… And well they all laughed at me and told me no one does that. So, my question is if I suggest oral protection while in the moment, will I be laughed out of bed? Should I go with what I am comfortable or give that up cause apparently NO ONE uses condoms or dental dams in ‘real life’? Am I being too concerned about this?

It’s true that most people don’t practice safe sex when it comes to oral. They take a risk. That’s their right. It’s also true that most people don’t understand how much of a risk they’re taking.

You’re being smart about it. And while many DON’T use protection, there are also some that do. So you’re not alone, just in the minority (unfortunately). It’s reasons like this that we still have such a constant problem with the spread of STD’s. People aren’t protecting themselves enough. If you want to use a condom during a BJ (get a flavored one) then good for you! If you want someone to use a dental dam when going down on you, that’s great too. But you will meet resistance and people will try to talk you out of it because it’s “not as fun” and “doesn’t feel as good”. Ultimately, people don’t want to be bothered with it.

As always, protection is your right and your choice, but be prepared to face people ready to talk you out of it. Especially when it comes to oral sex because too many people are under the impression that if you can’t get pregnant from it, there’s no risk.

That’s ignorant as hell.

Because I am so busy with work and college. :( sorry for loading this on u. I’ve actually just become a little comfortable with looking at naked people :(.. I’m kinda sheltered (2)

Enjoy the naked people! Take what you can get while you’re busy, but don’t let it stop you from actually getting out there in the real world sometime! 🙂

Hi so I’m 16, and I’m in a very good relationship. We have talked about sex, we both want it so bad. He’s not a virgin, but I am. And now We’re both in a situation where it’s very hard to see each other. So he got me a vibrator.. And I used it for the first time the other day, and when I pulled it out, there was blood on it. I’m scared now. What does this mean??

You likely tore your hymen. Nothing to worry about. Absolutely normal. If the bleeding continues or is heavy, then that would be a time to see a doctor. But from what you described, you’re fine. Everything going just as it should! 🙂

hey im the girl whos under 16 with an extremely horny girlfriend. to answer your question, im scared of sex because i have been molested, which she knows of. im not basing my fear of it off of that, but i dont like people touching me a lot, which she said she was fine with. plus i cant even get like.. a tampon in no matter what angle i aim it or position im in soooo.. and plus im young so ugh

I’m so sorry for what happened to you. I won’t presume to understand what you went through and how it affects you still, but I can see that it would affect your perception of sex and everything involved with it. It changes it – all of it.

Perhaps what you need now is to work on finding a way to change it again. Change it for the better and take back what was tainted for you so unfairly.

I think this might be a case of miscommunication. You’re coming from a very different place than your girlfriend, a very different view of everything. Because of what you went through, you’re highly sensitive to things that other people, who haven’t been through what you have, are not. Subtle touches, average physical contact, those things are different for you. So it’s possible that your girlfriend might think she’s being restrained, but it’s still too much for you. What she believes is holding back, is not what you see holding back as. Do you know what I mean?

I don’t know what your girlfriend is thinking or where she is with all of this. The best advice I can give you is to have a flat out, brutally honest, conversation with her, explaining that you feel she’s pressuring you and how uncomfortable it makes you. You’re not ready, and that’s more than okay. So find a way to communicate that to her. You’re not ready now, but it doesn’t mean you won’t ever be. You’re not ready for all of it, but maybe you’re ready for some of it. Find out what that is. Talk about it. Talk constantly. Always check in with each other. She’s feeling frustrated, you’re feeling pressured, so now you have to find a compromise.

I’m sure that if you explain to her that what she’s been doing has been too much for you, she’d feel terrible about it and pull back. Maybe you’ve been putting off having that direct of a conversation with her because you’re embarrassed or you don’t want to hurt her feelings or maybe it’s because you want to be able to give her what she’s asking for and you’re upset with yourself for not being able to. I don’t know. Only you know.

You have to figure this out for yourself and set the pace for yourself, then tell her what that is. Work with her. Don’t shut her out and don’t let her push you to places you’re uncomfortable with because you don’t want to be “weird” or make her feel guilty. This kind of situation requires an enormous amount of trust and a great deal of constant communication. It’s not easy, but it will get easier with time.

Don’t let this stop you from continuing to move forward with exploring your sexuality and your sexual needs, Just do it at your own pace and take it slooooooooow. You guys are so young. There’s nothing wrong with backing off and just taking baby steps. Think of it this way, you should try mastering each step before moving on to the next. Get your PhD in making out. Get your masters in petting and groping. Find out everything there is to know about each other – not just sex. You’re babies. Just keep your hands on yourselves instead of each other for a while. 😉

All in good time.